Weddings and funerals, weddings and funerals, weddings and funerals are very popular among Qidong people. Although there was a short vacuum in traditional customs after ten years of catastrophe, the traditional customs that had been interrupted for many years began to be active again in people's field of vision in the 1980s. There are roughly three kinds of happy events: eating wedding banquet (marriage), eating noodles (birthday) and eating postpartum soup (full moon wine). The phrase "Please eat the banquet and endure the noodles" refers to the etiquette followed by the first two happy events. The management process of these three types of happy events is complicated and tedious, especially Qidong people pay attention to the "oral color" in the middle of happy events. The so-called "oral color" means that the right words can be auspicious. Especially when holding a wedding, the host and guests must keep in mind some terms, such as "seeing red" for those who light a fire. Yes, of the three, the wedding is the most exquisite. Weddings can generally be divided into early marriage and late marriage. The main difference between the two is the different duration. Generally speaking, the wedding in the evening is carried out according to the following steps: waiting for the matchmaker-sitting in a sedan chair to greet the bride-giving a banquet-offering sacrifices to the ancestors-returning to the door. Generally speaking, weddings are more grand, and early marriage is more popular with families with limited economic conditions. White things are also funerals, and holding them is even more cumbersome. Basically, it is carried out in the order of burial-funeral service-sending the west-hot hemp-seeing relatives-sweeping the streets-seven calculations. Qidong people not only held a series of Buddhist and Taoist ceremonies, but also continued some ancient customs when organizing funerals. For example, the children of the deceased need to cut off their hair after death, which obviously left the mark of Manchu. For another example, the ancient ceremony in the pre-Qin period required the mourning hall of the deceased to be continuous. In Qidong people's eyes, relatives and friends must cry and talk to mourn the dead, otherwise the descendants of the family will be dumb. It is true that there are many details that need to be paid attention to regardless of the wedding, funeral and wedding. However, an in-depth analysis of these complicated customs is nothing more than the reproduction of feudal filial piety etiquette.