1. Prepare dowry, betrothal gift and wedding dress (i.e. levy).

The man needs to send a bride price to the woman, and the woman accepts the bride price. Then it is convenient for the woman to start preparing the dowry. The most important dowry is sewing a quilt. You must find a woman with two children and a living husband to sew it. When sewing a new quilt, you must sew it with red thread, not black thread or white thread. Sewing time must be in September of the lunar calendar, not in 10. Avoid sewing quilts by widows or people who don't belong to the bride, so as not to bring bad luck to the bride. The wedding dress worn by the bride should be brand-new. If it is old, the bride will be suspected of infidelity. In addition, wedding dresses are taboo, and cotton is the best. Avoid purse, so as not to take away her family's wealth.

2. Preparation and taboo of the wedding room.

The arrangement of the wedding room is called "paving the room" in ancient etiquette. The day before the wedding, the bride's family sent someone to the new house to clean up and prepare gifts for the greenhouse. As a new house, feng shui is very important. If you don't know Feng Shui, just because you like it, it's easy to do some harm to your later married life. Therefore, we should pay attention to the following points when arranging the wedding room: (1) It is best to choose the wedding room in a place with clear light and ventilation. (2) Don't make the bridal chamber colorful, which is easy to have extramarital affairs. (3) Don't hang wind chimes on the windowsill of the new house, which will easily make the bride nervous, dizzy and upset. (4) The new house should not cross the horizontal wall inside and outside the house, and couples are prone to quarrel. 5] When installing a new bed, put the bed in a proper position, not facing the sharp corner of the desk closet or something. The new bed also needs to put some auspicious items on the bed, such as lilies, red dates, lotus seeds, etc., which means a hundred years of harmony and early birth.

Second, the ceremony etiquette (wedding) in progress

1. Etiquette taboo when greeting (greeting)

The man greeted the bride according to the "invitation period" agreed by both parties. The number of people at the "wedding reception" should not be even, and the number of women sent to get married should also be even. This means that the man's family is "single" and "double", and with the addition of the word, the woman's double number is "double pair", which means to grow old together. If you meet another wedding motorcade on the way to the wedding, this situation is called "happiness", which needs to be solved by setting off firecrackers or exchanging flowers prepared in advance.

2. The bride's etiquette taboo

When the bride leaves home, she should cry with joy. The sooner she cries, the louder the better, so as to make her family prosperous. On the wedding day, the bride should not eat the rice of her husband's family. As the saying goes, "A chastened woman gains wisdom", which means that she has been wronged in her husband's family in the future, so she can only submit to humiliation and do what she is told. To avoid it, she only needs to eat vegetables instead of food. In addition, the bride should avoid stepping on the groom's shoes when she leaves the gate, and be careful not to step on the threshold when she enters the man's house. Violating any of them will bring bad luck to her family and her husband's family.

3. The groom's etiquette taboo

The groom-to-be should avoid sleeping in an empty bed on the eve of their wedding, and can find an underage boy to "press the bed" in order to have children early; When the groom's family holds a wedding, it is necessary to blow, blow and set off firecrackers. Let the bride enter the house noisily, and avoid being cold and cheerless. In addition, if the bride doesn't wait to enter her in-laws' house, firecrackers will be broken, causing the scene to be deserted, just like a funeral. People also think that firecrackers are "evil spirits". The happier the days are, the more evil spirits will be, and they must be driven away in time.

4. Taboo of other audiences

It is human nature to celebrate the wedding. As the saying goes, "come without being rude", it is natural to "raise money". The host family needs to prepare a bookkeeping book and remember "money". In the future, when people hold happy events, they will also "chip in", and the amount will be more than the gifts given by the other party. When the bride enters the man's house, aunt Weng, pregnant woman and filial piety should avoid each other to prevent conflicts. At the same time, widowed and remarried women and people wearing white clothes are forbidden to enter the bridal chamber, which is an ominous sign. On the wedding day, if you are bored,

Three: the taboo of marriage customs (marriage ceremony)

1. Three days after marriage, the groom accompanied the bride back to her parents' home, commonly known as "going back to her parents' home".

"Back to the door" must get back to her husband's house before sunset that day. In case of special circumstances, if you can't come back, you will live in the woman's house, and the husband and wife will sleep in separate beds to avoid conflicts with their families and bring bad luck to the woman's house.

Within four months of marriage, newlyweds are forbidden to spend the night outside.

No wedding or funeral is allowed. Don't look at others in the bride's mirror, because the bride's celebration is heavier, and looking at others in the mirror will lose the bride's blessing.

The six rites in ancient marriage are actually equivalent to the modern marriage law, which, like modern marriage, is a code of conduct based on the emphasis on marriage. Although most of the "Six Rites" were deeply influenced by ancient feudal superstitions in China, from another perspective, they also had their positive side. For example, men and women cannot meet alone before marriage. Although "the words of parents' matchmakers" have been criticized frequently in modern times, in the past, it avoided the ignorance and rashness brought by the age of early marriage and was conducive to the stability and long-term marriage.

Every place has different customs. For example, in Wenzhou, there are many ceremonies about the return of bride price, especially all aspects should show a face, and all aspects of red envelopes and wedding candy should be taken into account.