Young men and women get married in Shimen. Before the bride enters the house, the man must respectfully ask for both children and husband and wife to be harmonious. The bed maker praised while making the bed. Zhou Jiachun, a singer from Pingcun Village, Ma Si, Luoping Township, Shimen, sang "Bed-making Song" as follows:
Walking with both feet busy, I walked into the couple's room, holding the golden branches and grass, making the couple's bed, pressing at both ends, rolling straight at the top, touching at both ends, and entering the exam with five sons. The curtain is square, a pair of clever mandarin ducks make the bed, first make the bed, two stalls, a husband, a son and a young girl.
The person who makes the bed can get a "red envelope", which is usually hidden in the bed, but it will also be deliberately hidden in the trouser legs, so that the person who makes the bed is not easy to find and entertain himself.
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"Salute" is to scatter chestnuts, dates and peanuts under curtains or bedding, and take their homophones "dates, chestnuts" (early seeds) and "peanuts" (peanuts, not limited to boys or girls, both men and women). As he sang, he said, "The pigeons came into the house, opened two tents on the river and sat on my fair lady's bed so that my husband could spread them out." This is actually the embodiment of witchcraft customs. There are many forms of associative witchcraft like this in real life. In ancient times, before the bride and groom entered the bridal chamber, they had to comb each other's hair and tie it together, indicating that two people should be together forever. You have me, I have you, and I will never part, so later there was the saying of "married couple". Now the newlyweds worship heaven and earth and drink a glass, which is actually a legacy of witchcraft that prays for the husband and wife to be together forever.
Grab the bed
After the young couple entered the bridal chamber to grab dates, peanuts and chestnuts, they would grab the bed. The bride pushed the groom aside, and at least two people sat side by side on the edge of the bed, saying that whoever grabbed the center of the edge of the bed would be the master in the future, and the other would only obey. In Hupingshan Nature Reserve, Shimen, bed grabbing is prevalent in the east. Whoever occupies the east end is the master, often crowded together, so we have to discuss with each other and make jokes for a while. These are all manifestations of associative witchcraft.
(of relatives and friends) teasing the newlyweds on their wedding night.
On the wedding night, after the guests had eaten supper, young men and women all entered the bridal chamber and asked the bride and groom to dance, sing and tell their love stories, or asked the bride and groom to hold the bride, or eat a candy or smoke a cigarette together and light a fire in the middle. Everyone made two couples laugh, commonly known as "noisy room", also known as "three days of marriage" Therefore, regardless of the elders and younger generations, you can tease the bride and groom with all kinds of strange questions, and even play all kinds of pranks on the bride to take advantage of your mother. He also punished the groom with various difficult moves, which made him exhausted and unable to sleep with his wife. If there is trouble in the new house, the bride and groom can only save themselves with wisdom, but they are not allowed to get angry, otherwise it will be unlucky. Among them, children make trouble with each other because they get a reward, and adults make trouble with each other, swear words, make irresponsible remarks and even turn off the lights on purpose of "stealing oil" and teasing the bride and her roommate. Of course, many young men and women make use of this geomantic treasure-house, singing songs and saying eight characters in all directions, and they will be fined if they lose. It is often men and women who make faces and squeeze a person to let him or her lose. If a woman loses or a woman buys a man a drink, she must shout "Dear (affectionate) brother." The man shouted "dear (affectionate) sister", which should be sweet and hearty. In the middle of the night, lovers meet and go to the village to talk about love.
Having a noisy room is a common custom in the whole country, but it also exists in other countries in the world. Haunted rooms have a long history. According to the current literature and classics, it can be traced back to the Han Dynasty at the earliest, and the noisy room is called "the drama woman" in Bao Puzi. Yang Shen's "The Continuation of Dan Aluminum" called the noisy room "a playmate". As the name implies, having a noisy room means greeting relatives and friends, overstepping etiquette and making fun of newlyweds at will. Most of the time, it starts from the first night of marriage, and the newlyweds are sent to the bridal chamber until late at night. Of course, there are times to expand the scope. For example, a woman in Shimen got married halfway, and the teacher who married her suddenly lost her temper and stopped going. She had to ask the new girl to light a cigarette in front and say a few kind words. The teachers teased the new girl to make her skin tender. Don't forget to marry her tonight. ...
Shimen people have obviously expanded their scope, and they can only play the bride and groom. But they even spared the bride's own sister and the unmarried woman who saw her off. Moreover, some young men also have unexpected gains in their difficulties. A woman who loves the bride's sister or sends her away. Of course, expanding the scope of the noisy room has nothing to do with this topic, so I won't go into details.
From the careful analysis of the Shimen incident itself, we can sum up two characteristics: First, the noisy room is the right of the guests, no matter where the mischief goes, the host family should bear it patiently, otherwise it will be unlucky. Second, it is only a form, not an end. That is to say, people who have sex are not just "joking", but they seem to have another purpose to achieve, which is implied from the sentences of "it doesn't matter if they get married for three days" and "the bigger the trouble". In other words, people who make trouble with each other can flirt with the bride at will, even hug, kiss and touch the bride after lights out, and the bride has to accept it.
Investigating the origin of haunted houses is, of course, a legacy of ancient barbarism. But why is it "getting worse"? Let's compare the concept of "first night right", which seems very reasonable, otherwise the problem of the origin of haunted houses will not be solved. "First night right" refers to the first night of the wedding. The bride's first night must be dedicated to the chief, local king and head of the family who represents the gods. Later, the relatives and friends who became the groom all had the right to get close to the bride, and then they would be monopolized by the groom. No one can invade the bride again. The "first night right" here and "disturbing the new house" have the same characteristics: first, the race exercising the first night right recognizes that relatives and friends of the clan have the right to approach the bride within a few days of their wedding. Secondly, they think that if others are not allowed to enjoy the bride's virginity first, then her only future occupant, her husband, will have disaster, or at least bad luck.
In this comparison, there is no doubt that the custom of building a new house and the right of first night are cast from the same model. To ward off evil spirits for the groom is the fundamental concept of the first night's right, that is, the proper meaning of "making a bigger noise". Of course, it cannot be said that building a new house is the first night's right, but it can only be said that building a new house is a relic of the first night's right. It can be speculated that the social system to which the first night right belongs has long passed, and monogamy has been established with private ownership. Civilized people don't want to see their private daughters enjoyed by the patriarch and clan first, but the psychology of enjoying the "first night right" to ward off evil spirits still exists, so the old "first night right" system has been softened and gamified, and the actual handover has become a form.