Which county customs do you want to ask? There will be some differences between counties. Let's talk about Shan County. I'm engaged and I want to receive a bride price. Generally, the two families will discuss in advance the specific gift that the woman will bring you. These gifts are for clan relatives, such as a woman's uncle. On the day of engagement, the south will take the above things to the woman's house and the two families will have dinner together. Generally, some bride price and gift money will be returned. What is said on the internet about Heze's bride price is simply nonsense. Anyway, as a girl in Heze, I have never seen which one these are, and I may not know much about them. However, the bride price money is generally negotiated between the two parties and will not be asked at will. I hope I can help you.