When men and women reach a certain age, parents ask the matchmaker to propose marriage to their children. Parents and children of both sides can't meet each other, and it's all up to the matchmaker.

Second, close relatives

Parents of both men and women convey their children's birthdays to each other through matchmakers. Please ask Mr. Yin and Yang to calculate and see if the zodiac is suitable. For example, according to superstition, "one chicken and one monkey can't reach the end", and if the zodiac is suitable, you can't get married.

Third, gifts

Also known as Tongli. On the premise of ownership, the two sides decided to conclude an engagement. Then the matchmaker gave the clothes and bride price ordered by the merchant to the woman's home, and also sent the first, second and third gifts. The three-way ceremony is relatively simple, a bundle of cotton, a bundle of silk thread and a mirror.

If the man wants to get married, he can entertain the matchmaker, inform the woman's family and ask her what other wedding items she needs and what she wants, commonly known as "VIP". If the woman agrees, please ask the teacher of Yin and Yang to choose a date. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the introducer "bridged the bridge", men and women met and gave gifts to each other. After the initial consent, the woman's family members go to the man's house to "see the house" (understand the situation in the man's house), and after getting to know each other, they can hold an engagement ceremony. After the engagement, on New Year's Day, the ceremony was reciprocated.

Fourth, get married.

Marriage, commonly known as "taking a wife". When the wedding date is fixed, the man asks his elders to preside over the wedding affairs and discuss the wedding ceremony with the best man, female guests and deacons. Then set up a color shed and ask the chef to prepare the banquet, decorate the new house, and send someone to send two boxes to the woman to pack things when she comes.

The woman asked the female guest to sew clothes with her relatives and neighbors as a dowry. Try on the wedding dress, comb your hair and open your face (trim your eyebrows with porcelain and wring out the hair on your face with thread). Close relatives and close friends of both men and women send gifts to the man's home and "add boxes" to the woman to express their congratulations.

The night before the wedding, the man invited three young men with surnames to live together in the bridal chamber. In the southwest countryside, at night, the groom goes to the kang to "step on the four corners", which is called "stepping on the house"

In the past, you got married in a sedan chair. During the Republic of China, he married for the car and paid attention to early marriage, that is, he took the bride home before dawn. When the man went to Bian Fang's house to pick up the bride, he was accompanied by his uncles, one or two married women (mostly sisters-in-law), a baby in a car, and one or two relatives and friends. Out of the man's house, the family will set off firecrackers at the door, then go out of the village gate, set fire to every intersection and enter the woman's village. In the woman's house, the man and the woman sit in two places, and the woman brings noodles and gives both men and women a seal (money wrapped in red paper) or a handkerchief as a reward.

Meanwhile, under the care of the female guests, the bride washed her face and changed clothes, changed her rockhopper, wore embroidered shoes, covered her head with a handkerchief, bowed to her ancestors and bid farewell to her father, mother, brother and sister-in-law. The bride was helped out of the house, and the men and women got up as soon as the firecrackers rang at the door. The bridesmaid holds a bowl in one hand and the bride holds a pair of chopsticks in her hand. As soon as she walked out of the door, the bridesmaid broke the bowl in her hand, and the bride threw the chopsticks back, then stepped on the hay, crossed the fire, got on the sedan chair or got on the bus. In the early years, there was a custom of crying marriage, which was generally carried out outside the village. On the way to the wedding, if the two families meet, it is considered a bad thing, and the bridesmaids of both sides exchange the bride's red flowers to show that they are not interfering with each other and are safe.

The wedding team walked to the entrance of the village and slowly fired their guns to show their safe return. At the door of the house, marry the female guest and send the female guest to the man's house, say goodbye to the man's deacon, then lead the groom to the sedan chair and ask the bride to get off. At this time, the man's deacon took a red-hot tip in one hand and vinegar in the other, and turned around the sedan chair three times. As he walked, he poured vinegar on the red-hot tip and threw it under the sedan chair, which was called "inverted tip". Then the bride gets off the sedan chair, steps on red bricks, straddles the saddle and walks on the red carpet, all of which are auspicious.

After entering the door, escort the female guests and help the bride move forward. After marrying a female guest, she drew a hand-held bucket from the bride's head containing bran, peas, broken cereal grass and a small amount of ancient copper coins and flowers cut from red, green and yellow paper, and sang, "One bran and two materials, and the third daughter-in-law got off the sedan chair." The bride went to the door, married the girl and sang, "One sprinkled gold, one sprinkled silver, and the third sprinkled daughter-in-law into the door." At this time, with the help of the bridesmaid, the bride walked to the flower room, and then under the leadership of the best man, she sang songs of offering sacrifices to heaven, ancestors, ancestors, relatives, friends and couples. When entering the bridal chamber, the groom takes off the bride's veil, the bride takes off her phoenix coat and phoenix crest, and the newlyweds have a pleasant meal (usually noodles are served by the married woman, eaten by the woman first, and then eaten by the man).

Asking for keys is also called turnkey. It means that a boy came with the bridesmaid, usually the bride's nephew. He has the key to the bride's suitcase. After dinner, the groom asked for the key, and the child asked the groom for money. The child has been saying that it is not enough and continues to bargain. Finally, he gave the key to the groom, the groom gave it to the female guest, and then gave it to the bride.

Then, the young man took down the curtain of the new house, put on a new curtain and carried the box outside the house into the new house. Then ask the bride for a handkerchief. There is also some bargaining and excitement. This is the so-called "hanging the door curtain" and "carrying the box".

Later, the bride combs her hair and washes her face, and the man and a young man bring the bride face wash water. The washbasin was prepared by the woman, and the mouth of the basin was sealed with red paper with the word "Xi" written on it. First, break the red paper with water, commonly known as "watering the flowers". Then bring water, either dirty water or cold water. The purpose is to joke and ask the woman for "sealed" money or a small handkerchief. After the goal is achieved, bring clean face washing water.

In the evening, a group of young people came to make trouble in a new house, commonly known as "playing house". There is a saying called "three days, big or small". There are many tricks to play house, and the content is humorous and interesting, which often makes the bride shy and sometimes even vulgar. In the old days, there was a custom of "listening to the house" (that is, eavesdropping on the private conversations of newlyweds).

On the second day after marriage, the bride's family specially sent meals for her daughter, which meant that her daughter should not forget her parents' kindness. Take dried noodles, cakes, etc. When the food is delivered. The man was warmly received. During the dinner, his parents and elders reminded the bride to respect the old and love the young, and the husband and wife lived in harmony and managed the family diligently.

On the third day after marriage, the couple went to her husband's house and called "back to the door". When you arrive at the woman's house, you salute the main hall, then kowtow to your parents-in-law. The bride's house returns the gift to the groom, who gives gifts to the younger generation. After dinner, her parents gave their daughter a dress and came back the same day.

After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), on April 30th, 1950, the Central People's Government promulgated the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China, which implemented the freedom of marriage for men and women. When young men and women get married, they are introduced by one person or fall in love freely. After a period of understanding, the two sides are in harmony. When you reach the legal age, you can get a marriage certificate from the township (town) government with a letter of introduction from the villagers' committee or unit. Choose a day to get married, send candy, smoke, and entertain relatives and friends. At the beginning of the founding of the People's Republic of China, I still got married. Now there are also small four-wheeled tractors or cars to get married. In recent years, new fashions such as late marriage and childbearing, new marriage, organized group marriage and tourism marriage have been advocated. There are also couples planting wedding commemorative trees together. However, the phenomenon of ostentation and extravagance and bride price escalation is also widespread.