First of all, a big gift
After the gift, that means it's a deal. The two sides agreed on this marriage, and the man's family sent the bride price to the woman's family, and this marriage was no longer repented. Of course, before giving gifts, there must be a matchmaker in the middle to fully communicate. If both parents or men and women agree to this marriage, they can have a big gift. Gifts are usually given three months before the wedding. The gift the man wants to give depends on his family's family circumstances and generosity. Generally speaking, it is a roast suckling pig, a pair of wedding cakes, a pair of cocks and hens, a pair of male geese and a pair of female geese, and then an Italian town (the amount of red envelopes is relatively large), a pair of coconuts (meaning coconuts have children), a plate of red dates, half a plate of peanuts and an orange tree.
The gift-giving ceremony is much simpler now. The man brings a letter from Italy, which usually costs 3000 to 10000 yuan. The man will also increase the money that the woman gives gifts to relatives. Because before marriage, the woman's family will send a dozen red and white wedding cakes to relatives. Half of the wedding cake is made of sugar wax gourd and half of it is made of lotus seed paste, which is given to elders or close relatives.
In the man's gift, if he has money, he will get a suite and a car, but this is still rare. If the family is poor, send a1800,2800, which means it is a good start, that is, a hundred years is good. At the same time, bring coconuts, a pair of chickens and a pair of shochu. The parents of both sides met this time and then set a wedding date together.
Second, make the bed.
When you get married, you need a new house and a new bed, which is necessary as a man's family. The time to make the bed is the day before the wedding. The bed should be made by a good woman. What is a good woman? Refers to a woman who has given birth to many children, especially sons. She not only raised her sons well, but also worked smoothly and had a happy family. Of course, in this era, many of them are paved by big-breasted girls. Sister Dajin refers to an important person who helps to preside over the wedding. )
After laying new sheets and quilts, put lotus seeds, even peanuts and even dates under the bedspread. This is used to press the bed on the wedding day. Of course, we have to put two interest letters at the end of the bed and put a pile of interest on the bed with plates, so that on the wedding day, we can get a new house for our married brothers and sisters.
Third, innovation.
Chongxin is also called refreshing. This modern man is not well known. It is also a shower to catch up with the new. The time is the night before the wedding, and the bride and groom are in their own homes. The process is: boil hot water with grapefruit leaves and citronella. After cooling, the couple will use this water to wash their faces and wipe their bodies. Then put on new pajamas and slippers and wait for dawn. The moral of innovation is to wash away filth, exorcise evil spirits and start a new life.
But it is very simple for modern people to rush into the new one, just take grapefruit leaves and citronella and rush under the shower.
Fourth, the top
The night before marriage, both men and women comb their hair in front of the mirror at home, which is called topping.
In the old society, men were dressed by the oldest person in the family, such as grandpa, and combed their hair with a comb. In the new era, aunts, aunts or fathers can also do it. The woman was opened by her elder sister-in-law. It used to be like this now.
The tool above is: use a semicircular comb to tie a cypress leaf and a pinch of red rope. Cypress stands for a long marriage. The tail of the comb should be tied to a profit market, and there is some money in it. Sister Dajin sang some auspicious words while combing her hair:
Comb to the end; Qi Mei with white hair; Three combs, Sun! In the old days, there were ten combs, namely, four combs were in good weather; Five combs are smooth; Six combs, husband and wife respect each other as guests; Seven to ten combs. But in modern times, it is simplified to three combs.
After wearing it on the head, the red rope cypress leaves of the comb are tied to the hair of the bride and groom respectively, which lasts until the end of the wedding the next day.
After that, I wanted to eat sugar water. My mother held out the sugar water made of lotus seeds, lilies, raw red beans and eggs. Newcomers have to drink sugar water.
Fifth, open your face.
Opening a face means that the bride has to pull the hair off her face before getting married and putting on makeup. This is called opening a face.
In the past, women used to wear less makeup, so the bride wanted to look beautiful and dress up more beautifully before putting on makeup. This was basically the case during the Republic of China. Modern women have more make-up and less hair on their faces, so they can make up simply by opening their faces.
Marriage in Guangzhou can be divided into three stages according to time.
① Premarital ceremony
Prenuptial ceremony can be divided into six steps:
The sooner the better. The man asked the matchmaker to propose to the woman with a gift.
Second, ask the name. After the proposal, both men and women will exchange their birthdays. If the "eight characters" of men and women are suitable for marriage, marriage can get down to business.
Three days, Najib. Actually, it's an engagement ceremony, and we should invite wine to congratulate you on this day.
Fourth, levy. Commonly known as "dowry" or "gift money", the gift money given this time is thicker than that given when accepting the gift money, and the ceremony is more grand.
Five days, please invite. After the bride price, the man chooses the wedding date, solicits the woman's opinion, and the two sides agree on the wedding date.
Six days to welcome the bride. The last important procedure before the wedding. The man's family sent representatives to the woman's house to meet the bride; The woman's family received some (but not all) gifts from the man's family, and expressed gratitude in return.
② Appropriate wedding
Etiquette on the day when the bride arrives at her husband's house. Both the bride and groom worship heaven, earth, ancestors, parents and each other. Subsequently, the bride, accompanied by the groom, presented "holding the heart" (that is, daughter-in-law) tea to her parents, elders and relatives and friends who congratulated her. After drinking tea, tea worshippers should give the couple a "profit market" (that is, a red envelope). The male family then hosted a banquet to entertain relatives and friends. During the banquet, the bride and groom should toast one by one and offer tea before the banquet is over. Before entering the bridal chamber, the bride and groom should drink lotus seed syrup with the goodwill of "having a son together"; Drinking "Lily Tea" means "harmony for a hundred years" and "Qi Mei with white hair"; Eat smooth olives, which means good, smooth and sweet.
③ Wedding
The newlyweds return to their mother's house on the third day after marriage, which is called "three dynasties returning to the door". This is the last ceremony of marriage. When I returned home, my husband's family prepared gifts, including roast pig, chicken and gift cake. The newlyweds must return to their husband's house before sunset that day; Moreover, the round trip should follow the original road when welcoming the relatives, and you can't "take two roads in three days."
New marriage customs
Since 1980s, a new type of wedding has appeared in Guangzhou, and the whole process of the wedding has been recorded as a souvenir.
Before the wedding, take wedding photos through the wedding photo studio. Usually, the bride and groom will invite their unmarried friends to be groomsmen and bridesmaids (commonly known as "brothers" and "sisters") in advance. On the wedding day, the bride is accompanied by "sisters" to the beauty center agreed in advance for hair design and makeup; The groom's "brothers" are dressed as floats: flowers, ribbons and colored balls are hung or stuck on the car, and two foreign dolls, a man and a woman, stand in front of the car. When the auspicious moment comes, the groom leads all the "brothers" to the bride's house to meet her. At this time, the bride's "sisters" will strictly guard the gates at all levels to prevent the groom from picking up the bride easily. They will compete with the groom and his "brothers" for the "profit market" (commonly known as "sister money") and get the "profit market" to open a door. Some will hide the bride's shoes until the groom "begs for mercy" and "gives up". At this time, all the brothers and sisters crowded around the bride and groom to go to the man's house. Sometimes, even if the bride's house is close to the groom's house, the float will pass through Jixiang Road, changshou road, Wanfu Road and Baizi Road. It took a long detour to get a good meaning. Later, accompanied by the groom, the bride returned to her family, commonly known as "returning to the door." At the wedding banquet, the bride and groom should toast each seat; After the banquet, there will be tea, and the guests will give each other gifts with the benefits of the market. During the whole wedding process, some brides will change 2~3 sets of clothes and wear western-style white wedding dresses when welcoming guests; The banquet wore a traditional red skirt; When the guests are sent away after the banquet, they will put on colorful cheongsam. The menu of the wedding banquet is also very particular. If it is the first marriage, there must be a dish of "roast suckling pig"; There is also jujube lotus seed soup, which means "early birth of your son", and sweet soup and sweet cake, which means sweet wedding. After the wedding reception, the host family will give back the "profit market" to the guests.
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