Hani men and women generally start to change clothes at the age of fifteen or sixteen, indicating that they have grown up, and then enter the stage of love and marriage. Hani young men and women, pre-marital social activities Yes, there are also places for young men and women to have entertainment and exchange activities in the village. It's called &; uot； Male ".

Hani people used to follow the custom of "robbing marriage" left over from ancient times. There are two ways to rob a marriage: one is that after the relatives of the man meet the girl, they organize a group of young men to steal the girl back, presided over by the parents or relatives of the man, so that they can get married without making an appointment with the media.

In another case, marriage robbery is carried out on the basis of love. Both sides love each other, and they tell their parents their wishes. The man has prepared gifts and invited the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's house many times, but the woman's parents tried their best to prevent her daughter from getting married. In order to oppose the bondage of the elders to the wedding smoke, the children conspired to plan a comedy of "robbing marriage".

On the day of "robbing marriage", the man invited several intimate friends to ambush in a pre-selected place. The woman carries water according to an appointment or an excuse, or goes up the mountain to cut firewood under an excuse, or works in the fields to get rid of her parents' control and come to the designated place for her beloved to "grab". When the girl appeared at the designated place, the boys swarmed and dragged her to the man's house. Although the girl who was robbed was full of joy, she had to pretend to struggle and cry hard to let the people in the stockade know that she had been robbed. When the woman's parents heard the cry for help, although they knew what was going on in their hearts, they pretended to chase after them with sticks. After the girl was robbed, she was sent to the man's relatives and friends for a day or two. Later, the man's parents once again asked the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's house, and publicly told the woman's parents that the girl had been "robbed" to the man's house. When the woman's parents saw what had been done, they had to agree to the marriage.

Love: Hani men and women generally start to change clothes at the age of 15 or 16, indicating that they have grown up and then enter the stage of love and marriage. Hani young men and women, pre-marital social activities Yes, there are also places for young men and women to have entertainment and exchange activities in the village. It's called Gong.

& ltP class=pra>。 Girls and boys can enjoy several kilometers of games and love. Sometimes they play thousands of meters away, sometimes they haunt the mountains, sometimes they dance on the grass, sometimes they talk to each other, sometimes they whisper to each other, sometimes they go out in pairs ... once they fall in love, they can get married for life. Once young men and women get married, they can't go to work or participate in similar communication activities. If divorced, they will enjoy the same rights as unmarried young people and can continue to engage in social activities between men and women in public or other occasions. In some places, Hani unmarried young men and women have also set up their own social activities to coordinate love disputes and love relationships between young men and women in different villages.

Marriage custom: Hani people living in Mojiang area, the groom is accompanied by cousins and peers to greet the bride. When you arrive at the bride's house, you must see your in-laws and get their consent before you can marry the bride. The bride cried when she left home, which is the custom of crying for marriage. The bride wants to marry three days before her wedding, which shows that the deeper her feelings for her parents and family are. Accompanied by younger siblings and relatives and friends, the bride cried all the way to the entrance of the groom's village before sending a letter to bid farewell, while the team carrying the dowry was sent to the man's house. Dowry usually includes cabinets, clothes, bedding, farm tools, etc. And glutinous rice and piles of glutinous rice Baba dyed red, yellow and white. In the dowry, there must be a hemp fiber given to the bride by my uncle, a basket, a bracelet and a strap given to the bride by my brother. These things should be seen clearly along the road to show their wealth and splendor. The sound of suona continued all the way, and firecrackers were set off every time I went to the village. No matter what the weather is like, the bride should take a flower umbrella.

In Honghe area, the man will invite a couple of parents and children to marry the bride at noon. The bride's family treats the married people, relatives and friends, the elders and hands in the village warmly. At the wedding, the guests attending the wedding should hand over three small shells in public as proof of marriage. At this time, the hand began to sing the old, solemn and resentful Hani (seeing the bride off) in the voice. Accompanied by her companion, the well-dressed bride left her family, holding a bamboo basket with clothes or a handkerchief in her hand and crying sadly. After leaving the bride's house, the bridesmaids will be whipped by the girls and boys in the village. Only allowed to fight, not allowed to fight back, until the village. At this time, the bride has been waiting halfway with a young man. When she saw the bride coming, she immediately lit three scattered flames and discharged them in the left, middle and right directions of the road. At the same time, insert a golden bamboo on the left and right sides of the road, and tie a white silk strip between the two golden bamboos on the road. When the bride comes over, crosses the torch and breaks the white line, it means that she officially becomes a member of her husband's family, and the groom can marry the bride home.

Hani people in Xishuangbanna Dai Autonomous Prefecture welcome their relatives by getting married: the man's family sends a matchmaker, brother or cousin to the woman's house to bring back the bride. The groom went to the woman's house, but the bride was hidden by her companion. The married couple racked their brains to discuss countermeasures, kept consulting with the woman's family and tried their best to find the bride. By all means, through layers of checkpoints, the bride finally found the bride. After many twists and turns, the woman's family agreed to take the bride away. On the way back to the man's house, all married people should sing loudly to celebrate the bride.

& ltP class=pra>。 After the Hani people in Mojiang marry the bride, they should ask the wizard to bless the bride and groom and exorcise ghosts. After the ceremony, the bride can enter the man's house. When entering the door, the groom stands high on the door and lets the bride pass under it, indicating that women should listen to men; When crossing the threshold, the bride should put her right foot in front and her left foot behind, so that her children and grandchildren can have enough to eat and prosper in the future. After the bride enters the room, she must first kowtow to the kitchen god and the ancestor god with a pig's head. The first meal should be accompanied by the bride's mother-in-law, and no one else can attend. Around the Red River, when the bride arrives at her husband's house, she kowtows to the ancestral hall first, then bows to the elders at the wedding reception, and then eats a bowl of rice delivered by the groom himself, indicating that she will never change her mind. In Xishuangbanna, before entering the village, the mother-in-law should dress the bride in a white dress at the entrance of the village. At the door of Party A's house, the married sister of the man cut three hairs and washed the hands and feet of the bride before entering the door. At the wedding reception, the bride and groom should eat the right front legs of the rooster and the pig first, and then propose a toast to the guests one by one. At this time, the old man who can sing Hani tune wishes the bride to have a daughter at the first birth and a son at the second birth, and encourages the husband and wife to live in harmony and grow old together. At the end of the wedding, the older unmarried people in the village were forced to eat pig tails.

In Mojiang and Honghe areas, the bride and groom are forbidden to be together on their wedding night. It is said that it will lead to short-term love. The best man who accompanied the bride off talked in the cave, or made trouble in the cave, or invited the bride and groom to perform a program. On this night, the bride and groom will distribute eggs, brown sugar, candy and cigarettes to the guests to show their happiness. Guests, regardless of gender and age, should participate in singing and dancing, enjoy themselves and stay up all night. When the bride arrives at the man's house, she needs a certain ceremony to show that she has become a full member of the man's house and village. For the Hani people in Xishuangbanna Dai Autonomous Prefecture, the bride will take part in the ceremony of chopping wood and burning fire on the second day of the wedding. In Mojiang and other places, the bride will go to the river or the gutter to fetch water when the cock crows the next day, and cook with the water she has picked. The newlyweds also plant a melon in the field, which symbolizes the future happiness and prosperity of their children. Around the Red River and Yuanjiang River, on the second day, when the bride crows and carries water everywhere, she will sprinkle a handful of rice into the well or river, indicating that she has become a person who drinks this well and river.

& ltP class=pra>。 After the wedding, you usually go back to the door. Bypassing the Red River, the bride went back to the house with the people who saw her off the next day, brought back glutinous rice Baba and other food for her family, neighbors, relatives and friends to taste, and then returned to her husband's house in the afternoon. In Mojiang and other areas, the bride returns to her hometown on the second day of marriage and stays with her parents for a long time. Only when her husband calls when the farm is busy can she stay with her husband's family for a few days and live with her husband's family after giving birth to her first child. In Xishuangbanna, less than three months after their marriage, the bride came to her house accompanied by her father-in-law and uncle to bring gifts to her family. When she came back, her family also gave her presents. The Hani nationality still retains the custom of the man visiting the woman's house. This kind of door-to-door wedding is relatively simple: an elderly person acts as a matchmaker and brings a bottle of wine to the woman's house at dusk on the selected day. The man carried a hat and quilt with him, and the woman killed a chicken to entertain the matchmaker for a meal, and the wedding was completed.

When young Hani men and women get married and give birth to their first child, they usually have to live apart from their parents. But many families are harmonious, but there are also many big families with harmonious family relations and three or four generations living under one roof. In the Hani family relationship, the elders are respected, and the younger generation respects and listens to the elders. In the family, the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious and there are few divorces. If you divorce, you need a simple ceremony; Hosted by the middleman, the man cut off a piece of wood, cut three small mouths on each side, then broke the wood in half and took a piece as a voucher. Some places want to eat the last divorce meal, and put a piece of wood in the middle of the table when eating, indicating that they will sever their relationship from now on.

Festival: The Hani people start a year in October, so the first Dragon Day in October of the lunar calendar will be celebrated in October. During the festival, every family kills pigs, chickens, rice cakes, etc., offering sacrifices to heaven and earth and ancestors. February Festival is another grand festival of Hani people. Generally, it is a section of 1 year and a section of 12 years. It starts on the first dragon day in February every year and lasts for 3 days. During the festival, the village collectively killed pigs to worship Longlin, Door God and Well God. At the same time, all the men, women and children in the village happily beat the women's street and the front and back of the house, washed the pool with pottery, cleaned the house and changed clothes, and were called by the leaders of Zongdu to hold a long street banquet. During the festival, wooden knives and sticks coated with dog blood should be hung at the entrance of the village to show that outsiders are not allowed to enter the village. Casual intruders or guests in the village must wait until the end of the sacrificial activities before leaving the village. In addition, the first day of the sixth lunar month is the Year of the Tiger, and the Hani people celebrate the "June Festival". The first day of the seventh lunar month is a tiger day ceremony, and outsiders and women can't participate; Dragon Day and Dog Day from August to September in the lunar calendar are the "New Rice Festival" of the Hani people. The new rice in the New Rice Festival must be sacrificed to ancestors first, and then fed to dogs before the whole family can begin to enjoy it.

Etiquette taboo: Hani people generally have a big room in the middle as a hall. In Banna area, there is a parents' bedroom to the east of the hall. There is a place to worship ancestors in the bedroom, and outsiders are not allowed to enter without authorization. The fire pit is the core of the Hani nationality. Remember not to step on the pot stone or tripod in the fire pit, not to spit in the fire pit, not to scrape the firewood in the fire pit with your feet, and not to cross the fire pit. The threshold of Hani nationality is forbidden to stand, sit or cut with a knife. Unmarried young women and widows are forbidden to have children in the village.

Hani people are hospitable, and guests come to their home as guests. The host always puts the tobacco into the cigarette holder and then gives the cigarette holder to the guests. Non-smoking guests should be politely refused.

You should give up your seat when you see an old man come in. Give cigarettes, wine and tea to the elderly with both hands and bow as a gift. Hold the lower end of the pipe when handing it to the old man. Don't cross your legs, whistle or talk in front of the old people. You can't walk in front of the old man, but you should bypass him. When you kill a chicken, you should present the chicken head and liver to the elderly. Of course, when there are guests at home, in order to show respect for the guests, the host often gives them the head of a chicken. At this time, guests should hold the head of the chicken in both hands and then pay tribute to the old people or elders present. When attending a Hani sacrificial banquet or visiting a Hani family for dinner, wait for the old man to say a few words of blessing, and then move chopsticks after the old man eats the first bite. When drinking with Hani friends at the same table, we should pay attention to the order of toasting: first, start with the oldest person, pour one by one counterclockwise, and finally pour more in the oldest person's cup to show that everyone is round and round. Every round of pouring should be like this, even if it is a symbolic pouring of a few drops.

After giving birth, Hani women are afraid that outsiders will enter the parturient's home, so they have to hang portraits cut with red thorns, wild ginger and bamboo leaves and sawed wooden knives on their doors. Seeing this, outsiders can't enter the maternal home. If you break in because you don't know, the host will take the baby out and hand it to the first guest's arms in turn. At this time, guests should gently hug the baby and then leave some money to congratulate the child. If the child is sick, thin and slow to develop after birth, parents will change the name of the child. The renaming ceremony can be held at home or beside the stream bridge. First, symbolically build a bridge, a road, kill a red rooster, and wait for the first passerby to come and name the child. It is said that it is a mutual blessing to meet the Hani nationality and let you name your child. You should take the child away, give him a lucky name, be a child's michel platini and godmother, marry the child's parents and leave some money as a souvenir. It is also a happy event to have a godson and a goddaughter in Hani area. We should try our best to keep up with children and their parents in the future.

The Hani people regard uncle as the biggest, and think that "uncle is not big, nephew is not long". Recognizing uncle is a custom that every newborn must fulfill. On the day I recognized my uncle, I got up early in the morning, and my mother washed my baby's face, put on new clothes, lit a pot of cigarettes on her forehead, and tied a garlic and a red thorn on her hat to ward off evil spirits. Then, carrying the baby on his back, he went to his uncle's house with a handkerchief full of fried soybeans, boiled eggs and glutinous rice on his shoulder, a white umbrella and a saw sickle. When I meet people on the road, regardless of nationality or gender, my mother will grab a handful of delicious fried soybeans with a smile on her face. If you encounter such a situation when traveling in Hani area, you'd better not refuse, but take fried soybeans and say a few words of blessing.