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Our wedding was originally scheduled for June, but for this accident, my fiance and I would have gone to Japan for our honeymoon now.
During the small holiday in May, Hangzhou's parents had an accident on the expressway. Hang's stepmother died on the spot, and his father was rescued in the intensive care unit for two days. Finally, he left.
After the car accident, the police called Hanghang. We were still communicating the details of the wedding with the wedding company. He hurried to the hospital and didn't sleep for two whole days.
When I arrived at the hospital, his eyes were red, bloodshot and full of pain. He hugged me and said, I'm sorry.
I know that his apology is not only an apology for the indefinite postponement of our wedding, but also an apology for the life I will face in the future.
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Hanghang and I are college alumni. He is four years older than me. When I was a freshman, he just graduated and missed college. I didn't expect that when I went to practice in my senior year, I happened to be in the securities company where Hanghang was located.
When the leader introduced me to everyone, he joked with Hangzhou and said that since I am from a school, Hangzhou will take me.
Hang looked at me and nodded to me with a smile. His smile is warm, gentle and considerate.
Hanghang is a very clean boy, handsome and tall. Although he is only four years older than me, he is much more mature than his peers. He is good at taking care of people and has strong working ability, but he will not give people pressure.
When I first arrived at a securities company, the pressure often made me breathless. Once I made a mistake in printing a document and was scolded by the leader.
I walked out of the leadership office in frustration, and tears came down unwillingly.
Sail up, pretend to pass me casually, and hand me a pack of tissues.
After that, navigation helped me.
He carefully explained the details of the work to me, paid attention to matters and comforted me. Take your time and relax.
After two months of internship, I have decided that I am not suitable for this high-pressure job. But I'm not lost at all, because I found my Mr. Right.
After graduation, I went to the bank under my father's arrangement, and the pressure was much less than that of a securities company. The most important thing is that Hang Hang and I are not in the same company, and we can enjoy the beauty of love freely and generously.
03
I have been in love for a year and went to my house by boat for the first time.
My parents also like sailing very much, saying that he is mature and steady, but after hearing about his family situation, they are very worried.
The aviation family is more complicated.
His father is a businessman. After he was admitted to the university by Hangkong, he divorced Hangkong's mother and married the present woman. That woman is only six years older than Hang.
Shortly after the divorce, Hang's mother became depressed and fell ill. To some extent, it was Hang's father who made his biological mother angry.
Since then, Hang and his father stopped talking, moved out early after work and rented a small apartment.
Many times, when my father didn't use his inheritance back, he didn't threaten him, and Hangzhou was unmoved. He said that after his mother died, his father was dead in his heart.
After that, Hangzhou's father and stepmother were artificially inseminated, and when they got old, the family of three lived in harmony.
Hang occasionally looks lonely and says that his dead mother is not worth it. From then on, he only felt that he was an orphan, and the closest person in the world was me.
Perhaps the unfortunate children at home cherish love very much, and Hangzhou loves me very much, tolerating my willfulness and my shortcomings. My classmates said that I found the treasure and found such a good boyfriend.
04
At the end of last year, Xiang proposed to me.
My parents finally chose to respect my opinion, but suggested that both parents must meet to discuss important marriage matters.
Although Hanghai was not feeling well, he invited my parents and his stepmother to sit together and discuss our marriage.
At the dinner table, Hang's stepmother said, "You didn't inform us until you got married, and you didn't come back to see it at ordinary times, so that others would say that I can't tolerate you."
The atmosphere of not talking on the plane is very embarrassing, and so are my parents.
Hang's father winked at his wife before she stopped.
Afterwards, my parents said to me, "It seems that Hangzhou's stepmother is not easy to get along with, and whether Hangzhou associates with them or not, your family relationship is simple after marriage."
Originally, my parents were thinking about whether Hang could make up with his father.
My parents are people with strong traditional family values and pay attention to human relations. But after this meeting, my parents felt that it was not just the aviation that had a scar in their hearts, but they had little contact with their father. His stepmother obviously doesn't want to make peace with his father. After all, Hang has the right to share the property with his son.
My parents agree with me and Hang Hang.
Rich people have rich people's troubles, and I am not good at those intrigues and twists and turns. I prefer the simple and happy life of Hehang now. Besides, our wages are not low, not to mention rich, but we can always have food and clothing.
After the agreement was reached, Hanghang's father bought us a three-bedroom finely decorated house, which was the only gift Hanghang accepted from his father as an adult.
I know his inner reluctance, but he wants to give me a better life.
My parents contributed to buy a parking space for us. With the help of the elderly on both sides, we entered a well-off life with a house and a car ahead of schedule.
In March, we went to the marriage registration office to get the certificate and started planning the wedding. We are busy and happy.
However, all this was destroyed by the bad news of my father and stepmother.
05
After dealing with the funeral of his father and stepmother, Hang has been busy dealing with the business of his father's company.
He had never been involved in his father's business before. His father died suddenly and the company had too many things to deal with.
After all, it was my father's life's hard work. After all, the company lives on dozens of people.
He often comes back late at night, hugs me and says he's sorry, so tired that he has fallen asleep.
I don't know how to say anything.
During this time, he is under great pressure. He must support his father's company and find a way to settle his half-brother who has just turned four.
Me too. My pressure is no less than his. We just got the license, and our marriage life has not officially started. What should I do in the face of a 4-year-old brother-in-law who needs to be raised?
The first time I met Hang's younger brother was at the funeral of his father and stepmother. He cried at the funeral and was taken away by the nanny. It's heartbreaking
It's really pitiful for such a young child to lose his parents, but if I have to take care of him all the time, I feel powerless and terrible.
This matter is also a headache for my parents.
On the one hand, the invitation letter has been sent out, and relatives have basically seen Hangzhou, and they all recognize him. On the other hand, my mother can't bear to face the situation of taking care of and raising her brother-in-law after marriage.
"Raising children is a particularly hard thing. You are almost equivalent to being a stepmother. " My mother couldn't help crying when she said it.
She advised me to get a divorce certificate in private with Hanghang before the banquet, leave Hanghang's home of right and wrong and start my own life again.
Don't I know what this means in my heart? To be honest, I'm not ready to be a mother myself. Hanghang and I had been thinking about having children for two years, and now all our plans have been disrupted.
But I can't bear to leave Hang Hang. He is the best man I have ever met and the sweetest and most devoted one in my previous love. I'm afraid I can't find a more suitable man without him.
I am even more reluctant to leave him when he is in the most difficult and needs me most. In this way, my heart will always be tortured, and I can't face a selfish self.
What should I do?
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I had mixed feelings when I saw the conversation in the stream.
If my child is faced with such a choice, I think I will persuade her to leave. Because raising a child is really not easy, especially if you are unprepared.
Mothers all over the world don't want their children to suffer, so your mother is right.
But as you said, at this time, you choose to leave, which is a heavy blow to your fiance (to be exact, it should be said that he is a husband, because you have obtained a license and are legal couples).
You are struggling. Obviously, you are a kind girl, you can't bear to hurt him, and you love him deeply.
As you can see from your description, Hangzhou's family economic conditions are good, which also enables him to hire excellent nannies, and the elder sister-in-law has been helping to take care of his younger brother. To some extent, this can help you share a lot.
One more thing, have you ever thought about looking for Hang's stepmother's mother and spending more money to ask her to take care of her grandchildren? On the one hand, the old man has just lost his daughter, and having a grandson around him can alleviate his sadness and loneliness. On the other hand, it is also important for four-year-old children to have relatives to take care of them.
You can honestly communicate your concerns and thoughts with Han Gang. This is a problem you have to face together, and it needs two people to solve it together. Maybe you can find a better solution.
Please also believe that Hang, a man who loves you deeply, will consider your situation and difficulties.
Measure in many ways, maybe you can find a better way.
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Worry-free: former media person, certified lecturer in positive discipline. Write emotions, parenting, stories. Use words to record life, and use stories to see human feelings. You don't know your age.