I don't know about the wedding market in Lanzhou, but in many places, women only accept gifts without spending money. They also have a point. My daughter has raised so many people to be your wife. How can she pay for it? Ha ha.
According to the custom in Wenzhou, the woman doesn't need much money (compared with the man).
Buy a set of tableware, get six kinds and buy a car with good conditions when you are engaged. Don't forget, the man should give gifts (the woman can earn some money without buying a car)
When I got married, all the furniture and appliances were bought by the woman, which cost tens of thousands of dollars.
Marriage depends on the financial situation of both parties. If the woman's conditions are average, it may not cost much.
Now they are all only children. When they get married, whoever has money will spend more. Anyway, most of them are for children. The reality of the only child and the change of concept have impacted the original set of customs and concepts, and now women also buy houses.
In fact, it doesn't matter which side spends more money, the most important thing is that two people have a good relationship. The wedding expenses should be handled according to your actual economic situation. Don't let your wife get into debt, because the burden is too heavy after marriage.