To tell the truth, when I first read your story, I didn't know how to write it. After reading it for the second time, I found it more difficult. Marriage is not the same as falling in love. It is not a question of love, affection and affection between two people, but the combination of two families behind two people, plus your own small family, which is the close combination of three families. Originally, the banquet was for relatives and friends to bless the couple together, but it gradually evolved into a comparison of status and face; Originally, the wedding ceremony should be a pairing of two newlyweds, as long as they like each other, but it turned into a bride price bargaining. This is the real problem of traditional marriage now, not only the problem you encounter, but also the embarrassment that many boys face when they face the powerful relatives and friends behind their beloved girlfriends. When the ideal meets the reality, everything seems so powerless.
You said that your girlfriend was born in a single-parent family, and her mother loved her too much to wash dishes. She looks a little lazy, but she has many other attractions for you, so laziness is not a problem at all. No one is perfect. As long as she is kind, filial to her mother and your parents, and deserves to be deeply attracted by you under the pressure of parents' disapproval, you will definitely have a happy married life.
You said that her family married women and sold them, but in fact it was very different in nature. The mother raised her daughter by herself and doted on her. Marrying your daughter certainly doesn't want her to suffer indignities in the future. Because of the traditional concept in China, after a girlfriend gets married, she will either move out with you, or you two will live together in your in-laws and at least two will live together in your mother-in-law's house. As the old saying goes, "the water spilled by the married girl", so you look at life, family and girls cry, and you have never seen a man cry. I don't need to tell you why. There are too many regrets. Therefore, many women's parents ask the man for more bride price money. Many times they don't really care about how much money they have to pay, but subconsciously want to give the man a warning and tell him that my daughter is not so easy to marry. You should be kind to my daughter, and you should know how to cherish my daughter in the future.
I don't think it's necessary to compare the bride price money with their custom. As long as your girlfriend's mother wants to pay a relatively reasonable bride price based on your family's economic conditions, you can still consider accepting it. Now that your girlfriend's mother hasn't paid the final bride price, you can bargain again. You don't have to be so angry. This is not love, it doesn't make sense by feeling. It doesn't matter if you let go of bargaining. You don't need to come forward and let other elders help you.
It is not suitable to confuse bride price with emotional things. Many men feel that talking about money hurts their feelings, so when it comes to bride price money, many newcomers give up because of improper discussion. In fact, I think if your girlfriend deserves your love, it is worthwhile to make a proper compromise with your mother on the bride price for her!