He, the champion of open gymnastics, wants to have a good appearance and succeed. He also got married for the first time, but he married a second-time man, and even the wedding he wanted could not be realized. Really wronged.
When talking about marriage, you can best understand the attitude and sincerity of your husband's family and men towards you. It is no exaggeration to say that a woman can't get respect from her husband before marriage, and it is even harder to get respect after marriage.
Who's Liang Chao?
Maybe many people don't know. He is the chief producer of The Longest Day in Chang 'an.
Many people say that a second-married man is a treasure, but I don't think so. A second married man may also be a grass. After a marriage, he should know how to cherish and cherish his present wife. On the contrary, at this stage of marriage, the bride is heartbroken. The road ahead is still very long. If Liang Chao continues to be so strong and ambiguous, and her mother-in-law continues to care only about the status of her family, I am afraid this marriage will be difficult to maintain, and He Wenna will inevitably suffer hardships and be sad.
The two families had a serious disagreement about where to hold the wedding and which one to hold first.
He's parents think my daughter has grown up and is getting married now. As parents, we should hold a "wedding" to send her out.
He is from Longyan, Fujian. Marriage is a Hakka custom. If the two families are close, the woman's family usually holds the wedding one day in advance, and the man takes the bride back to her husband's family the next day.
However, the distance between Wen Na and Liang Chao is far. Considering my daughter's confinement, she was too tired to toss and turn, only catering, not catering. Usually, Hakka girls return home for three days after marriage, and their parents hold tables to entertain their daughters and sons-in-law.
Such a marriage process is completed. Marriage before marriage in the traditional sense is in line with the rules.
However, in Liang Chao, I don't agree that the woman's family should hold the banquet first. I feel that my dignity as a man has been trampled on. In fact, as a Hakka, I can say responsibly that the woman's family will never think so, and it will never rise to the point of damaging the man's dignity.
Hakka people attach great importance to their daughter's marriage. They must send her out first, and then men can take her back. Otherwise, it's like you didn't finish the task.
The two sides reached an impasse, and Mama He even became red-eyed. It is too difficult to help my daughter go through the normal marriage procedure. He Wenna was even more embarrassed and didn't know what to do.
The eyes of netizens are discerning. In this marriage conversation, it is obvious that Liang Chao has no respect for women. When his mother talked to him, he was playing with his mobile phone, unlike a son-in-law who respected her mother-in-law. From various details, he revealed male chauvinism. He's Wen Na, and I'm afraid he'll suffer after he gets married.
One: don't get pregnant before marriage, and the qualification to talk about conditions is greatly reduced.
As an emotional blogger, the author has repeatedly advised girls not to get pregnant before marriage. Although this era is very common, the concept of sex is also very open. But if you meet a bad man and in-laws, you may not get the bride price, let alone the wedding.
He's husband can't be said to be a bad person, nor can his mother-in-law be said to be a bad mother-in-law, but on the issue of marriage, it is obvious that they are strong and inflexible, and they consider their own dignity and interests more than the woman's feelings.
Marriage is a negotiation between two families. Before marriage, the woman was in a weak position, but after marriage, she had no position in her husband's family.
The attitude of a man and his mother-in-law has to make people feel that he Wen Na can't get pregnant before marriage. Otherwise, why did Liang Chao say, "I have proposed anyway." You make it sound as if you have taken responsibility. You are pregnant. I won't suffer whether you marry or not. Do you want to marry or not?
You don't know whether to choose a man or a husband's family, a man or a ghost, until a woman is pregnant and gives birth to a child.
Two: In the final analysis, the wedding is a matter for two people, and the new talent is the master of the marriage.
In order to discuss the wedding, the man's parents refused to give in. In fact, in the final analysis, the wedding is a matter for two new people. As long as both sides are happy, they can do whatever they want. Parents of both sides should not interfere too much, but they can give advice, but the final decision is still on the couple, who is the master of the marriage.
In this case, it is obvious that Liang Chao values his family more than his wife.
Liang Chao doesn't agree with the reason that the lady pours the wine first. She said, "Zhu Dexiao comes first." My father had a car accident when he was a child, and his hand was injured. It was not convenient to fly or take a train.
This is really illogical. According to Liang Chao's understanding, after the wedding is held in the man's house and then the door-to-door wine is held in the woman's house, his father can take the bullet train by plane?
This is just an untenable reason to find a fig leaf for your ignorance.
A man's confusion will make his wife fall into a difficult marriage life. When a woman marries her husband's family, she blends into the new environment as a new individual. If a man doesn't protect his wife and doesn't understand her, then her wife will feel that she is an outsider and has no position in a man's heart. Once a woman feels wronged and chilling, it is not far from divorce.
Three: In-laws should not interfere excessively with their sons' marriage.
When a man marries, it means marriage and responsibility. This small family is made up of two new people. In-laws should not interfere too much and stretch their hands too long.
Daughter-in-law has her own living habits and dignity. If the mother-in-law forces her, it will only push the marriage of her son and daughter-in-law to a dead end.
Some time ago, He Wenna's morning sickness was very serious, and she didn't want to eat fat. Her mother-in-law let her eat it because you can't just think about yourself now. If you don't eat, the children will.
As a result, he Wen Na crustily skin of head stuffed a few mouth, can't help but run to the toilet to vomit, back to the room to cry.
Do you call your mother-in-law bad? She's not really bad. It's just that she didn't think and do things from the standpoint and feelings of her daughter-in-law. She just thinks that if you are pregnant and you are the mother of the child, you have to eat one person and two people to make up for it. If you don't like it, you should eat it, so that you can be a qualified mother.
He Wenna's evaluation of her mother-in-law is like a mountain that has crushed herself, which is too strong. When you are pregnant, you impose your wishes on your daughter-in-law. It's not hard to imagine that when you are in confinement, you will also force your daughter-in-law to eat what she doesn't like and do what she doesn't like.
Behind the powerful mother-in-law is a good son who only cares about his mother's feelings, and a husband who ignores his wife's feelings.
Psychologist Zeng Qifeng said: "The relationship between husband and wife is the anchor of the family. If the relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family and has the first say, then the family will be as stable as a rock. "
I have suffered a lot before I really stepped into my husband's family, and the road to marriage is still very long. In this marriage that was not respected and wronged from the beginning, I'm afraid I have to make more efforts to go on.
I still wish her happiness.
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