Parents cannot get married. The wedding of Kazakhs is very grand. Before marriage, a series of visits, festivals and entertainment activities will be held. They are as enthusiastic, happy and happy about any marriage in the clan and tribe as they are about their own wedding. On the wedding day, both men, women and singers will sing many conventional wedding songs. Among them, when the bride finally leaves her parents and family, she will sing a farewell song with her parents and relatives. When a girl returns to her parents' home for the first time after marriage, her parents will also give her a generous gift. Generally, 100 sheep and 15 horses will be given if conditions permit. Those with poor conditions should also try their best to show some performance. After Kazakh people get married, the division of labor between men and women in daily production and life is very clear, which belongs to the typical "male master outside, female master inside"
Kazakh girls have "feelings"
Chasing girls is the favorite traditional folk game of Kazakh girls and boys, and it is also a special way for them to seek lovers and express their love. At the beginning of the competition, pairs of young men and women slowly walked towards the designated goal. On the way, the young man can confess to the girl at will, and the girl can't express any objection, just listen silently. But on the way back, girls can chase boys with whips. If a girl is interested in a boy, the whip just shakes the boy's head a few times or symbolically hits him twice. If the girl doesn't like it, the young man will inevitably suffer.
Be engaged to the river and never go back on your word.
When engaged, it is customary for the groom's parents or sister-in-law to go. This ceremony is unique and interesting. When the in-laws meet their future daughter-in-law for the first time, the mother-in-law will take a piece of white cloth with fine flowers and give it to the girl as a meeting gift. Then, they will come forward to kiss her and tie a white triangular scarf on the bride's head with several bundles of owl hair on it. Then, four or five women gathered together to compete for cloth, as a happy fruit of engagement, and everyone grabbed a little to get a festive occasion. After this ceremony, there will be a "water treading ceremony", in which both the man's family and the woman's brother or sister-in-law wade across the river at the same time to show that neither side can go back on their word.
The best man sings to the bride.
Kazakh weddings usually last for three days. On the first day, the groom leads the best man to get married, and the woman will entertain them with Kazakh habits. Accept congratulations from friends, relatives and neighbors. Take a day off the next day and formally marry the bride on the third day. But naughty bridesmaids will hide the bride, and the best man will uncover the corner of the yurt and ride on a horse, teasing and singing with the bridesmaids, and then he can take the bride in. Sometimes, the best man will jump into the yurt from horseback and run out of the house under the siege of bridesmaids. If you can't run out, you will be laughed at, ashamed to meet people and give gifts to bridesmaids.
Yellow oil fume exorcises ghosts.
When the bride arrives at the man's house, several female guests will surround the bride with red curtains, cover her with a veil and walk into the felt room surrounded by two bridesmaids. The groom's parents sat on the top of the yurt and made a fire in front. When the bride gets angry, a female guest pours ghee into the fire, bakes her hands and wipes her face with a rising cigarette, which means exorcising evil spirits for the bride and wishing her happiness. Later, a young man teased the bride with a whip tied with red and white cloth and sang the song of lifting the veil. After singing the song, the young man gently lifted the bride's veil with a whip, and everyone would crowd together to watch the bride or grab the cloth on the whip, and the atmosphere suddenly boiled. The wedding night will reach the climax of excitement, often singing and dancing until dawn.
Kiss sb goodbye
Where the bride's car passes, people often stop the car with ropes to ask for happy fruit to celebrate. As long as the wedding team gives them a piece of cloth or a towel and some fried fruits, the car driver will let them go, which is also a unique custom of Kazaks.