China and Guangxi Dong compatriots have the marriage custom of going to the village to sit as sisters when choosing a spouse. After dinner, groups of boys will go to other yards with wind and rain lights, play Dong Pipa and flute, and sing Dong's love songs all the way. In that stockade, all families with young women will light their lights, or young women will stick their heads out of the wooden building to have a look.
At this time, this group of young men went to live in a house for a period of time under various excuses. If a woman has a crush on one of these young people. She also found various excuses to keep the young man, such as borrowing his lantern. At this time, everyone else present, including the woman's parents, had to withdraw. This is going to the village. The next step is to sit down. After the others left, the woman slowly moved closer to the man, and finally sat by the fireplace together, singing love songs in a low voice, chatting and getting to know each other. It was not until after midnight that the two agreed on the time and place for their next meeting, and then the woman returned the lantern to the man. After that, both sides tried to understand each other until they both thought they were in love.
(2) Twelve bowls of Niangniangba
"Showing love by Baba" is a unique way of marriage custom for young Dong men and women in China. After Dong girls and boys like each other, the girls will go to the landlady's (the girl's sister-in-law or aunt's) home to make Baba behind her father's back. During the tryst, the girl sang beautiful love songs and gave her boyfriend 12 pairs of snow-white Baba to express her love for her boyfriend for one year 12 months.
After eating the girls' Baba, my boyfriend will give the girls 12 packets of sugar as a reward at the next tryst. The night before the wedding, the girls and young women in the village will do 12 pairs of "parting from their mothers" overnight to show that the bride and groom live happily for 12 months every year and never forget their parents' kindness. Niangniangba was taken to her husband's house by relatives, sliced and mixed with camellia oleifera, and eaten at the wedding banquet, so that everyone could share happiness and happiness.
(3) The agreement of onion
When young Dong men and women living in Zhenyuan, Guizhou Province make love, they usually make love by asking for onions and garlic. On the third day of the third lunar month, girls in beautiful clothes will come to the stream with bamboo baskets full of onions and garlic. They are waiting for the arrival of their sweetheart in the field where they wash onions and garlic.
When girls wash onions and garlic, there will be many young men around to find suitable girls. If once he has a crush on the right person, the young man will seize the opportunity to step forward and bravely say to the girl in front of everyone: Please give me the onion and garlic! If the girl is satisfied, she will happily give him the onion and garlic basket, otherwise, she will never give it to him.
Next, young men and women who establish contact by begging for onions and garlic need to get to know each other better on separate dates and songs, and agree on the time to return the basket. This is the critical moment of love success or failure. Baskets are usually returned at the beginning of April or the sixth day of June. At this time, if the girl accepts the basket with gifts, it means that the big event has been decided, otherwise it will be over.
(4) Step on the heel
Among young Dong men and women in Shidong Village, Tianzhu County, southeastern Guizhou Province, China, a traditional custom of expressing love is "stepping on high heels". Whether young men or young women, as long as one party takes a fancy to the other, it is necessary to get as close as possible to the person in mind when rushing to the scene, quietly follow behind him (her) and deliberately step on the other party's heel. After the other person is trampled, if you look back and see that the person who stepped on his heel is the person you like and like, you will follow the lover who stepped on his heel out of the dam. Talking about the date (that is, the date).
If the girl who is trampled on her heels is not interested in the person who comes to tread on her heels, she will pretend not to know and ignore it. Generally, people who step on other people's heels turn around and leave after stepping on them, and go to the gate of the field to look back to see if the trampled person has followed. If they follow, they will naturally have a good impression and chat happily. The person who was trampled did not follow, indicating that the other party had another sweetheart and could not force it, so he returned to the dam and found someone else to step on.