Before liberation, when children were born, relatives and friends should give gifts to congratulate them. Most of the gifts are eggs, noodles, sugar, pork, oil and chicken. Three days after the birth of the woman's first child after marriage, the son-in-law will go to her mother's house to report the good news (after giving birth to the second child). Children's clothes, shoes, socks, hats, skirts, chickens, eggs, meat, oil, glutinous rice, noodles, sugar and other things are all prepared by parents' in-laws, and given to the man on the day of "full moon wine" or before the full moon (about 7 days or half a month), which is called "playing three dynasties". My sister, sister-in-law, aunt, aunt, etc. Going to the "Three Dynasties" is a monthly ceremony. The man gave a banquet to give gifts to those who came to "fight the Three Dynasties". The richer the family, the richer the monthly gift.

Since the second child, the ceremony has been simplified. Children shave their heads and take nicknames at the full moon. When you are old enough to eat, when your relatives and friends hold a wedding banquet, you can hold the child in your arms and let the prestigious elders feed you some wine and meat. This is called "carrying a meat". Some rely on their fathers and ancestors to "eat meat" at home. Only those who have reached the age of 60 and whose parents have died are eligible to "run a life" and enjoy the birthdays of their children and younger generations. For the 70-year-old, 80-year-old, 90-year-old and centenarian, children and grandchildren will have a grand birthday party. Some people not only hold banquets, but also hire troupes to "play with friends" and "play drums" (sing Sichuan Opera with drums). Relatives, friends and neighbors usually send money, sugar, wine, meat and other things, and married daughters and granddaughters also send birthday hats, shrouds, shoes and so on. Fu Kun, the official, sent more birthday plaques, birthday couplets and birthday accounts. Poor families generally don't treat people on their birthdays, and the whole family has a fair-weather meal.

After liberation, in the 1950s, many old people in cities and rural areas had children, relatives and friends to celebrate their birthdays. In the 1960s, students could do less. Since the 1980s, there have been more and more birthdays for urban and rural students.

funeral

Before liberation, the folk funeral custom was strongly superstitious, and there was a great difference between the rich and the poor in paying homage. The rich prefabricated coffins and graves before they were born. Before the old man died, the children and grandchildren stood in front of the bed and held their breath. This is called "farewell". Children from other places were lucky enough to catch up with "Death", but unfortunately they didn't. After falling, people burn paper backwards, shave their heads, clean themselves and get dressed. Some are wrapped in white silk or white cloth, moved to nave, laid flat on a wooden board or mat, and left for a day or so, and then put the coffin into the coffin (the coffin has two layers, the inner thin wooden box is the coffin and the outer layer is the coffin), which is called "burial".

After the death of the old man, children and grandchildren should pay their respects to their relatives, commonly known as "Xiao Xie", and bow and kowtow when they meet their relatives along the way. Daughters and daughters-in-law want to mourn, set up a mourning hall in nave's house, light foot lamps, put a mourning room in front of them for the memorial tablets of the deceased (some have photos), invite monks to do Dojo, and invite wizards to do "ceremonies" (to clear the way for the deceased, avoid disasters for the living, and clean up the filth in the house, etc.). ), and invite students (a kind of Taoism) to chant Buddhist scripture, 1 day to 2 days. Please also ask someone to write a eulogy (farewell sacrifice, guest sacrifice, road sacrifice). Three meals a day are served in front of the spirit, and children should bow, kowtow and kneel. During the Dojo, when relatives, friends and neighbors come to mourn, children should also bow and kowtow to the mourners.

Yin and Yang should be allowed to choose the address of the grave and the direction of the funeral. On the day of the funeral, a funeral ceremony should be held, and filial piety should be held (some are only for the closest relatives, some are filial piety, and those who come to mourn should be given 3 feet, 5 feet or 7 feet of white cloth). Relatives and neighbors send more toilet paper, money, sacrifice accounts, etc. At the funeral, the dutiful son holds the coffin or portrait and leads the way with the coffin. When the survivors, the younger generation, the sacrificial coffin and the band take a break, all the dutiful sons must kneel facing the coffin and start the coffin before they can get up and walk. The more dutiful, the more band, the more followers, the more tragic and glorious. When burying, first burn the pit with straw and money paper (paper made of money drill), then go down to the coffin, pray, cover the soil, cry and lay the grave. A stone was used to build an "inner lane" at the foundation of the grave, while others built an "outer sign", carved stone tablets, built a grave platform and built a grave pavilion. The first three nights after burial, the children will go to the grave to send their heads. Every day, they prepare knives (pork sacrifices) and toast to burn paper in front of the grave, commonly known as "burning seven".

After death 100 day, burn one hundred times, and burn at the age of one year for the anniversary. In the Qing dynasty, after the death of parents, the female generation had to be filial for three years, and there was no wedding banquet or wedding for three years. Widows are not allowed to remarry for three years after the death of their husbands. During the Republic of China, this custom gradually changed. Funerals in poor families are simple. After the old man died, he temporarily found some thin boards to make a fire box. Extremely poor people even wrapped their bodies in garbage and straw, buried them in poor soil and built a mound. Tenants should plead with the landlord, buy or want a cemetery, and be allowed to be buried.

After liberation, with the popularization of culture and science, the old funeral customs gradually changed. There is no Dojo and filial piety in the countryside. Generally, the deceased in urban organs will post obituaries, hold regular memorial services, wear black veil for their children, and send offerings, wreaths and elegies to relatives and friends and colleagues. /kloc-in the autumn of 0/978, the county funeral home was built to provide convenience for the funeral of county residents. The people's government advocates thick cultivation and thin burial, cremation and the reform of burial.