Whether influenced by people around them or actively choosing not to get married, young people nowadays are more cautious about marriage than our parents' generation.

Why more and more people don't want to get married?

There is a saying that because men are not short of sex, women are not short of money. In the previous marriage mode, what women need is a long-term meal ticket, while what men require in marriage is long-term and stable sex. However, this model is no longer feasible today. Now this era is no longer the era of "getting married first".

2. The essence of marriage is an exchange.

Young people nowadays don't get married. On the one hand, thanks to their increasingly independent personality, they dare to pursue what they want. On the other hand, they are more rational about marriage.

If someone looks at marriage thoroughly, they will find that marriage and love are different. The essence of marriage is the exchange of social resources-the exchange of love, sex, material, fertility and security. On the material level, men show their talents and development potential in exchange for women's favor. Emotionally, men exchange understanding and security for women's understanding and worship.

Any marriage with unequal exchange will not last long.

Marriage is not romantic, not harmonious, but daily necessities, care, compromise and balance. Ignorant taking and not knowing how to pay will only make this exchange unfair and make marriage unsustainable.

If you want a long marriage, you must know the essence behind it. In the process of managing marriage, to meet each other's needs, only when both husband and wife form the same interest group and twist into a rope can they go on unswervingly.

Whether two people love each other is a question.

Lin once said that many people get married just to find someone to watch movies with, not to find someone to share their experiences with. If I just want a date, I don't want to get married. I can go to the movies by myself.

In fact, those young people who are not in a hurry to get married first are the most conservative people about marriage. They attach great importance to marriage and do not want to get married in a hurry.

Those who are "not in a hurry to get married" are not really not going to get married, but they have learned to treat marriage more rationally. It is precisely because it is too important that we can't make do with it. They would rather be lonely than struggle in a loveless marriage.

At first, they were not afraid of being single, but wanted to be with each other. Marriage is not for a piece of paper, not for children, but for love to unite two people.

Finally, I hope everyone can wait until the right person appears before marrying him.