Since your boyfriend is usually very kind to you, there is no problem, which means that he still likes you and loves you. If it's just out of fear of wasting money, I think it's okay not to hold a ceremony. Let's invite friends and relatives to have dinner and toast together. The ceremony is hypocritical. Those wedding presenters are all tacky and do nothing. Might as well waste a lot of money on others. Might as well have a casual meal. You two want to say something to everyone, be your own hosts, and spend the rest of the money on beautiful clothes to wear to the dinner party. I think you can accept the idea that you get married, but you can't accept talking too early and not getting married. You and your boyfriend are different people. There is nothing to do. When my boyfriend and I got married, neither of us wanted to have a wedding. My parents-in-law insisted that there was nothing I could do. It's boring and a waste of money. For no particular reason, I think it's tacky to hold a wedding.