The four major folk customs in Lianyungang (marriage) poke the pot cavity to pray for marriage and let the boat go for courtship, regardless of gender. 12 years old, no one proposed, and parents became nervous. In the evening, the boy pounded the pot pool with a fire fork and said, "Poke the pot cavity and pound the pot hole, and get married this year. Say a flower daughter-in-law and offer more offerings in front of the pot owner. " The girl was shy, and her mother did it for her, just like the boy said, except that the name of the person who prayed for marriage was added and the daughter-in-law was replaced by a little son-in-law. Older girls who live in fishing villages near the mountains and seas use the back shells of swimming crabs or the back bones of giant squid as hulls to make exquisite masts, downwind flags, cranes and dragons. Decorate fish bones as souvenirs. On the morning of March 3 every year, the girls will take a boat to the upper reaches of Tonghai Mountain Stream and put the boat in the stream by the sea. When the boat was picked up by the young men, they took the token to the woman's house to propose marriage, and the woman could recognize that the token was indeed a homemade marriage. This way of courtship has become a common practice for thousands of years. On March 3 every year, young men go to the seaside to wait for the boat and are not allowed to go up the mountain. Girls are not allowed to go to the seaside when the boat goes up the mountain. Some older men and women, who meet privately about the form of keepsakes and expand the time and place of the ship, usually get what they want and help many lovers. Hire a matchmaker to match Cambodian men and women to the age of engagement. Parents take a fancy to their children (usually the man takes the initiative, as the saying goes, there are hundreds of women in a family). First, hire a matchmaker to inquire about each other's age and calculate whether they can get married according to the zodiac and the five elements. The traditional formula is: "a white horse is a green cow, once the mouse stops being hot, the snake and the tiger are twisted like knives, and chickens and dogs shed tears", which is called the four taboos. The five-element formula is "Jin Kemu, Mutuke, Tukeshui, Shuihuoke and Huojinke", which is called "Five Elements of Mutual Understanding". Generally speaking, as long as you don't commit four taboos and the five elements don't agree with each other, you can be a relative. At this point, the matchmaker can go to matchmaking, which is commonly known as matchmaking or marriage proposal. After both parents agree, the man's parents only write one or four words to the woman, the man writes "sincere" or "sincere promise" and the woman writes "promise" or "respectfully answer jade". This kind of engagement is called "opening Cambodia" or "squeezing the mouth", not a formal engagement. After Cambodia began, the man chose an auspicious day, prepared a wedding banquet, invited the matchmaker, ghost writer, patriarch and uncle to dinner, and formally wrote an engagement letter to the woman. After receiving the Cambodian man, the woman left a red line, wrapped it with the original green line, and then gave it back to Four Treasures of the Study or a pot of evergreen. This process is commonly known as preaching Cambodia or making small gifts. After the wedding, the man invited the matchmaker to the woman's house to discuss. After the parents agreed, they wrote down the girl's date of birth on red paper, commonly known as "Kun Zao Xing Geng" or Sheng Kaigeng, which was passed on by the matchmaker to the man. The time direction of the happy period, the happy room, the happy bed, the wedding ceremony, and the opening of men and women are all calculated and determined according to the eight characters of the woman's birth. The calculation process is called "matching years", and the items matching years are written on Khmer Rouge stickers, commonly known as "matching" or time book. Inform the woman of the date of marriage, also known as the date of delivery. In order to facilitate the bride to prepare a dowry and spend all kinds of happy events, she should give a heavier gift, which is called a big gift. There are generally four kinds: one is four clothes, of which there must be a warm coat and a cotton-padded jacket; Second, four or eight pieces of gold and silver jewelry; The third is the amount of gifts that are not waiting; The fourth is a pistachio with multiple packages. It depends on the family situation when the society is popular. Men are rich and women are poor, and the gift money is enough for the woman to get married. The man's family is poor, so he can only send two pieces of cloth to his cotton-padded jacket. The days of make-up and wedding celebration are three days. The first day is called makeup. Both men and women like to prepare all kinds of happy events. This woman is the busiest. In the morning, she will entertain guests, one of which is a farewell banquet for the bride and little sisters. The woman should send all the dowry to the man's house, which is commonly known as "dowry". After all the dowry arrangements are ready, my uncle will look at it himself, lock it and give the key to the bride. Generally, people who marry ginger are divided into four grades: two cabinets, four cabinets and chairs, and eight big ones and eight small ones. Very rich people have "whole house management", that is, all the household necessities are available, and some also give away blue bricks and gold blanks wrapped in red paper. A brick represents a row of salt flats, and a piece of earth gold represents a hundred acres of fertile land. The dowry is enough for their daughter to live a good life after marriage. Extremely poor families can't pay their dowry, so they have to wear aprons as a burden. Therefore, there is a saying in public opinion that "a daughter who cannot accompany her will spend endless years." On the day of make-up, the man's family will worship his ancestors and put up red couplets. In addition to the dowry received, the sedan chair carrying the bride will be sent to the woman's home. There should be boys pressing the bed at night. The next day is an auspicious day, that is, after the bride closes her eyes, she will go to the man's house in a sedan chair. As soon as the sedan chair left, her mother and sister-in-law cried for marriage. If she doesn't cry, she is mute. When the groom's family holds a big banquet to welcome guests, there must be a table for the groom and his brother, called accompanying Langjiu. The bride enters the door at noon, sitting in wealth, paying homage to the bride, drinking a glass of wine, and making a noise in one room. On the third day, it was called three points. The bride and groom worship their elders, hold pots, have a reunion dinner, make a smile and enter a normal life. Being an official, being a queen, gaining power, is said by the people to be "married to be a mistress". On the wedding day, the groom puts on brand-new holiday clothes and inserts velvet flowers (splendor and wealth) on both sides of his hat, also called zhuangyuanhua. He can only dominate others all day, no one can dominate him, and even the local government can't interfere with him. As the saying goes, "be an official all your life", so it was named groom's official. The bride is also a queen on the right day. She was dressed in scarlet, with rosy clouds on her shoulders, a pearl crown on her head, phoenix shoes on her feet, three official mirrors on her head and three official scriptures in her hand, sitting in a sedan chair. There is a bright red umbrella in front of her, accompanied by Cary. Everyone, including the patrolling officials, will make way for the bride. Even if you pass by the cemetery of Miaomenheqiao, you will set off firecrackers to warn ghosts and gods to avoid it. Ruoruo road