I suggest that you separate your ancestors from your father and set up a monument to your ancestors. It is best to collect your family as much as possible. The bigger the tombstone, the better. It must be bigger than your father's. Write a letter to the ancestral grave, and then find a prestigious elder in the clan to kowtow with everyone, hold a banquet and set off some firecrackers. If you put a monument to your father, you can write the tomb of an adult (female exam) first. If your mother is still alive, leave the position on the right side of the tombstone vacant, that is, write (female exam) first.