Recognition: indicates that both men and women have preliminary intentions to get married. The man's parents invited the girl to dinner with her parents and gave the girl pocket money (900,1900,2900, etc. ) before departure, and make a recognized gift, which means that the families of both sides have officially started to communicate as relatives. People who fall in love on holidays can't leave as before (relatives give gifts to each other on holidays)
After engagement, girls and men must visit each other. When the seasons change, the future mother-in-law will usually give the girl hundreds of dollars to buy clothes. There seems to be a famous trick, I forget what it's called ... Many people don't care about it or even know it at all, but there are also people who value etiquette. If the man forgets this crop at home, they won't say it, but they will be worried and think it is lazy. I don't understand this and I don't care. Besides, I don't lack those hundreds of dollars, but old people often mention the money for changing seasons to buy clothes before I go to his house. Later, maybe his mother didn't understand this, so she was still uncomfortable. To tell the truth, whoever lacks those few hundred dollars these days just spends money on a comfortable life to save the future bride from being noticed, and then ... hmm. But I think LZ can be saved. Isn't it because the locals have no family here? hahaha.
Then there is the bride price. Now the bride price in Rizhao is not high. It's usually one in a million. Suggest either 1000 1 or10/00. Never 100 10 ... that's shabby.
If you have an agreement with a girl, you don't have to pay a bride price. It's better to pay a proposal ... because some bitches like to inquire and compare, and when they know it, they will gossip behind their backs. Who will be in the village if I don't call you the Yue family? Anyway, when a girl gets married, parents usually send back the bride price as a dowry ... but be prepared. Don't complain until you send it back. There is no rule that it must be sent back.
Then, it is also troublesome to prepare a wedding room or something.
By the way, after marriage, there are red envelopes for the bride, but they are just looking for change. If there are several immediate elders, seal a few. Call mother, mother-in-law, father, father-in-law, grandfather, old man, grandmother and old woman. ...
Laugh, getting married as a man is really not easy. . .
On the wedding day, people around me are usually like this: I went to the woman's house in the morning to pick up the woman and the dowry, and the groom was embarrassed by the bridesmaid's brother-in-law. Then take the woman home, and the bride is embarrassed by the best man and the groom's friends. Then hold a dinner party for relatives and neighbors at home. After a busy day, I hosted a dinner for my friends and colleagues at the hotel in the evening.
Only when I wrote here did I find that the LZ family was already in Rizhao. . . Khan, I thought LZ's family was still in other places, thinking that many steps could skip happiness, and getting married was too complicated. . .
But young man, it's good that you have a good life. I am tired of getting married in the future. Sometimes you don't have to apply for a license, but later you feel that you have to do it again. This is a once-in-a-lifetime thing, so I won't regret it when I am old.
Ps, actually, you'd better ask your family about this matter. If your family doesn't understand, they can ask someone in the village who does.