Some people say: home is just a word, but it is the warmest destination in ordinary love, secular affairs, the noise of the world, and after all the troubles.

Have you ever met anyone who is kind to outsiders and has a bad attitude towards family?

If so, menstruation reminds you to stay away from such people.

I read a passage from teacher Zhang Defen:

(1) Bad emotions are always left to family members and stay away from them.

I remember one time I went to see a classmate's mother, and we sat down to chat. After a while, his son came back and smelled bad when he entered the door.

My classmate's mother is full of pride every time she talks about her son. Her son joined the party in high school, when he was a top three student in the province. On the day he won the honor, the school sent her son home with gongs and drums, which made her and her son earn enough face.

My son became a lawyer after graduating from college. In the eyes of outsiders, his career is booming and his mother has earned enough face.

But my son's marriage is not happy. He has been quarreling every day since his wedding day. Their husband and wife divorced when their grandson was very young. Mother followed her son for his grandson and helped him take care of his grandson.

Although mother is busy and washes every day, he never gives her a good look when she comes back, or even sits down and says a word to her.

My mother understands that "my son is very tired and hard at work." He talks too much at work. If you don't talk at home, you won't talk. "

He is not good to his mother, but good to his brothers and sisters? Only when he needs help from his brothers and sisters will he have a phone call to put in a good word, and he will not give his brothers and sisters a good face on weekdays.

He used all the positive energy on outsiders. When he goes home to face his relatives, parents and brothers and sisters, he has only negative energy and can only show his negativity and impatience to his family.

People who always leave bad feelings for their families should stay away.

(2) Bad feelings are always left to your close lover, stay away from it.

In the TV series I Really Love You, Youya is a woman who likes children very much. She gave birth to a son and a child. The second child seems to be a daughter, and she is going to have three children.

You Ya stopped working after having children, stayed at home to teach children, and felt that she was still so happy after having children.

You Ya was immersed in the happiness of having a second child, but her husband's company was going bankrupt, and she refused to have a second child. She even secretly bought abortion pills ... she came back in a bad mood and absent-minded every day.

Her husband's intention was not to worry You Ya, but all his bad feelings and unhappiness were written on his face, which eventually led to You Ya's miscarriage and the marriage came to an end.

When you achieve financial freedom, you can live well without the other party, and you will gain the respect of the other party.

More importantly, if you become strong, know how to be kind to yourself and love yourself, you won't need the appreciation, recognition or even love of the other person, and you will naturally gain respect.

People who always leave bad feelings to their close lovers should stay away.

(3) People who leave the worst attitude to their parents should stay away.

At a dinner party, a colleague's parents just came from their hometown and invited them to have dinner together.

Colleagues of all ages are leaders, and everyone respects him at the dinner table. Naturally, he respects his parents even more.

After a colleague ordered a table of dishes, his father looked at him and said softly, probably his old mother had bad teeth. He immediately snapped at his father, "If you don't want to come, you have to come. What do you want to eat? "

Everyone present was stunned. Seeing that my father's face fell and he stopped talking, my mother hardly moved her chopsticks.

When facing everyone, he smiled, especially soft and warm, and advised everyone to eat and drink well. Seeing this scene, I almost fainted.

Afterwards, I asked my colleague, "Why are you so mean, so harsh and even lose face to your parents, but so kind to subordinates and outsiders?"

He paused and said, "My parents are old and have bad teeth. Our colleague is eating, isn't he pointing to create pressure on my employees? "

I said, "Your employees think old people are hard to come by. They think more about the elderly. They don't feel pressured. Why is there pressure? Can parents eat if they can't eat well? Why don't you want to put pressure on employees, but let your father be embarrassed? "

He was speechless for a moment.

Can only say that he is an unconscious person.

It's really hard for you to be around such a person. You can only keep your distance from him. Otherwise, he will always use the worst side to deal with the closest people.

Write at the end:

Living in the world, everyone has a lot of pressure. Some people can decompress themselves, while others are hard to control. They like to lose their temper with the people closest to them and make their home a mess.

General Napoleon said: "People who can control their emotions are more important than winning the ideal city."

For those who have a particularly bad attitude towards parents, brothers and sisters, lovers and a particularly good attitude towards outsiders, all we can do is to keep a psychological distance and try to stay away from them.

If you are a friend, stay away; If it is family, stay away; If you are a spouse, you must be psychologically independent and stay away from it.

Only when you know how to love yourself and treat yourself well can you get respect. Such people will naturally regard you as an "outsider".

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