At the end of each year, the busiest person in every place is the matchmaker. She is busy matching up the handsome men and beautiful women around her and creating a happy marriage for them. Some families hold weddings at the end of the year, which not only makes people feel lively, but also adds a smile to the taste of the year. When it comes to marriage, we have to mention the bride price related to it.
Speaking of this bride price, I will always be a bag. In recent years, there have always been a lot of news about the sky-high bride price, as well as cheating on marriage, even breaking promises, changing our minds temporarily, and asking for money under various excuses. Every time I see such news, I always think: how long can this marriage last even if it is married?
If such a marriage finally blows up, how happy can this money make people? The conclusion of marriage should have been based on feelings. A marriage without feelings and only transactions is doomed to be a tragedy.
I don't want to write these "ugly things" about bride price, but I am really annoyed by the contribution of reader Wang Zhe. He and his beloved girlfriend survived their parents' opposition and high bride price, but finally fell on the opening fee of 6.5438+0 million yuan.
Maybe some people think that this 1000 yuan is nothing, and all the hardships ahead have survived. Why not stick to it? I think this 1 000 yuan "opening fee" should be the last straw to crush the camel.
Wang Zhe and his girlfriend Amei are high school classmates. After graduating from high school, they didn't contact each other again until they met in the same city that year. Wang Zhe is a messenger. He saw a familiar name when he delivered the goods that day. He subconsciously thought it was his high school classmate ah mui, but on second thought it was impossible. But when they met, both Wang Zhe and Ah Mui were surprised.
In this way, the two men walked around and met again.
Later, Wang Zhe and Ah Mei fell in love. At first, Amei didn't tell her parents about her love. It was not until her parents forced Ah Mei to have a blind date that she told her parents about herself and Wang Zhe. When Ah Mui's mother found out, the first thing she asked was, "Daughter, what do his parents do? Do you have money at home? " In the face of a series of questions from her mother, Amei had to answer truthfully.
Ah Mui's mother knows that Wang Zhe's parents are just ordinary workers with average family conditions. She immediately expressed her opposition to this marriage, but Ah Mui refused to give up, and their marriage was delayed year after year.
Later, Ah Mui's parents gave in, because they learned from Ah Mui that Wang Zhe's parents had bought a house, and Wang Zhe urged that Ah Mui's name be added. For the Wangs who just bought a house, they are already heavily in debt.
At this juncture, Ah Mui's parents demanded a bride price of 50,000 yuan. In order to be able to decide this marriage as soon as possible, Wang's parents had to raise money everywhere and scrape together 50 thousand yuan, and finally decided this marriage.
Originally, it was agreed to get married at the end of the year, but by the Mid-Autumn Festival, my parents received a letter from the matchmaker. Ah Mui's parents suddenly raised the bride price to 654.38+ million, which was hard for them to accept, but the attitude of the woman's family was very firm. If she doesn't take the bride price of 654.38+ 10,000 yuan, then she will break off her marriage. Finally, she was forced to pawn her ancestral jewelry, which was enough.
Since taking these betrothal gifts, there have been no moths in the woman's house.
Accompanied by Andy Lau's song Today, Wang Zhe, dressed in a neat suit and holding a bouquet prepared in advance, led the wedding procession to the bride's house. After the wedding procession arrives, according to local customs and etiquette, the groom needs to "call" the bride's boudoir and can only call it with a red envelope. At this time, Wang Zhe took out a red envelope from his pocket, which contained 2000 yuan, because the customs did not specify the amount.
When Wang Zhe stuffed the red envelope into it, Ah Mui's mother said, "How dare you take out your hand and ask for 2000 yuan? You can't take my daughter away without the opening fee of 1 0,000. " Hearing this, Wang Zhe thought it was a joke, but the people inside were indifferent. At this moment, Wang Zhecai realized that they were determined to pay an opening fee of 654.38+0 million.
Wang Zhe was furious at the thought of these people going back on their word. He said angrily: "The bride price has risen from 50,000 to 65,438+10,000, and I have endured it. Now you have to pay 65,438+10,000 for opening the door. Is your family rich? " The opening fee is 2000 yuan. If I open the door, I will pick up the bride. I won't get married if you don't open the door. "
After saying this, there came the words of Ah Mui's mother: "Good boy, you dare to threaten me before you pick it up. Don't get married until you get married. I am afraid that you will not succeed. " The words sound just fell, Wang Zhe threw the bouquet on the ground, and then led the wedding team home.
After reading Wang Zhe's contribution, I have to say that it is really bad for Ah Mui to have such a mother. To be honest, it's very good for Wang Zhe's family to do this. I wonder if you have noticed this detail. The house bought by Wang Fuhe Wang Mu bears the names of Wang Zhe and Ah Mei. How many parents can do it?
On the other hand, look at what Amei's parents do. At first, they didn't like Wang Zhe's family background and disagreed with the marriage. Later, I learned that my daughter's name was on the real estate license, and I agreed to this marriage. Later, I learned that the Wangs were heavily in debt, and insisted on a bride price of 50,000 yuan. Later, I repented and increased it to 65,438+10,000 yuan. The most exasperating thing is that on the wedding day, I want to make another contribution, asking for an opening fee of 1 0,000 yuan. Such people don't deserve to be parents at all. Calculate carefully, it's really disgusting.
Regarding the amount of bride price, I always think that it should be based on the economic basis of the two families. The bride price was originally a lottery, and it broke up for a lottery. Is it worth it? Once the bride price is fixed, no matter whether it is high or low, you can't go back on your word and sit on the ground and start the price. What's the difference between this practice and a villain?
Finally, I hope that every marriage will not be resentful because of the bride price, and I hope that parents can consider it on the basis of their children's happiness. Is it money or children's lifelong happiness that matters?