What is a "gifted scholar and beautiful woman"? Ms. Gao called it a "joint-stock marriage" in her book "The Scholar Culture in the South of the Yangtze River in the Late Ming and Early Qing Dynasties", that is, "a couple who are sensible, live in harmony and are full of respect and love for each other". Those "concubines" mentioned above, even if they are "knowledgeable" and "play the piano with a pleasant face", lack a respect after all. The "big woman" that Ming media is marrying can also be said to be another kind of "transaction". The marriage of the literati pays attention to the right family, and marriage is originally a strategy to control the local society. As Gao said in his book, in the traditional marriage under this concept, "the happiness between husband and wife can only be an unexpected surprise after the established facts." Zhao Mingcheng and Li Qingzhao in the Song Dynasty, Zhao Meng and Guan Daosheng in the Yuan Dynasty, Qi Biao Jia and Jing Lan in the Ming Dynasty, these enviable pleasures of husband and wife are really "unexpected joy".
Among the literati in Shaoxing in the late Ming Dynasty, Qijia and businessmen were naturally a match made in heaven. Yin Qi family, Qi Cheng, the father of Qi Biaojia, is a famous bibliophile, and he is the author of the Book Collection Agreement of Lianshengtang. Hui Jishang, the father of Shang Jinglan, the founder of Shang and Zhou Dynasties, the official to the imperial history and the history of the Ministry of War. He presided over the War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression in Fujian, and was famous for his incorruptibility and talent. As for Qi Biaojia and Jing Lan, they are also the best among them. Zhu Yizun's "Poem of Living in a secluded room" said: "The beauty of making contributions, the wife's affairs also have a message, and the boudoir sings along with it. The township party has the eyes of the golden couple. " Qi Biaojia, word _ text, number. Twenty-one years old, scholar. After his death, he became the governor of Dali Temple and Susong. After his death, he was given the Prince Taibao and the Minister of War. He is a capable and diligent senior official. Lan is a famous poet of boudoir before marriage, with both ability and political integrity. Mao Xiangxiong took a piece of praise note "Collection of Women's Books", which quoted Wei Geng's words, saying, "Mrs. Huiji's fame and virtue are heavy at one time, and the commentator wants to be the king's Mao Hong, Gu Jie has an Anshi", which means that Shang Jinglan's ability and moral integrity are comparable to Wang Dao and Xie An! Qi Biaojia also appreciates this wife. In a letter with her father-in-law, she said, "Make your wife virtuous, your family will be kind, and you will be called your daughter." The Chronicle of the Duke of Qi was written by Lao Wang Siren, saying that Qi was a "married woman who never had a concubine". In November of the fourth year of Chongzhen, Qi Biaojia was alone in Beijing, and wrote in his diary: "On the 11th, I was greeted with high spirits. Since winter, I have stayed up all night, and my friends have comforted me. Xiaoyu can often call. Why is he so lonely? Man Ying said, "If I give it to a non-fisherman, I am afraid to say,' Xiao Lang is a passerby from now on'! "In fact, ShangJingLan soon north, husband and wife reunited again. Search diaries and chronicles. During their 25-year marriage, Qi Biaojia worked in Fujian, Beijing and other places for about 10 years, except for many years at home.
Let's talk about the diary kept by Qi Biao's family, volume *** 15. In the first article "An ancient wife is like a friend", the lady said that Qi's diary "provides more.
Qi biaojia's diary
Qi Biaojia began to build a mountain garden in the ninth year of Chongzhen, and the construction of the garden never stopped until the year of his death. However, not only Qi Biaojia and his male friends, but also Shang Jinglan and other women stayed in the mountains. In his diaries, such as Lin Ju Shi Bi and Shan Ju Zhuo Lu, it is often recorded that he went up the mountain with his wife, drank wine with her, and took a boat with her. For example, in October of the ninth year of Chongzhen, which coincided with Shang Jing Lan's birthday, Qi Biaojia held a release party on the mountain. After all the social friends were released, the Zen master became close, experienced and boundless. Since the bootstrap society, it has been the most prosperous. In the evening, I hung it on the mountain and had a good time with my wife. "In the tenth year of Chongzhen, the Yushan Garden was first built. The Qi couple went boating on the moon, hung lights out of the water and planted vegetables." On February 12, they took their wife to Yushan. In the afternoon, my wife came back and enjoyed the moon by boat under the bridge of listening. ""April 19, my wife and I went up the mountain together. Let the slave hang the lamp in the water and the waves will disappear. " "On April 25th, my wife and I went to the garden, and Du Nuzi planted melons and vegetables. Read the Shurangama Sutra. " "Leap on April 12th, to the foot of the mountain. In the afternoon, my wife and I went back to the mountains to watch the moon and didn't go home until late at night. "
Sometimes, the Qi couple went to Yushan and worked together, for example, in the eleventh year of Chongzhen: "On the 23rd of the first month, Kyrgyzstan. Go up the mountain to supervise masonry and dam building. In the afternoon, my wife and I came back and planted flowers and trees on both sides. " "The sixth day of March, to the foot. Servants in charge of internal affairs gather tea for slaves and plant grass and flowers on pine paths. " In the twelfth year of Chongzhen: "On March 14th, my wife led the ladies-in-waiting to pick tea. Then give the wood to Sifu Hall and return to the address of Ji Yun and the East Building. " At other times, Shang Jinglan played the leading role and led the Qi family's mother, sister, aunt and two sons to Yushan. For example, in the ninth year of Chongzhen, "on August 24, my wife and sister called their mothers and called them in the mountains." Chongzhen Ten Years: "On the fifth day of September, Zou Rugong was sent back and Zheng Jiuhua came out of the mountain. My mother and aunts went to the mountains to see lotus flowers. " "On September 26th, I took my wife and two children up the mountain to supervise their study."
Ms. Shang
Outside the mountain, there are many couples traveling together in the diary. The following are only five excerpts from Guinan: "On the fifth day of the month, I want to buy a garden boat and go to Broken Bridge Lake with my wife. In case of strong wind, the ship will stop at Yu Garden. " On the afternoon of the tenth day of the tenth lunar month, my wife and I bought a lake square. We visited Jiangyuan, Yangyuan and Wengyuan from the broken bridge and parked our car under the pavilion. At dusk, we entered the forest, so we sailed west and returned to Daiyue, south of Gushan. ""12, out of town and enjoying the cool with my wife on the lake boat. " "14, 23rd, 23rd", I moved from Leifeng Tower to Dingxiang Bridge, walked leisurely on the embankment, and it was raining lightly, from Gui Zhuang of Hu Xin Pavilion. The storm raged all night. "QiBiaojia resigned and went back to the south this year, and she was not in a hurry to go home. Instead, I lived in Hangzhou for a long time with my family and visited the West Lake with my wife. Naturally, this is also the meaning of the question. After all, the west lake is hot in June, and sometimes W.
Qi Biaojia and monk Jinglan are deeply in love, and together they are not just lingering in the scenery. Moreover, whenever Shang Jinglan is ill, Qi Biaojia will feel anxious and take care of her. Shang Jinglan gave birth to eight children for Qi Biao. Adults have two sons and three daughters. Therefore, Qi Biaojia often "cares about her mother's affairs and manages the family affairs outside". For example, in December of the fourteenth year of Chongzhen: "On the ninth day of the ninth lunar month, my wife died of blood before the first month, so she almost fainted and stayed up all night for the wanderer." "On the first 10 day, the extended doctor, Ni Hanchu and Mr. Qian arrived one after another." "1 1, Yuan Liuqing's wife is getting better and better, so I don't want it. The snacks of medicine are rented every year, and there is no moment. " "14, at night, my wife was uneasy and lingered all night." "20th, Yukime. I am the wife of the security guard, because there is no trace of the teacher's ceremony when I worship Buddha in Zhu An Temple. In the evening, Zou bought ginseng and tonic for his wife. " "On 26th, Zhang Jingyue recuperated for his wife, and easily surrendered to medicine." On 27th, he managed the bait for the Jing people for several days, and managed various social affairs outside. From the entertainment at the end of the year to daily necessities, it is a combination. This is hard to say. "This time ShangJingLan is ill, seven standard hesitated for two nights. Invited famous doctors include Ni Hanchu and Qian surname. They also invite people to buy ginseng, go to Buddhist temples to seek safety, and so on. At the end of the year, Qi Biao's family has to treat their wives and take medicine, and they also have to entertain many family members. He is also a hands-on person, so "part-time job is hard to say." "
Watch the pilot
Unfortunately, in the seventeenth year of Chongzhen, the Ming Dynasty perished; In June of the following year, the Qing army went south and Shaoxing went out. Qi Biaojia's family advised him to go to Hangzhou to meet Baylor of the Qing Dynasty. The diary records: "On the fourth day of the first month, my uncle, brother Moon Jae in and nephew all came with books and advised him to go out to Wulin;" When you see the cloud, you can alleviate the disaster of your loved ones, and you can be a minister instead of an official. " However, Qi Biaojia decided to die, leaving a poem, which said: "It is difficult to succeed, but it is easy to die. In order to make a deal, I say keep it clean. Fortunately, it's for the children. Laugh into Jiuyuan and stay in heaven and earth. " Lan later wrote a "Mourning Poem": "I have been in love all my life. Yuan Jun is a big festival, and children are human beings. Fold the threshold before death and leave a monument after death. Although life and death are different, innocence and whiteness complement each other. She understands her husband's "eternal" vacation, but as a widow and a dependent child, she has to "still love life". Although their lifestyles are different, Bai Zhen complements each other.
Shang Jinglan lived for more than 30 years after her husband died. During this period, it is worth mentioning that there are two sons. Qi Biao's sons, Qi Biao and Qi Bansun, are also very talented, but they have more contacts with anti-Qing people. Later it was implicated in the Tonghai case. Qi Bansun was sent to Ningguta, and then fled back to the south to become a monk to escape the Qing court. At this time, he died of illness. In the end, there was only one widow left in the once prosperous Qi family, and the garden in the mountain had long been abandoned and became a temple. However, Shang Jinglan, a talented woman, has her own way of living in the desolation. With his daughter Deqiong, Dedi, daughter-in-law Zhu Derong, famous poet and teacher Huang and other relatives and friends are all book queens, while neighbor Wu is a female poet, forming a more lasting group. The so-called "grape tree, peony flower, say it several times." From the harmonious combination of husband and wife in those days to today's talented women's meeting, I finally found some comfort in my miserable old age.
Finally, we ended our mourning for my late husband with Lan's poem "Crossing the River to Cry for the Lord":
Tired of the long-term noise, I will spend the rest of my life in a quiet place.
At that time, where was the same person? Today, I drink tea.