Talking about marriage is a happy event, a custom and a ceremony in life. My marriage will change when you ask me to turn my marriage into a cash transaction.
In recent years, there are more and more patterns of getting married and marrying a wife, and the demand for the man to prepare the bride price is getting heavier and heavier. Marrying a wife can almost destroy a family. This phenomenon is the reason.
Compare with each other; At present, most young people in their twenties in rural areas go out to work to earn money, and their family economic conditions are better. Almost all rural areas are covered with small foreign buildings. Gai Lou used to be a two-story building, and everyone was proud of surpassing others.
The phenomenon of preference for boys over girls in rural areas is serious, which leads to the present situation of more men than women; Nowadays, there are far more young people in their twenties than young women of the same age, and the ratio of male to female is unbalanced. It is difficult for young men in rural areas to find wives, which makes the price of girls in the marriage and love market higher and higher, and the bride price is also rising.
The status quo of son preference; Families pay for their sons' wives by marrying their daughters, and many families also have the pressure to marry their daughters. In order to marry his son and raise money for his future daughter-in-law, of course, the higher the bride price, the better. Otherwise, they won't get married until the daughter gets married and the man is on the eve of the wedding. Often only dumb people will eat Coptis chinensis, and the woman's parents will kill it before marriage.
Marriage customs; For marriage, there are local traditional wedding customs. It is understandable that the woman's parents respect traditional customs. The custom is that the bride price is determined by the individual, and the specific amount depends on the actual family situation of the man.
These parents are too considerate of their children and ignore the man's parents. In order to make her daughter's life better in the future, the lion will pay a high price for the bride price. He asked her husband's family for money and held it tightly in her daughter's hand. If the man can't take it out, his parents will have to recite it.
For rural people with ordinary family conditions, a son needs a high bride price to marry his daughter-in-law, but he can't get the money with his own family conditions, so he has to put his treasure on his daughter and pay him the same amount of bride price from his son-in-law.
On the issue of bride price, both men and women should stand in their own position and not necessarily say who is right or wrong.
Some reasons are normal. For example, there is a certain competition and comparison mentality. The existence of bride price has both historical and cultural basis and social and economic basis, and rude criticism and arbitrary prohibition are of little significance. The main countermeasure is to strengthen the construction of relevant laws and regulations based on public opinion.
Some of them are abnormal and formed in historical evolution. For example, the imbalance between men and women, the current national birth policy has been constantly adjusted, I believe it will gradually normalize in the future, but I am afraid it will be difficult to change in a short time.