Get married? Don't say whether it should be. If you really want to get married, then these things can be discussed. You can discuss who will marry. Custom and tradition are the same thing, but you should also consider the actual situation. Besides, due to regional differences, there should be many different places with different wedding customs.

As a matter of fact, both your families are going to have a wedding. According to the tradition in China, the wedding is presided over by the man. At this time, the woman can send a few representatives. When the wedding is held at the woman's house, only a few representatives of the man's family can attend the wedding.

May you live happily all your lives! Don't be embarrassed on this issue!