HOHO, since you belong to the woman's family, it's much easier and there's not so much trouble.

Here's the thing:

At least six months before the wedding day, the parents of both sides should meet once, usually the parents and elders of the woman come to the man's house, which we call "recognizing the door" locally.

Then, about three months before the wedding, parents, elders and matchmakers of both sides sit together and agree on the wedding date, which is called "engagement" and "date selection" locally. Then the man will give the bride price and jewelry to the woman's home. The specific amount depends on the agreement and economic strength of both parties.

The day before the wedding, the man will invite the matchmaker as a guest. There is no theme, just thank the matchmaker and arrange tasks and processes for the matchmaker on the wedding day.

The night before the wedding, the man and the woman can't meet.

On the wedding day, before dawn, the man's family will send someone to the woman's house and the man's own door to post the word "big red and purple"

On the wedding day, the man went to the woman's house to meet him. When entering the door, the woman's parents should be called "parents", and the woman's parents should "find money" for the groom.