The real reason is not ignorance, but knowing too much, the pressure of living cost is increasing, and marriage becomes fragile in the face of reality. In fact, it is for money, rice, oil and salt, and there is no time to think about what love is. First, the ceremony is a local custom, which is not available in every rural area and is not backward. It also gave birth to some practices of buying small shoes and underwear to crush the daughter-in-law. The woman doesn't want to be crushed, whether the man intentionally or unintentionally. Second, the woman prepared dowry and money, not naked marriage. Third, it was the man who asked for a divorce and a refund. There's been a misunderstanding. If the man doesn't push the woman, sweet words will never be enough. Originally, I looked up to marry a woman and bowed my head to marry a daughter-in-law. This man is not married, but quarrels every day.
Why are parents-in-law and daughter-in-law difficult to deal with, and as far as my village knows, daughter-in-law is more pungent than parents-in-law, but some parents-in-law are also very good. Son-in-law and mother-in-law generally have a good relationship, but some mothers-in-law are not good things either, so I think both sides are responsible, and the drums have been knocked.
Anyone who has bought underwear knows the difference between different brands and different cup types. In the middle of the night, when a man received a phone call from a woman, he proposed a solution. First of all, he will bring you a new one tomorrow. Second, he will use the old one first. What that woman said at that time was that I couldn't tell you. How hard is it to say? It is true that the mother-in-law was wrong first, but the woman's attitude can also be clear. She is not really married. There is also the fermentation process of this event on the Internet. Men really look very rhythmic, but women's words are different, that is, men dig holes aboveboard and women jump in aboveboard! It can be said that it is both greedy and stupid! Men are not a good match, and neither are women!
It's just that most of the responsibility lies with women themselves and society is objective. No one forces you, and you have no position, so you will be dragged down by social pollution. To put it bluntly, you have no thoughts, blindly follow the crowd, and harm others and yourself. A truly literate woman will not be taken away. Reading is very important, it can make people distinguish right from wrong, cultivate self-cultivation.
I think the poorer families in China now prefer to talk about money, especially marrying their daughters to Guizhou. The more wealthy people talk about marriage, they don't talk about bride price at all. This is the difference between the rich and the poor. The poorer people are, the more they like money. Am I right?
Mutual respect is the most important. The man didn't realize his mistake and touched the custom taboo. He should buy it again and respect the woman's custom. Give the bride the humiliation and get married. Why not let the bride get married happily? Isn't it happier?
This idea is unacceptable, the mind is unimaginable, and the mind should not be narrow-minded. Just buying a pair of underwear means that you want to wear small shoes, that is, you want to put the cart before the horse after marriage. Everyone wants their children to live well. Undoubtedly, if both sides make random guesses on a small matter, or even go online, then it is doomed that this marriage will be full of twists and turns and have a good life. If we understand each other and tolerate each other.
This matter is not as simple as buying a pair of underpants, but more shows that the man has insufficient respect for the woman, but I will not agree to such a marriage. Even if you get married, it won't end well. Although the family is a son, I also hope to give the woman enough respect. A clever mother-in-law must be kind to her daughter-in-law, so that her son will be happy. I must be a good mother-in-law in the future and make my son and daughter-in-law happy!
But more often, someone in the middle said how much to give, and finally the daughter-in-law got the bride price and finally the daughter-in-law got it back! Every time I go to pick up relatives, experienced old people will say, "When I go, I will be a grandson, and when I come back, I will be a grandfather!" At least the king married his daughter-in-law back! Those who have been sprayed for face rarely have a good result.
The most annoying thing is that if you have a son, you have to buy a house, and the mother-in-law who buys a house can't live. No one is forced to buy a house. Single men in our company are looking for partners after buying a house, and many women also have houses. Married people don't depend on either side, and they don't need their mother-in-law when there is a new moon in the next month. Besides, their mother-in-law doesn't necessarily like cooking! If there are these two contradictions, you can't escape the rules: the son has no ability to support his family; Being alive means that my mother-in-law's emotional intelligence is too low, and I don't know what to do in old age.
If the man wants to buy a house, the bride price is not a small investment. Excuse me, ladies and gentlemen, the woman is pregnant in October and has worked hard for decades to help her children with their lessons. Isn't the investment big? Isn't the dowry money? I want to ask, if a man can't even do such a small thing well, or his mother is busy, buy underwear for his wife. If he is not on the battlefield, not on the front line, not fighting the epidemic, then what efforts will his family make to get married for such a big thing?
Underwear is too small to change, and it's too late to add an underwear button. If you don't want to attend the wedding, you will find an excuse to say that your husband's family bought underwear on purpose. What is the poor quality? No matter how good underwear is, you can wear flowers. I often buy panties myself, let alone others. Why not buy it yourself or tell others your size?
In fact, this incident has evolved into two problems: one is to change the customs and simplify the wedding, and people's thinking of buying and selling marriage. Second, the newlyweds' personality and family style. Generally speaking, looking back on the whole story, I think the operation of the man's house is too slippery. From planning to buy a small wedding dress to fighting, Chinese wedding mother-in-law went to the stage in plain clothes to apologize, and various video networks violently attacked the bride. Finally, the groom deeply retained the bride. It is not only bride price and wedding customs that need to be rectified, but also online media!
What I hate most about this is not the woman's cheating on the bride price, but her family's disrespect for people! The young couple quarreled on the phone, and the bride's father actually picked up the phone and scolded the man's mother! And when I pick up my relatives the next day, I strongly demand that the man's parents apologize in public! It's so crazy to have a daughter, is it so cheap to have a son? And according to the man's later posts, it's not the first time! It's a shame to marry a daughter-in-law for your son! And this son, seeing a woman crying, feels distressed, but he doesn't feel distressed for his parents at all. He accompanied his parents to apologize again and again.
Marriage and family are the needs of the nation, the needs of individual families and the instinctive needs of both sides. The occurrence of today's tragedy is not simply the misfortune and sorrow of individual families and marriages, but a sign and trend of chaotic changes in the concept of marriage and family in the future. It is the expression of the conflict of ideas and interests between matriarchal society and paternal society! If it is really bought according to the size given by the woman, how can it be two yards smaller? It can only show that the woman gave the size and did not buy it according to the size given by the woman. The woman generously didn't care why she bought the wrong size, but asked for another one, but the man found various reasons not to buy it, deliberately angering the woman and causing her not to get on the bus.
It is not easy for a man to remarry. No matter what you say about men, we women have a steelyard in our hearts. Whether such a man can get married or not is really important. Besides, there are not many tens of thousands of bride price, and his family has grievances and didn't say that they can marry a wife for a high-priced bride price. Locals know better than we outsiders whether underwear is inferior.
The main reason is that there are more men than women, and women are becoming more and more arrogant because they are not worried about marriage. It's getting harder and harder for men to find wives. Women feel that if they marry a man, there will be contradictions and they will directly lift the table. So this matter has a very bad influence, and men will be more cautious about marriage. After all, if the money is invested, it will be gone. After marriage, it is best for both parties to set up a written evidence! Everyone is afraid of this.
Too many people think that the bride price is a tradition and an attitude. Look at Shandong Peninsula, women don't want bride price, but have dowry. Are their parents afraid that their daughter will not get married or have a bad attitude? Then, as long as children like being poor, it is not a problem for their parents, let alone a bride price. It's really ridiculous. At first, the bride's headline was strong, saying that the man asked for a refund of the bride price after being rejected. If you want to return the bride price, you can't even return it, let alone all of it. Everything will be decided by the court. However, the bride sent a tough message in the morning and returned the bride price in the afternoon. What's the matter? How can you return the bride price so soon? But at noon the day after the bride posted the article, the groom was interviewed and told the truth. The size of underwear was bought according to the size requested by the woman.
The man gave the woman 20 thousand yuan to buy new clothes, but the woman didn't buy them. The man's mother went to buy the land herself and bought it according to the area the woman said. Underwear doesn't fit unless you buy it yourself, and people have to buckle their hats when you buy it. It was sent in the afternoon, but it was inappropriate to say it in the middle of the night. Where can people buy it? The wedding procession didn't wear makeup, wedding dresses and doors. They wear cotton-padded clothes and talk around their hands. They looked up and married their daughter, holding their heads too high, not afraid to flash their necks?
The woman said that the dowry of 65,438+10,000 yuan was lying at home without moving a penny. The man holds a wedding banquet, buys alcohol and tobacco, takes wedding photos, invites a wedding company and hires a wedding motorcade. It's all real money The woman refused to send a wedding banquet, and the man's wedding banquet was arranged, and the bride could not be received. Isn't it normal for the man to lose face in front of relatives and friends? It took five days to return the bride price money. If it weren't for the fierce online public opinion, I don't know if the bride price will be refunded. The woman insisted that the man's attitude was not good, but the whole incident showed that the man's logic was clear, reasonable, in line with the facts and real money. In addition to pretending to cry and sell bad things, the woman's preface in the self-report is irrelevant and the reason is far-fetched. She has not lost a dime, and she is not even prepared to return the bride price in full. Judge high and low. But a logical bystander can see right and wrong at a glance, and those who support the woman can't find any strong evidence except the man's bad attitude. Isn't this an obvious disregard for the facts? Even your own daughter can't be unreasonable.
Many people say that the man spent so much money on marriage. I really shouldn't care, but I think it's useless to talk to my husband about it. In fact, as we all know, it's no big deal if the daughter-in-law is angry with her mother-in-law after marriage. What should be done in many ways is that she does a good job, except for some small things that make you feel hypocritical, not wronged, and men still think you are stingy and useless. Some mothers-in-law are not good, so they don't let men or outsiders see them. She just makes you hate it and make you swallow it. I can't help it. I don't think it's worth a divorce, but you will never be happy in marriage. All women know, everyone knows that thing between women.
This incident really worries parents with daughters, and I can understand it. Men and women are different and never equal. From the difference of physiological structure, divorced men will easily remarry whether they have children or not, and no one calls children a drag bottle. This woman is different. The first person who has lived together will be shorter if her husband's family knows about it. If you accidentally marry your son, you will be looked down upon by your husband's family, and you can directly cut off the agreed bride price. When a girl's mother-in-law gives birth to a child, she divorces first, and the woman's fate is to leave with her daughter in her arms. If she takes another step, her value will depreciate and she will take a drag bottle. The ending of the second marriage is often unhappy.
Our ideology is to be strong, and if we like men, our mother-in-law is not a problem. But as such a unruly and willful woman, haggling over every ounce to this extent has really refreshed people's three views. Can't my mother-in-law live if she is not good? Is there nothing I can do if my mother-in-law is not good? Can't we live together?