For example, if Guangzhou wants to send gold wares, the bride will stop the groom from opening the red envelopes, but they only pack two yuan each. People in rural Jiangsu don't have to give gifts when they eat wedding banquets. This is a custom.
Holding a wedding, even a few hundred yuan of red envelopes, adds up to a considerable amount. How to deal with these red envelopes has become the fuse of contradictions in newly married families.
China is shy. Since ancient times, he seldom talked directly about the Kong Fang brothers, thinking it was tacky or hurt his feelings. So few people spread it out before marriage to explain how to divide the wedding red envelopes. Later, due to different opinions, there were complaints and dissatisfaction, and even caused contradictions among the three schools.
I have a little sister who comes from a good family and has been spoiled since childhood. She thinks that the red envelopes received at the wedding are a blessing to the newlyweds and should naturally be collected by the newlyweds. If she marries into a family with an average family, her in-laws may not agree to this disposal.
Another married sister spent all her husband's wedding expenses, and her in-laws didn't pay a penny. The wedding was held in her husband's hometown. Except for the red envelopes of the new queen's family, all the red envelopes sent by other classmates and friends were taken away by their in-laws, saying that they would change their feelings in the future, which made life very difficult for several years after marriage.
Nowadays, many young couples come from different cities, so it is more complicated to hold a wedding reception in their hometown and another one in the city where young couples work.
Before deciding to get married, both men and women should make it clear. The more trivial and meticulous they think, the less contradictions they will have afterwards.
How to send wedding red envelopes depends on the source of the red envelopes. There are only three kinds: relatives and friends of the man's parents, relatives and friends of the woman's parents, and relatives and friends of the newlyweds.
It is suggested that no matter how many wedding banquets are held, the red envelopes should be counted after each wedding banquet, and the proportion value of the above three sources should be calculated according to the amount of red envelopes obtained from the three sources. Note that this ratio value is not the number of people, but the final red envelope amount ratio value.
Because individuals are different, there may be many people, but less red envelopes are given, or some people are less, but everyone is big. Therefore, it is more reasonable to calculate the proportional value according to the final amount. After deducting the cost of the on-site wedding, we will distribute the remaining amount of the red envelope according to the above-mentioned proportional value, and each person will take the balance in proportion and return it to his own person in the future.
At present, the cost of the wedding should include not only the cost of the banquet, but also the cost of the public relations company, alcohol and tobacco, the hard work of the best man and bridesmaid, the rental fee, the hotel accommodation fee and so on. For example, at a wedding reception, there are always ten tables, eight tables for the man's parents and relatives, one table for the woman's parents/kloc-0, and one table for the newlyweds. According to the total amount of red envelopes of the last three parties, the amount of red envelopes is 7: 2: 1, and the normal wedding expenses are 1 ten thousand yuan. A total of * * * received the red envelope 1.2 million yuan, so after deducting the expenses, there is still 20,000 yuan left. The remaining 20,000 yuan will be distributed by the three parties in proportion. If you only receive a red envelope of 80,000 yuan, there is still a difference of 20,000 yuan, and you must make up the difference of 20,000 yuan in proportion.
There are also some parents and elders with good economic conditions who will give newlyweds red envelopes as reserves after marriage. This is another way of saying it.
When collecting red envelopes on the spot, even if the ownership of red envelopes is arranged, there will be many unexpected problems on the wedding day. I once saw a host family collect red envelopes at the sign-in desk at the door and open the inventory site to keep accounts on the spot. As a result, there was a long queue at the door. Guests with fewer red envelopes are also ugly. Experienced guests will congratulate in advance before the wedding reception and present red envelopes or gifts to avoid the chaos on the wedding day, and the host will be impressed. If it can't be delivered in advance, on the day of the wedding reception, the words of blessing and signature will usually be written on the red envelope, so it is not easy to make mistakes.
On the day of the wedding reception, the host is responsible for welcoming guests. Usually, two trusted relatives and friends are arranged to receive red envelopes, and the unsigned red envelopes are written with the names of the guests. When there are many people, they will occupy each other's seats and supervise each other when there are few people.
According to Cantonese custom, relatives of in-laws should send gold bracelets, necklaces or rings, and the bride should bring them on the spot. The more you bring, the more you get recognition from your husband's family. These gold wares are valuable, and many people have many things in their eyes. It is common for them to disappear carelessly. The newcomer not only got nothing, but also wasted the hearts of relatives and friends. Therefore, when dealing with these gifts, someone should carefully record the names of the guests, the types of gifts and the number of pieces.
Hong Kong people like to use cash very much, and there will be checks to send large gifts. Cheques are very thin, so they are easily lost when mixed with cash. If this happens, checks should be handled separately from cash. When you receive a check, pay attention to whether the name, date and amount of the check are correct. No matter how much money or gifts the guests give, don't look unhappy. Everything that money can solve is trivial. Don't mess up the atmosphere because of trivial matters. The elders really care about taking these red envelopes and taking them with them. We are all young, and Jamlom will make money back soon. Let's take it as a tribute to their growth.
Therefore, the above is the way to deal with wedding money, I hope it will be useful to everyone.