About 90% or more people will ask the man for a bride price when they marry their daughters. Asking for a bride price is an unwritten folk custom. Giving a bride price means that the man shows respect to the woman. Don't give a bride price, as if your daughter is worthless, just like giving it away for nothing. In the traditional culture of China, calling her daughter "daughter" probably means something like this.

It seems natural to ask for a bride price, but returning it is different. There are no hard and fast rules, depending on the customs and habits of each region, family economic situation, and the degree of love for daughters.

Some wealthier families marry their daughters, not only returning all the bride price to the bottom of the box, but also accompanying tens of thousands of yuan in dowry by their parents and family. This is to make her daughter financially independent and have pocket money, and she will not be looked down upon when she goes to her in-laws' house.

Some families with ordinary conditions leave part of the bride price to the elderly, or use it to build a new house for their sons, with little money in return, and some families who don't know etiquette don't even return the gift.

This situation has existed since ancient times.

A similar situation happened in the neighborhood where our daughter got married two months ago.

Lao Zhang, the owner of the supermarket, has a good economic situation and no burden. He only has two daughters. When the eldest daughter got married, the man didn't leave a bride price of 200 thousand. He gave his daughter100000, and bought a car to marry him.

When Lao Li's daughter got married, only half of the 300,000 bride price given by the man was refunded, and the remaining half was used to pay the down payment to her son, which made her in-laws very dissatisfied. My daughter is also ashamed, but there is nothing she can do. Lao Li himself came out and said that his financial ability was limited. My son is getting married soon, so he can only let his daughter suffer a little. His words were full of apologies.

With the development of the times, bride price and return gift are prevalent in some places. But in some places, it gradually faded out of the historical stage. As far as I know, some places have abolished the custom of giving bride price to women by men. As long as the man is decent, has a house to live in and a driver, and two people really love each other, a wedding can still be held.

580 thousand bride price mentioned in the question, and ask how much the other party has in return? It could be a case. Knowing the whole story, we can find that the concepts of bride price and return gift in the two regions are different. The man thinks that the bride price of 580 thousand is unacceptable, and they only have tens of thousands of dollars in the local area. How much do you want from the woman in return? But as a woman, she thinks that there are not many, and there are even 700,000 bride price money around her, so she should be free to control how much she returns.

This is a conflict of ideas, which is obviously irreconcilable.