Different rooms on the wedding night
After traveling for a period of time, if the two sides are in the same mood, they usually give each other tokens in private or pledge their engagement. When the privately engaged men and women reached the agreed wedding date, the man invited several partners to "travel" in the woman's stockade and took her home by the way. According to the custom, the newlyweds can't share the same room that night, and the bride should be accompanied by the man menstruation for the night. The next day, the man asked the matchmaker to bring gifts to the woman's house to propose marriage. If the woman agrees, she will accept the gift and entertain the matchmaker. Subsequently, the woman prepares a gift equal to or slightly more than the man to give back to the man. When the man learned that the woman was in favor of the marriage, he hosted a banquet for relatives and friends who came to congratulate him.
Never leave your husband's house after marriage.
In the past, Miao people in southeastern Guizhou had the custom of "staying at home" after marriage. The bride returned to her parents' house shortly after her marriage. The bride arranged by her parents will return to her parents' home on the wedding day or the next day. Generally, underage women who marry early stay in their parents' home for six or seven years, and adult women for three or four years. In the meantime, you can only go back to your husband's family temporarily when you are busy with agriculture and major festivals, or when you encounter the funeral of your husband's family.
Miao people's wedding ceremonies include receiving umbrellas, offering sacrifices to ancestors, eating acacia wine, collecting happy water and fishing happy fish. When sending relatives into the group, you should sing songs such as "stop the door wine" and "horn wine" outside the door.
Freestyle wedding brides can go back to the groom's house after recognizing their relatives. The bride of classical marriage goes home to live after the wedding and stays with her husband for a few days until there is a wedding or funeral or busy farming season, which is called "bilateral living". When the bride went to her husband's house for the second time, her brother, aunt and sister-in-law picked up glutinous rice and served it with some fish and pork. The husband's family invited all relatives to "eat" and entertained guests from door to door. When you send guests, you should also give them ribbons. The bride stayed for ten days and a half months, and her husband's family also prepared the same gift to send her home and received the same courtesy. A few years later, the new wife officially settled in her husband's family. Before the "shaping cooker" ceremony, the newly married wife can only move one cooker. Miao people's marriage customs vary greatly from place to place, and their styles are unique. Some Miao people in Tianzhu area have the custom of singing with their partners the night before marriage. Some Miao people in Bakai of Rongjiang and Paidiao of Danzhai use cattle as dowry. The groom of Taijiang Tainong did not show up for several days from the bride to the end of the wedding. He goes to work in the mountains as usual during the day and stays with relatives at night.
In the Miao marriage, if the husband and wife are not in harmony, both parties can file for divorce. Generally, the first party to file for divorce will compensate the other party. When the man asks for a divorce, he must pay a "gift" to the woman in addition to asking for the engaged You Jiang. When the woman files for divorce, she must pay the total value of "your ginger" and wedding expenses to the man at the time of engagement. From then on, men and women got married without interfering with each other. In the past, after the village elders failed to mediate, they tattooed a bamboo and cut it out for both men and women as evidence. Nowadays, divorce is mostly decided by the government and the judiciary.
Miao widows can remarry, and widowers can have second wives. An unmarried brother can ask his sister-in-law to transfer ownership, or implement "brother-in-law to fill the house". In some areas, his brother and sister-in-law are still allowed, but it is not bigamy if both parties agree. After Rongjiang District decides to transfer, it must send a certain amount of money or cattle to the woman's uncle as a dowry. Widows who have not given birth to young children, have not transferred or have not filled their houses generally remarry on their own. When remarried, the new husband can not open the "fried dough sticks". If there are children, the husband's family is left unattended and usually follows his mother. When a boy grows up, he can go back to his biological father's house to inherit property, and a girl can get married at her stepfather's house. Widow remarried from her late husband's house, she must escape from * * at night and never enter her husband's house again. Young or middle-aged widowed men, with or without children, can have a second wife. In some areas, it is customary for a wife to remarry three years after her death. Those who remarry within three years must marry their dead wife and younger brother 33 yuan.
Miao people marry Miao people's marriage customs, generally intermarry with different surnames within their own ethnic groups, and not with other ethnic groups. Young men and women are generally free in love and marriage, but most of them are arranged by their parents. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, it developed into a free love marriage between men and women. Marriage generally includes love, marriage proposal, engagement and wedding ceremony.
Miao young men and women usually take part in festivals and celebrations, such as picking flowers and jumping on the moon, and find their sweetheart in singing and dancing. When the relationship between the two sides is determined to be sincere love, please ask the matchmaker to ask for relatives from both parents, negotiate how much bride price the man will send to the woman, and bring wine and meat to her aunt, uncle and relatives, even if they are engaged. According to the man's situation, the wedding will be held on an auspicious day.
On the morning of the wedding, the groom will be escorted by a companion. Depending on the distance, he will ride a horse or walk to the woman's house to get married. If the distance is far away, he will pick up relatives three to five days in advance and invite people or friends from the groom's family to attend the wedding. Due to the small population, Miao people living in Weishan County often leave the county to get married. Therefore, the time of the wedding depends on the distance between the woman's family and relatives. It usually takes three days, that is, picking up the bride on the first day, returning the next day and seeing the guests off on the third day. Locals call it "Xie Ke". On the wedding day of Miao people, that is, a happy day, the whole village was immersed in a happy atmosphere. The man's family should not only hold a banquet to entertain the guests in the village and all the people in the village, but also invite singers to sing wedding ceremony songs and custom songs such as production, life and human life, so that the wedding can be carried out in joy and blessing. In the evening, all the men, women, children and foreign guests in the village