The bride arrived at the man's house and was led out of the sedan chair by her mother. When the man greets the guests off, he can't talk. As soon as he talks, the news of the marriage will be leaked. Because, in the past, as soon as the toast king heard the sound of marriage in the cottage, he would brutally demand the bride's "first night right." In order to minimize this tragedy, Tujia girls used to sneak into the village and enter the house when they got married. Traditionally, this custom is still used in some places.

The man's wedding team arrived at the woman's house the night before. While the young men in the wedding party were not paying attention, the accompanying girls wiped the young man's face with a pot of cigarettes painted on their hands in advance to see who found Moby (Tujia language means wedding manager). This custom has two meanings: one is to discredit Moby's face to tease the man; Second, when young men and women mentioned "Moby", they secretly married the right person, with traces of "robbing marriage" at the beginning and meaning of free love.