Many city people feel that they are superior to those living in rural areas in the environment of high-rise buildings and red lights and green wine, which makes them have a condescending attitude when they get along with rural people. To tell the truth, people who have this idea, I think the three views are really incorrect. Rural people are the same as urban people, but their living environment is different. Nowadays, the income and career of many rural people are not worse than those of urban people, or even much better. And most importantly, many talented rural men and women, after graduation, worked hard and started their own businesses, and broke their own sky in the city alone.

We can't discriminate against rural people, especially mother-in-law, with our own prejudice. But some mothers-in-law look down on their daughters-in-law and their in-laws because they live in the city. Little did I know that my behavior was nibbling away at my son's happy marriage. I wrote this article because I met such a mother-in-law as a friend of the bride when I attended the wedding. At that time, I felt unworthy for my friend Ms. Zhang. Next, let's take a look at what Ms. Zhang did when she met such a mother-in-law

Although Ms. Zhang was born in the countryside, she is very beautiful and has a good figure. In addition, her occupation is a company executive, which gives people the impression that she is intellectual and capable. Standing with his rich and talented boyfriend is the perfect picture.

They have been dating for more than two years, and there are few contradictions. At the age of marriage, Ms. Zhang agreed to Qian Feng's proposal.

Although Qian Feng's parents don't mind Ms. Zhang's rural status, they are worried about her low-income and insecure rural parents and that they will need their son's relief financially in the future. Qian Feng's mother, in particular, has been worried about this matter, but this kind of dissatisfaction has nowhere to vent.

Until the wedding of Ms. Zhang and Qian Feng, Qian Feng's mother complained to her son on all occasions: "I can't say hello to my relatives and friends, I can't talk, and even the clothes for the wedding are so simple and rustic."

Although Qianmu is only complaining to her son on the surface, her voice is not small at all, as if she were talking to Ms. Zhang, not far away. Zhang Lan listened to Qian Mu's speech, more think more angry. But she knew she couldn't have an attack on the spot. For the sake of Pastime and herself, she must at least stay until the wedding is over. She could only hold her mother's hand tightly and apologize. At the tea ceremony, both parents sat waiting for the new couple to offer tea.

When the two handed the tea to Qian's parents, Qian's mother-in-law happily took a sip of tea and handed a thick red envelope. In contrast, Zhang's parents' red envelopes are thin and small, which is somewhat embarrassing.

When Qian Mu saw it, she naturally wouldn't miss this opportunity to laugh at Ms. Zhang's mother. She said: "My mother is really a rural person, and she is used to being petty. This red envelope for tea is as thin as a cicada's wing. "

Zhang's mother was humiliated in front of everyone and embarrassed. How can Ms. Zhang stand this tone and say to her mother-in-law: "Although my parents are rural people, I was never allowed to go to college because I was poor. And my mother-in-law is also a parent, but she doesn't know how to respect other people's parents. You don't deserve to be my mother-in-law. "

With that, Ms. Zhang took off her wedding ring and threw it to Qian Feng. She said to him, "when your mother scolded my mother in front of you, you didn't dare to correct and stop your mother's wrong behavior." You are not worthy of my love. I'll give you back the ring and I won't get married. "

With that, Ms. Zhang turned away with her parents who wanted to comfort her, regardless of Qian Feng's obstruction and the dissuasion of relatives and friends. After all kinds of obstacles failed, Qian Feng said to his mother, "Mom, this is a good thing you did. Your prejudice ruined my marriage. " When Qian Mu saw her son's marriage break up in such a bad way, she was very unhappy. It can be described as four flavors of life, sweet and sour, and she has tasted them all today. However, it is too late to regret, and the prospective daughter-in-law has already left.

I once said in reply to readers' comments that there are more good mothers-in-law than bad mothers-in-law in the world, but we can't rule out the existence of mothers-in-law with incorrect views. As I said above, I despise the money of rural people, mom. Mother Qian's behavior is not only to look down on her in-laws, but also to disrespect her in-laws. Judging from her behavior, she is really unfit to be a good mother-in-law. Ms. Zhang decisively broke off her marriage at the wedding banquet. Some people may think that she is too impulsive, but I think Ms. Zhang is a sign of filial piety. As children, when parents are insulted, it is unfilial to stand by and take appropriate measures to safeguard their dignity. After Ms. Zhang's divorce, when she told me about it, her eyes were full of tears. She said, ""

I chose to divorce for three reasons. First, it can be seen from her mother-in-law's behavior that she looks down on her parents and doesn't respect them. The second is to give parents an explanation and take it out on them. Thirdly, the main reason is that the man I love didn't stand up in time to defend my parents when they humiliated them. I really love Qian Feng, otherwise I wouldn't choose to marry him, but I really don't tolerate their family treating my parents like this. I really can't stand marrying such a bad husband's family. I really can't stand marrying such an irresponsible man. After the divorce, Qian Feng also came to me many times to apologize and make amends to me. I know he loves me very much, and I love him very much, but now I really don't know if I will be happy if I really choose to marry him. "

Ms. Zhang's worry is unreasonable. Judging from the behavior of money, the family style of Qian Feng's life is really incorrect. Judging from Qian Feng's failure to stand up in time to speak for Ms. Zhang's parents at the wedding scene, she did not take responsibility. So I understand Ms. Zhang's current situation and thoughts. After all, if the family style is unhealthy and women are bullied everywhere in marriage, men are not responsible. A woman who is bullied by her in-laws will not be happy in her marriage. As for the marriage direction of Ms. Zhang and Qian Feng, to be honest, we can only see whether Qian Feng's future performance can impress Ms. Zhang again and become a responsible man in Ms. Zhang's eyes.

As the mother of my son and the mother-in-law of my daughter-in-law, I want to remind you that city dwellers are also transformed from rural people, and city dwellers used to be rural people. We can't generalize and think that we are superior to rural people. Especially since we are mothers-in-law, you look down on your daughter-in-law as a rural person, and your in-laws as a rural person, which indirectly destroys the happiness of your son's marriage and forces his daughter-in-law to leave his son. As a mother, being kind to her daughter-in-law and treating her in-laws with a correct attitude is the only way to live in harmony with her daughter-in-law and make her son's marriage happy.