Letting go is an engagement ceremony, also called making a promise. At that time, there were not many men and women who got married through free love, usually through the orders of their parents; Matchmaker's words. "However, the wisdom of the people has been opened, and both parties to the marriage have their own say. Therefore, among matchmakers, there are big media and small media. The big media is the bridge between relatives and friends, and the small media is the matchmaker.
Next, parents will tell their children about the situation and attach photos of each other. If both parties are interested, they can offer to see each other in person. Face-to-face is just to peek at the right place chosen by the matchmaker and let the two sides meet. After face-to-face, if you don't find yourself with great disability, you must put it down.
To choose a special day, give the keepsake given by the man to the woman through the matchmaker, and change the Geng stickers of both parties. Souvenirs are usually rings, bracelets or small jade. Because this man thinks that the valuable Geng post is a kind of folded post, which is used to write the birthdays of both men and women. Usually use the dragon and phoenix stickers printed by the paper shop. Dragon wind posts one passbook and two; Different colors, one red and one green. The red one is a man, and the green one is a woman, with yellow dragon and phoenix patterns printed on it. In the middle of the post, birthdays are written side by side. Who are "Ganzao" (the man) and "Kunzao" (the woman)? The case prepared by Geng Tienan; Ask someone to write it for you. The person who wrote Geng Tie asked for a "man with all the blessings", not a "man with four eyes". The so-called "all-blessed person" means that it is better to have children when the spouse is alive, but when the wife is pregnant, she becomes a "four-eyed person", which is not qualified.
At the same time, the matchmaker will bring the man's keepsakes and keepsakes back to the woman, and then complete the release procedures. The ceremony can also be agreed by both men and women to choose a restaurant to entertain the media, and the two sides will handle it face to face, jointly select the wedding date, and then go through the ceremony formalities.
Second, the gift:
The bride price is that the man formally informs the woman of the wedding date agreed by both parties and delivers the clothes and jewelry worn by the bride on the wedding day to the woman. There are also gifts for the woman. Gifts include goose wine (double goose wine or single goose wine); Fresh fish, pork leg, lamb leg, cake, etc. (Pastries are usually Longfeng cakes, Zhuangyuan cakes and crystal cakes) Take a shot of goose, wine and fish. Clothes and jewelry can also be lifted (rectangular table, with small railings around the table top and two sticks under it, carried by two people). Other food is a food box (rectangular double-decker wooden box, placed on a wooden frame with a stick in the middle and carried by two people). The above items are escorted by two media (a male media and a female media, both of which are official guests). Afterwards, the woman should
A leg of pig and a leg of lamb were given to two major media to express their gratitude.
Third, dowry
Dowry is a day or two before the wedding, and the woman will give the dowry to the man. At that time, the items prepared by the woman generally included clocks, bottles, hat mirrors, teapots, food rings, tea sets, washing utensils and toiletries. , along with boxes, clothes, bedding, jewelry, some families also secretly sent wooden furniture. In addition, there is a long-lived lamp, that is, a copper or tin lampstand, which is used to light grass. Transportation is both a high-rise building and a "nest neck" (that is, employees with shoulders). The lift of the same height can be divided into 32 lifts, 24 lifts and 16 lifts. It depends on the woman's financial conditions. If it is less than sixteen loads, find a porter to carry it. In addition to the two media, the accompanying personnel should be accompanied by two or four male guests. After the dowry is delivered to the man's home, the man will put the items in the new house properly and ask the makeup artist and guests to have a look. Some families will also find a trumpeter to play outside the new house, which is called a "ringing room".
Fourth, the wedding:
According to the custom at that time, the ceremony held on the wedding day was a wedding. "After a long drought, we meet an old friend in another country, and the wedding night is the number one scholar." In our country, it has always been a great pleasure to get married and hold a wedding. To this end, the man's wedding should stick a big invitation to relatives and friends, indicating the number of "married" men or grandchildren.
The bride got married in a sedan chair embroidered with red silk and was carried by eight people. There are a pair of umbrellas and mirrors in front of the car, twenty-four or thirty-two trumpeters (including eight drums), plus voiceless sounds. Before that, there were various flags, silent cards, fans, pairs of golden lamps, melons, axes, stools and so on. And there is a pair of gongs at the beginning. If the groom greets him personally, eight people with green embroidery carry a big sedan chair, and the groom sits in it and walks in front of the red sedan chair. As for the entourage, there are media, groomsmen, married people, compliments and so on, and then go to the woman to marry the bride.
After the wedding procession of the woman, all the grooms should visit the host of the woman and invite the bride to get on the sedan chair. All the people who attended the celebration sang congratulations and paid their respects. If the bride is invited to the sedan chair, it is praised as "Please invite the upstart to the sedan chair, please …" After three invitations, the old man helps the bride tidy up. The bride sat cross-legged and put down the curtains. The groom is still sitting in the green sedan chair. The groom usually wears national costume-blue robe, green jacket, small hat and green satin boots. Only wear red when you marry the bride. When you get to the woman, she asks her elders and relatives to dress the groom in red again, and it becomes double red. There are golden flowers in the hat, and all contacts are accompanied by the best man.
Welcome back the man, and the groom will take care of the sedan chair and rest in it. The bride's sedan chair was carried directly to the front of the auditorium and removed. At this time, a candle was lit in the center of the auditorium, and there was a memorial tablet of heaven and earth on it, which was scented by the invited "old birthday star" (the man's older elders). Between the altar and the sedan chair, there are two chairs on the left and right. Two female companions sit at the table and two female companions sit next to each other. At this time, the old man brought a tea tray with five cups of sugar tea on it. The companion's sister-in-law and aunt each have a bosom, and the other cup is carried by the old man. When the curtain is lifted, it passes through the carriage, presents it to the bride, and then takes back the cups one by one. The accompanying sister-in-law and aunt only take tea in their hands and don't drink it. After the tea was delivered, the giver praised, "Please invite the groom into Huatang. Please ... "After three invitations, the best man accompanied the groom into the hall. Praisers praise: "Bow upward" and "Bow to the sedan chair". The groom bowed out. At this time, the giver sang a poem and let the bride get off the sedan chair. The bride will be helped by the old man to stand in front of the altar and remove the sedan chair. Then invite the groom into the hall to worship heaven and earth and kowtow three times. Stand up after the ceremony. At this time, the giver praised: "Please celebrate the birthday of the old birthday girl, please …" After three invitations, the old birthday girl went to the hall. The tribute handed a longevity stick (made of straw) wrapped in red paper with a happy word inserted on it. Holding a longevity stick in both hands, the old birthday star first buckled the groom's crown three times and said, "How blessed people are and how long they can live"; Then buckle the bride's phoenix crown three times and read "Yongfu Water Ghost Yongkang Ning". The old birthday girl quit after her birthday. At this time, the editor praised: "Husband and wife worship." Men bow and women cheer. After the ceremony, sing to the bridal chamber with the bride and groom. At this time, the couple are connected by colored silk, and the groom backs off, leading the bride into the bridal chamber and sitting on the bed side by side, which is called "sitting on the account" (when going to the bridal chamber a few years ago, a boy and a girl were holding candlesticks. There is a red knot and a green knot on the candlestick. The two children each held a candle. Later, the red silk was given to the boy and the green silk to the girl. When sitting on the bill, the bride sits first. At this time, the groom took off the veil on the bride's head with the longevity stick used by the birthday girl. Only then did the bride show her true colors. Then, the best man and sister-in-law each hold a cup and invite the bride and groom to have a "toast". The bride and groom clink glasses separately, and the bride and groom drink separately. Immediately put on two small bowls of crystal sugar lotus seeds and exchanged some with each other as before. So "sitting on an account" is a gift. The groom quits and has a rest. At this time, the old birthday girl sent a burning code. The ceremony for welcoming the bride is finished.
Eating the first table: Eating the first table is a ceremony for newlyweds to eat the first meal at the same table. There is a square table in the hall, on which are all kinds of fruit bowls, wine sets and tableware. The bride and groom sit opposite each other, and the bride sits first. Plus, the bride * * * goes out for the first time for three times, which is called "entering the husband's house three times". Sitting sideways with my sister-in-law above and my aunt below. The best man has no seat, so he has to stand behind the groom. Together with other tourists, these guests can pour wine and cloth dishes for the bride and groom and say auspicious words. But none of the six people sitting here are allowed to really eat and drink. This is just a formality. After the banquet, the wedding was basically over. After that, we will worship our ancestors, elders and younger generations.