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Madam
Xifu people speak directly, and they can't hide their melodramatic and hypocritical words at all. For example, Baoji people don't like to use the word "wife", which is a bit awkward to call. In the mouth of Baoji people, other people's wives are usually called "the daughter-in-law" and "whose wife". When a husband addresses his wife, he usually implicitly calls it "his mother" and "alas". , even nothing, all by tacit understanding. As we all know, the word "wife" contradicted by Baoji people comes from the vocabulary of Baoji area.
"Wife" originally refers to the "three mothers" of the Zhou Dynasty, that is, Zhou's wife, Tai Jiang, and his mother, Tairen, and his mother, Tai Yan. These three women married into the Zhou royal family are virtuous and intelligent, especially good at taking care of their husbands, educating their children and cultivating three generations of sages in the Zhou Dynasty. Later generations hope that women have the temperament and conduct of "three Thai" and bring up excellent offspring, so they regard women as "wives".
As the saying goes, behind every successful man, there is a great woman, and Gu's father owns such a woman. The Book of Songs Cotton tells the story that Tai Jiang accompanied her husband Gu's father to start a business in Qiyang: "Gu's father came to the DPRK to start a business. The rate of west water margin, as for ambiguity. Why and Jiang Nv, Yu Yu. " There is a detailed description of the virtues of Yongjiang in The Biography of Han Women: "Yongjiang, the mother of Ji Wang ... gave birth to Taibo, Zhong Yong and Ji Wang. Chastity leads the way without fault. If the King of Thailand seeks to move, there must be one. " Kuataijiang has three advantages. First, she is gentle and quiet, respects her husband and has a lady's demeanor. Moreover, Taijiang is very smart and wise. Every time Gu's father meets with national affairs, he will discuss with Taijiang. Thai ginger leaves can always put forward good suggestions and methods; Besides, Li Jiang is good at teaching his three sons. The eldest son Taibo and the second son Zhong Yongsan gave the throne to the third son, both of whom were British masters, and expanded their territory, which made Zhou rise rapidly.
Tae In's most famous story is the invention of prenatal education. Recently, the first public welfare class of Baoji Women's Moral Education School discussed the Tairen prenatal education method. The speaker, Ms. Ding Xuan, is the vice president of Henan Traditional Culture Research Association. She said that Tae In's prenatal education method is not to let the fetus listen to the sound of reading and music, but to infect the fetus in the womb through the mother's words and deeds. Tairen, after pregnancy, "has no eyes, no ears, no arrogant words, and can teach children by fetus." Ding Xuan analyzed that Tairen's strict self-discipline and exemplary prenatal education method allowed the baby to grow up in a pure and kind atmosphere, and the baby formed an excellent innate foundation in the womb and eventually grew into a virtuous and wise gentleman.
Zhou Wenwang Ji Chang's story of marrying a toffee is beautifully written in The Book of Songs, Elegance and Daming. "A big country has a son, and a girl has a younger sister. Wen Ding Jue Xiang, pro-welcome to Wei. Shipbuilding is a beam that does not show its light. " Tess is kind and virtuous, frugal at home, and respectful to female teachers. Ji Chang admired Taisi's virtue and personally went to Weishui to marry her. There is no bridge in Weishui, so Ji Chang ordered people to connect the boat into a pontoon bridge and connect Taisi to the other side. After marriage, Tess still manages the family diligently and abides by the etiquette of being a daughter-in-law. Tess admires the virtue of her grandmother Taijiang and her mother-in-law, and often learns from her elders. Under her care, Zhou Wuwang Ji Fa grew into a wise gentleman with courage, courage and morality, and finally completed the great task of cutting down and destroying business.
These three women are three generations. They like to pass the baton and train the children of the Zhou Dynasty into sages. No wonder the author of "Biography of Women" praised "Three Tais" and said that "the third mother, the third mother of Taijiang and the prosperity of civil and military affairs were all built in Sri Lanka." It is believed that the prosperity of Wen Wu in Zhou Dynasty can not be separated from the contributions of these three women. In the Han Dynasty, "Lady" was a title for aristocratic women. In the Republic of China, the title of "Mrs" spread to ordinary women, which was the highest praise for married women's cultivation and wisdom.
It is worth mentioning that the "Three Tais" of the Zhou Dynasty handled the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well. Mother-in-law cares about daughter-in-law, and daughter-in-law respects mother-in-law, and the family is harmonious and warm. This is really worth learning today. Home and everything, only a warm and harmonious family can bring motivation and happiness to the family. Of course, the times are progressing. While learning the excellent moral character of ancient women, we don't have to accept it completely. We can abandon those ideas that are detrimental to women's individual freedom and personal dignity.
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Nothing venture and nothing have
Since ancient times, talents have come forth in large numbers, and it is not uncommon for a family to come forth in large numbers, such as the Ban Chao family.
Ban Chao, whose real name is Zhongsheng, is from Pingling County, Fufeng County. His father is historian Ban Biao, his eldest brother is historian Ban Gu, and his younger sister is historian Ban Zhao. Growing up in such a family with a strong cultural atmosphere, Ban Chao is naturally not an ordinary person. He was a famous strategist and diplomat in the Eastern Han Dynasty.
When Ban Chao was young, he did a job that he thought was hopeless: dealing with words all day and copying official documents. One day, Ben Chao became more and more angry. He was a man. He should make contributions like Fu Jiezi and Zhang Qian and strive for the title of Hou. He will spend his whole life interacting with these papers, inks, pens and inkstones, and what can he achieve! Throw away the pen, wipe the paper and quit. Such an impulsive decision left us an idiom-abandon the pen and join the army.
In ancient times, the position of military attache was slightly inferior to that of civil servant, that is, martial arts was controlled by literature. However, there are exceptions to everything. For example, some generals who took troops abroad first took the examination of Jinshi as a civilian, and later became generals who took troops. These people not only read widely, but also can fight, so they are not easy to mess with. "Follow Dou Gu to attack the northern Xiongnu and be ordered to the western regions. During 3 1 year, more than 50 countries in the western regions were pacified, which made great contributions to the return of the western regions and the promotion of national integration. " From this historical review, we can see the strength of Ban Chao.
In fact, Ban Chao's familiarity stems from another sentence: Nothing ventured, nothing gained. At this time, classical Chinese shows a charm different from vernacular Chinese. The Book of the Later Han Dynasty said: "When I arrived in Shanshan, King Shanshan was well prepared, and I was even more relaxed ... I called in Hu Cheat and said,' The Huns have been here for a few days, but now I don't care?' It is awesome to wait on Hu, and there is a look of waiting on him. Chao is Hu's servant. I learned that 36 officials under him were drinking with * * * and drank too much. Angry, he said, "Cao Qing and I are both in this field, and we want to make great contributions to wealth. Today, a few days after Lu Shi was laid off, Wang Guangli's respect was abolished; If Shanshan is sent to Xiongnu, bones will grow for wolves to eat. What can you do? The officials and their subordinates said,' Today is at stake, and life and death are at the hands of Sima.' Chao said, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." . Today's plan is unique, because we will attack the enemy with fire at night. If he doesn't know how good I am, he will be shocked and tired. Destroy this enemy, you will be kind and brave, and you will succeed. "People say,' We should discuss it with others. Super angry:' Good or bad depends on today. An official who engages in literary customs will be afraid to take it out on hearing this. come to a bad end is not a strong man! "People say,' Good.' "
The main idea of the story is this. In the 16th year of Yongping in the Eastern Han Dynasty, Ban Chao went to the Western Regions to Shanshan. After Wang Cili, Shanshan expressed his willingness to leave the Xiongnu and submit to the Han Dynasty. The host and guests are very happy. As a result, the next day, Ban Chao found that King Shanshan's attitude towards them had changed a hundred and eighty degrees. After careful investigation, he didn't know that the Huns also sent envoys to Shanshan, and Wang Da became a cooperative intention. Dude, it's too dangerous. If King Shanshan wanted to show sincerity to the Huns, he would probably chop up Ban Chao and his gang and give them to the Huns' emissary. Don't do it, you can only do it first. A plan to attack the Huns by fire took shape in Ban Chao's mind.
As a result, as we all know, Ban Chao led 36 men, picked the camp of Xiongnu emissary, burned the tent of Xiongnu emissary, cut off the head of Xiongnu emissary, and gave it to King Shanshan, asking him why he was treacherous.
Imagine the scene at that time. It is estimated that when Wang Shanshan saw Ban Chao, his back was cold. Later, King Shanshan expressed his wholehearted surrender to the Han Dynasty. "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" has also spread to this day, becoming the classic condensation of "it is impossible to achieve the greatest success without the hardest practice".
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Beat your opponent from the first encounter
"His big JIU and my second JIU are his uncles, and the high tables and stools are all made of wood. It is not enough to have gold bumps and silver bumps. You can't afford to be a cow in the sky. " As described in this ballad, "Laoshan" has a generous personality and an indomitable spirit in his bones. It is precisely because of this personality characteristic that Mr. Bambo, the "old Shaanxi" two thousand years ago, successfully solved the problem given to him by others when he first met others. His action also gave birth to a word-escape, today I will escape from Kan Kan.
Literally, the word "dismount" is related to horses and chariots. Yes, the ancients often used to dismount and get off the bus to express the intention of officials to take office. This sentence comes from Han Shu Zhuan Xu: "If you are afraid of driving, the officials and the people will rest." Speaking of which, it's time to invite Bambo, the hero of our story. Bo Ban, a man who helped the wind in the Eastern Han Dynasty, was a noble family. His father's class, the official of the Han Dynasty worshiped Zuo as a captain riding, was a military commander in a high position. His two brothers, one is a corps commander and the other is a magistrate in Guangping. His only sister is Ban Jieyu, a famous female writer in the Western Han Dynasty.
According to historical records, Bambo died at the age of 37. Although he died young, he left many stories to future generations. Looking through historical materials, it is not difficult to find that Bambo is not only of high value, but also a brave and clever Jie Jun. Hanshu tells such a story: when I was young, I studied the Book of Songs with a captain named Wang. Because of his cleverness and studiousness, General Wang Feng attached great importance to him and recommended him to the emperor. Emperor Hancheng summoned Bo Ban to the banquet hall. Seeing that he was "handsome in appearance and reciting testimonies", he named Bo Ban a regular waiter. At that time, Emperor Cheng of the Han Dynasty liked to delve into learning, and ordered Zheng Kuanzhong and yu zhang, two wise men, to enter the court to talk about The Analects of Confucius and The Book of History, and ordered Bo Ban to listen. Unexpectedly, Bo Ban can not only answer questions fluently, but also speak clearly, so Emperor Hancheng ordered him to be a captain in the car.
After three years of peace, Huns Khan came to Korea, and Emperor Han sent Bo Ban to celebrate the festival. At that time, Dingxiang County, which is now Inner Mongolia, and Liner Beishi and Li killed people because of personal grievances. Officials pursued the murderer, but they were killed. Bo Ban reported the situation to the court, * * * governed Dingxiang, and Emperor Han sent Wang Shun, a lieutenant, to replace Bo Ban to escort Khan, and appointed Bo Ban as the county magistrate of Dingxiang.
Dingxiang folk customs are tough. After the news reached the county, people heard that Bambo was born in a noble family and ruled here alone at a young age. "Afraid of getting out of the car, the officials and the people will lose their interests" means that they are worried that Bambo will show his subordinates and people the wind when he takes office, so he will exercise restraint. After Bo Ban took office, he immediately selected the elite among officials and arrested a large number of criminals. His resolute work style shocked a group of lawless people and impressed the people in Dingxiang County.
Speaking of this, the courage and talent of "Laoshan" Bo Ban are quite impressive. The "getting off bullying" mentioned in the article was replaced by the later "getting off bullying". It seems that "running away from the cold" originally did not mean giving people problems when they first met, but that when officials first arrived, in order to establish dignity, they strictly asked their subordinates to deal with difficult affairs. Later, with the change of words, "escape" became a general reference to "show one's strength to the other party from the beginning". In addition, "under the ponytail" was easy to read and its meaning was simple and clear, so it spread.