Marriage-Wen Ding-Renting-Marrying
Commonly known as dading. First, the matchmaker will fix the parents of both parties. If both parties agree, the ceremony of "Wen Ding" can be held. Usually, the man's family will prepare a gift of silver and some meat, with a picture of "asking for a post" and send it to the woman's family. There is a red post at the woman's house, which says the date of birth? , when, back to the man's house. This post is called "Geng Tie". There is also the "more iron" that women bring to men's homes on the wedding day. Rucheng has the habit of quarreling with the bride, often holding the bride and groom together to "touch their foreheads", or smearing the bride and groom with coal, or pouring water into the bride and groom's face, body or bed with a bamboo tube to amuse them with various pranks. When the bride and groom meet this situation, they should not turn their faces and get angry, but try to avoid it. The better the popularity on weekdays, the more lively the quarrel. The etiquette of marrying a mistress and holding a child bride is extremely simple.
2. Birthday
When you calculate your age, you are used to using fictional age. People are called one year old when they are born, and two years old during the New Year. So birthday celebration is more important than ten, that is, except for one year old, if others are eleven, twenty-one, ... eighty-one, ninety-one are called "big birthdays", twenty, thirty, eighty and ninety are called "Qi Shou", and other birthdays are called "small birthdays". The big birthday is celebrated in Daqing, and "Qi Shou" is celebrated in a small way. The small birthday just eats round eggs and does not celebrate the birthday. Birthday celebrations are generally over 51 years old, and the older you are, the more grand you are. On the birthday, relatives, friends and neighbors prepare gifts to celebrate (generally no invitations are sent). If you don't plan to hold a banquet in Daqing due to family economic conditions or other reasons, please ask your relatives and friends to politely refuse in advance, but it is difficult for your relatives and in-laws to leave. Birthday gifts are usually chicken, duck, meat, eggs, cakes, wine and so on. Some also add clothes, hats, cloth cakes. Rich people also send Shou Ping, Shoucai, Shoutao and Shoumian. Government agencies will issue longevity screens and red envelopes as longevity instruments. Since the 1980 s, birthday peaches and noodles have not been sent, but birthday cakes have been sent.
3. Funeral
When parents are old, children should prepare tools (coffins) and shroud for their parents. Life-saving tools must be on the fifteenth day of the first lunar month, the fifteenth of July and the fifteenth of October, commonly known as the "big sky death day", but the time limit is uncertain. Shroud making must be attended by biological children and daughter-in-law.
When the parents are dying, if it is the father, the bed must be moved to the hall, and the mother stays in the back room. Children at home have to wait all day and dare not stay away; Children who are away from home must also go home as soon as possible and stay in front of the sofa for the final ceremony.