In love, we always want to be with someone who loves you and loves you, and walk into the marriage hall with him, but love is never smooth sailing, nor can it be obtained if you want it.
Sometimes, we will marry people we don't like so much, perhaps because we are old, perhaps because we no longer believe in love and think it is the same to marry anyone, so we will make such a choice.
And will you be happy if you marry someone you don't like? I think it varies from person to person. If you are willing to cultivate feelings with him, or cherish his affection, you will have a good life, but if you keep thinking about the past and think that he is not your favorite person, it will only be painful for a lifetime.
What happens when you marry someone you don't like? On this issue, I asked some female friends around me to listen to their real feelings!
@ Ms. Cai, 26, "As long as he loves me"
I once loved a man deeply, but he didn't love me. Even so, I still want to be with him. As long as he is willing to marry me, I will still choose the person I love. It was not until he broke my heart that I realized that it is better to find someone who loves me than to find someone who loves me.
Later, I met my husband on a blind date, and I didn't feel anything at that time, but he was very kind to me and kept chasing me, so I agreed. Now I have nothing to love or not, as long as he loves me. Now I find his kindness more and more and have a pair of feelings for him. It's hard to separate. @ 28-year-old Ms. Lin "It is painful to choose someone you don't love."
I want to tell you from personal experience that it is really painful to marry someone you don't love. He will never understand what you say, and neither will you. They are completely different.
At this time, you regret your choice more and more. Do you think there is so much love or not? Besides, it's all the same when you get married. It turned out that this was not the case. When you marry someone you don't love, every time you encounter something or have an argument, the first thing you think of is regret, and you always think, I should never have married him if I had known this.
I tried to love him in the past and accept my present life, but it didn't work. If I don't love, I don't love. Even if you get married, you still don't love, and you may have feelings. Just a little affection together, not love.
Therefore, when choosing who to marry, you must be careful and don't leave yourself with lifelong regrets!
@ Ms. Qin, 30 years old, "Feelings can be cultivated slowly"
In fact, there is not so much love or no love. Maybe we all liked someone when we were young, but often we can't be together in the end, and then we won't have such a strong love.
Most people meet a suitable person and get married with him at the age of 30. As for feelings, they can be cultivated slowly. Who is born to love and who is born to be loved is nothing more than a matter of habit.
After being together for a long time, you will feel that you love him very much, and there will be no such strong reaction at the beginning.
In fact, whether you marry someone you like or someone you don't like, there are two sides. Marrying the person you love may not be able to grow old together, and marrying the person you don't like may not be unhappy. It still depends on your mentality.
Whether you choose what you love or what you love, you should live a good life. It's your choice. Don't complain and don't think it's a mistake to marry him.
Since you will marry him, there must be something in him, even if it is for his so-called fit, it is also an advantage. So you should know more about his advantages after marriage, and don't always dwell on love or not, so that you can live well.
Of course, what I hope more is that you can meet someone who loves you and he loves you. That's the best love.