Love needs to be maintained, of course it is necessary. Because of the sense of ceremony on Valentine's Day, you remember the touch of that moment, the words you said and the place you went that day, the breeze and sunshine that day, the clothes you wore that day, and the light in his eyes when he stared at you. Of course, the sense of ceremony in marriage does not have to be created through anniversaries and Valentine's Day. In the early years, my parents didn't know what Valentine's Day was, but maybe they always remembered to make each other a basin of foot washing water at night. Some couples never celebrate Valentine's Day, but maybe they will give each other a kiss for the first time before going out and after returning home. What matters is not the festival itself, but how you treat life and each other with your heart. Valentine's Day, anniversaries and expressions of love in daily life all reveal people's sense of ceremony for love, their attention to each other, their cherish of marriage and their love for life itself. Finally, please believe that these ceremonial feelings carefully arranged for your marriage did not evaporate out of thin air, but infiltrated into your marriage silently, making your marriage glow with happiness as the years passed, instead of just leaving a feather on the ground. And your life, because of this intention and interest, has remained fresh and soft enough to resist the ruthless invasion of time on the soul. Do you deposit more or withdraw more in the marriage bank? For friends who come for marriage counseling, I often make an analogy. If marriage is a bank account, look at your account. How much did you voluntarily save, how much did you withdraw all the way, and how much is left now? When you are in love, you will never forget it, and your hearts will shake with each other. It is a big savings. Many small romantic details in love are many small savings; A well-planned wedding is savings; A beautiful trip for two is saving money; Careful care when sick is to save; Never give up when you encounter misfortune, that is savings; Mutual understanding and tolerance after marriage is savings; The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage and the problem of children's education are emotional withdrawal again and again; When a wife gives birth to a child and her husband doesn't come back to accompany her, this is abstinence; Husband's work entertainment was complained by his wife, which was withdrawn; Working more hours and spending less time with your family means abstinence; One party bears the hard work of raising children alone, which is retreat; The quarrel about divorce is a big retreat; Long-term indifference or no sex life is withdrawal; Always refusing to change yourself, but always expecting the other party to change, is a lot of silent withdrawal ... If you are honest enough about your marital status, many people will be surprised that their marriage accounts are being rapidly consumed or even overdrawn. -those marriages that seem to be calm and have no major problems, but suddenly fall apart one day, generally.