Xiaoshan is the help of etiquette. In the past, engagement was also called engagement. For men, this is called engagement, for women, this is called drawing lots. The betrothal must use posts, which are called by men as women's posts and by women as men's posts, collectively referred to as "post worship", requiring neat handwriting and standardized words. In the sand area, the word "Quan Fu" or "Yi" is generally written on the front, and the request post reads "Request Taiwan Province's permission" and the permission post reads "Obey Taiwan Province's orders". A beautiful wooden box with the words "Wen Ding Xiang" written on it in gold pen, wrapped in red cloth, and inserted with a bunch of evergreen, which is covered with the red post of the groom's birthday and the agreed bride price list, as well as bride price, gifts and food (that is, chicken, goose, candy, longan, litchi, etc. ), it is loaded, from 8 to more. After the bride's family accepts it, she must send back gifts such as happy fruit and clothes, write the bride's wedding card on green paper, put it in the original box, and take it around by the matchmaker. This is called "engagement". The betrothal must choose an auspicious day, hold an engagement party, hold a luncheon for the woman's family, hold an evening wine for the man's family, pray for the ancestors, and entertain relatives and friends. In some places, female media give a pair of male and female chicks just hatched from the woman's family to the man's family, which is called in-laws chicken. After being raised, you can only sell but not eat. Buying bowls and lamps with the money you get means that men will increase their mouths. The woman's matchmaker also asked the man for her fiance's shoes, and asked the girl to make new shoes. In the future, the matchmaker will give them to the young man, indicating that the girl is unique. After the engagement, young men and women formally become unmarried couples. As a "hairy son-in-law", young officials can go around the woman's house accompanied by matchmakers. In the sand area, a "small official" accompanied the matchmaker to the woman's house for engagement. During the dinner, the woman's elders gave the little official "meeting money". In the afternoon, accompanied by a female companion and a female media, the older girl was taken to the man's house by a young official, and the man's house hosted a banquet. In the old society, after drinking the engagement wine, the girl belonged to the man's family. Now it's basically: if you pay attention to engagement, you have to hold a banquet, just like getting married, and then you have to get a bride price. As for how much, it depends on the man. More money means less. Of course, there are also many people who play swollen faces and pretend to be fat. But now many families have reduced their engagement, which seems to be called "small stickers". It is good for the two elders to meet and have a meal.