Mainly to determine the yellow calendar and the bride price of the man, depending on the economic conditions of both sides. The gift money received will be returned according to the woman's financial conditions. If the woman's condition is good, accept all the gift money directly and buy a car for the man.
Step 2 choose a date
Generally, in Wenzhou, the date of birth of both men and women should be obtained from experts in Zhouyi, who will give you several permutations and combinations for you to choose from. It is suggested to choose the engagement date later, because there are many things to prepare or you will be in a hurry. The wedding date can be closer to the engagement date, so that this tired period will not drag on for too long. Then the engagement date doesn't have to be on weekends or holidays, and the wedding date is better on weekends or holidays.
3. Set an engagement party and a wedding banquet.
In Wenzhou, engagement wine and wedding wine are jointly organized by men and women, so the number of tables should be at least 20. Therefore, the engagement wine should be ordered three months in advance and the wedding wine should be ordered one year in advance, so as to choose a hotel that everyone is satisfied with.
4. Add the projects they need to participate in.
Man to woman:
(1) A set of gold ornaments: including earrings, bracelets, (anklets), necklaces, a pair of rings and a diamond ring.
(2) Happy candy: including a pair of sugar, gold and apricot. Sugar apricot is made by dyeing white sugar red, frying it into thick juice, pressing it into pomegranate shape with a mold and cooling it. This is a major feature of Wenzhou engagement ceremony, which you can't see anywhere else. Wenzhou wedding candy is divided into different sizes, and the man is responsible for all the wedding candy that the woman needs, including the red envelope in the wedding candy.
(3) Watch: It used to be a watch. Now that all kinds of electronic products have the function of watches, many people only buy one for their wives.
(4) Cash instead of chicken, duck, fish, etc.
If you buy it, the "six kinds" are: two crucian carp plates, two knives with three layers of meat, a yellow grass chicken, a pair of small pig bellies, five catties of longan and ten catties of hibiscus.
The popular "six kinds" are: two Chinese cigarettes, a pair of liquor (Wuliangye or Wuliangye), and a pack of longan and litchi.
Woman to man:
(1) When the man got married and engaged, he wore a suit, two shirts, two ties, two pairs of shoes (a pair of casual shoes), two sets of casual clothes, a dozen socks, a gold bracelet and a necklace.
(2) One set of dishes: 88 pieces, 98 pieces and 108 pieces can be purchased as appropriate. Now Wenzhou's shops are mainly concentrated in Jiefang Road and Fei Xia North Road. It is recommended to shop around and compare more, otherwise the price difference between the two sides is not small. You have to choose a day to deliver the bowl. Wenzhou people have a saying of "stability", which is a homophonic "bowl" in Wenzhou dialect.
(3) The woman's "six kinds" are: citrus, cakes, dates, peanuts, longan and lotus seeds.
Then send a candy apricot sent by the man back to the man. When oranges are immature, pomegranate can be used instead. Pomegranate has many children, which also means early birth.
Step 5 take an engagement photo
Engagement photos are based on your own needs. Engagement in Wenzhou can be divided into big orders and small orders. A big order means to entertain all relatives and friends who will attend the wedding, and a small order means to entertain only close relatives.
Large orders may require some engagement photos for on-site layout, while small orders do not require much.
6. engagement day
Parents, relatives and friends of both sides held a banquet in a hotel to get engaged.
In the afternoon, the man drove to the woman's house to greet her and her parents. After arriving at the hotel, give tea to both parents and toast to friends and relatives to witness your love.