It is another scene for Hakkas to get married in tears. The so-called "tearful wedding song, one complaint and three sighs break people's intestines." It is a vivid description of Hakka people crying and getting married. The peculiar scenery of Hakka marriage customs-crying to marry a man and marrying a woman, is a great happy event in life. From falling in love to getting married, it brings infinite happiness and pleasure to both men and women. Whether men or women, nature is also a great event. However, every time a girl in Hakka area leaves home, she cries and her voice is sad, which is totally unlike acting. Hakka people in Ganxian county have always attached importance to "crying marriage". As the saying goes, "If a girl doesn't cry, there will be no happiness at home". Therefore, the crying marriage of Hakkas has always been grand. In the past, I usually started crying two or three nights before I got married. The soon-to-be-married woman gathered a group of sisters who are usually good friends in the private house or boudoir, and cried while doing needlework (taking shoes, insoles, knitting sweaters and other dowry). Old customs and traditions are well preserved. There are not only special wedding songs, but also many crying procedures. Generally speaking, at the beginning, the girl cried weakly and didn't sing the words of crying for marriage. She just lamented the hardships of life or blamed the matchmaker. At this time, the girl's mother or sister sang, such as: "red silk thread, lock toes, every adopted daughter picks a pig's head, and the pig's head is happy when it enters the room, and the firecrackers are sad." ..... "At this time, the bride's aunt, sister-in-law, aunt, aunt, etc., all the female guests of five relatives and six relatives came to cry and advised them to cry. The content of the bride's crying wedding is mainly divided into three parts: at first, it pours out the feelings of sisters' parting: "Sitting on a stool in March, picking a flower box in April, and picking a flower embroidered box is not full, beating the sisters to pieces." Then there was the feeling of crying for the separation of mother and daughter: "There is a furnace incense in the hall. I worship my grandfather first, then my mother, and then my mother sleeps in a wet bed. " Finally, I thanked the guests and the sisters and villagers for coming to see her off. When I was crying to get married, my mother came to cry with me and advised me to cry, but how could my mother endure the pain of parting? After three or two sentences, she advised me to be sad, and my mother naturally became the protagonist, holding her daughter and crying. Mother and daughter break up, the most bitter thing is to hate the sky. The voices of blood and tears such as resentment and longing are extremely rich in content. They are crying about their love for their daughters, telling about the difficulty of raising their daughters, such as: girl, pregnant in October, raising you, breastfeeding you for two years, hard rice to make you full and washing diapers. Girl girl, you know how tired your mother is! Hunger and cold make mother feel worried, and headache and brain fever make mother feel afraid. Look, you have a worm, how can it be a person! Girl, girl, I'll take you to three or five years old, with delicate skin and pink face. I can scream (cry), laugh and recruit people. I won't leave you in front of you. Ten years in a private school, I taught you needlework. When I saw a woman's branches, my parents were happy. I knew that bringing up my daughter would become another family! Take you to 16 and 17, and you will know (a little) that shit stinks. If I knew how to help in the field under the house, my parents would feel sorry for their suffering and nobody cared! I don't know, wow, my daughter is getting married, and my parents are reluctant to give it away! Some people advise their daughters to take good care of themselves in their in-laws' homes, such as: women, women, in-laws are not better than their parents' homes, in-laws have no parents, and it is difficult for their daughters to be a man, so they should always be careful everywhere. Female, from now on, it is my duty to be filial to my parents-in-law, to serve my husband virtuous, to look after the house in the field, to wash and cook carefully, and to be inferior. Only after I was born for three years and two years, will I count myself as a husband's family, be satisfied from top to bottom, and be cautious. Female, from now on, you are responsible for hunger and cold, and you are responsible for illness and pain. Lao Tzu, a social official (social official and land god), will rely on his own health, and the most difficult thing in the world is to ask for help! Some people scold the matchmaker and dislike the matchmaker's love for money. For example, first, they have to complain that the matchmaker has no credit and the rhetoric is unreasonable, which leads to the woman marrying the wrong person. The matchmaker is a caterpillar. Second, it's my parents' fault for not having their own opinions, letting the matchmaker push people around and push my woman into the fire pit. My parents think they are cruel. Third, we should complain that God is unsympathetic and women are unlucky, so they make a pair of bad karma mandarin ducks. How can such a life succeed? It's quite bitter to think about it! Some people are worried about their own future and destiny, and their parents can't be taken care of after marriage, for example: first, avoid (worrying), avoid marrying far away, it's hard to see their parents for three to five years, and they are afraid to mention it, and they are sick and miserable, making my woman an unfilial person. (Only when I come) I hope my parents will always be healthy, and women can rest assured when they are outside! Second, we must avoid it, and we must avoid women taking advantage of others. We still have a long way to go. We have no relatives, no dependence, no pity, and our married daughter is miserable! Third, we should avoid it. If we marry a husband, we will live up to our expectations. If we are honest, we will not be able to make money. If we are stupid, we will doubt others. We will regret ourselves and that we have not been blessed in life. This mother-daughter cry reflects the extremes of human nature, with a sad atmosphere, which is really touching. It's really "a tearful wedding song, one rhyme and three sighs break people's intestines." It is a rare Hakka folk painting. When the girl cried, all her relatives and neighbors also advised her while crying, some of them cried weakly, and some advised her to speak loudly. They sobbed and kept wiping their tears with their hands. The inseparable family ties moved people, and all the people present were in tears. At this time, there is also a rule that all female relatives (friends) who cry with them should give their daughters a "waist-girding ceremony", which is also called "cushion pocket". When crying for marriage, the girl hangs a red Chinese-style chest covering around her neck, and relatives and friends all add money to it while persuading her to cry (in the old society, it was mostly lace-that is, Yang Guang). Express comfort and affection, wish your daughter good health and walk upright. As a custom, crying marriage is related to the old marriage custom and feudal ethics. Girls who don't cry when they get married are not only considered unlucky, but also condemned by public opinion. Another important factor is the role of emotions. In the old days, marriage was entirely decided by parents, who to marry, and what the fate and life were like after marriage. I know nothing in my heart. It really hurts to think about this, and I can't help crying. The water spilled by a married woman is difficult to see her parents and brothers unless she is not harmonious with her husband or her marriage changes. The separation was really unbearable, so she kept crying. Nowadays, marriage is free and newlyweds are extremely happy. Hakka newcomers have already changed crying into singing. The custom of crying marriage still exists only in some remote mountainous areas. Text/Jiangxi Ganxian/Ye Lin hope to help you, I wish you good luck!