Unless you are very close friends, you will help at both weddings. If you only go to a wedding reception, you usually only go to one. The woman's friend suggested going back to the wedding reception. The friend above said that 200 is too little. Generally, 200 is the price of passers-by, or the kind that only packs red envelopes and doesn't eat. If you are a friend, 500 is generally more appropriate. If you are a very good friend, it depends on how much money you have in mind.