My girlfriend and I have been in love for 3 years, which is really a long time for lovers who met on blind date. The reason why the love time was lengthened at the beginning was that it was not easy to get married, so we could get to know each other better and avoid the chicken flying and the dog jumping after marriage because of flash marriage. During our love, the relationship has always been very good, and our girlfriend has always been a gentle, considerate and understanding image.
I can't figure out why it has completely changed since I decided to get married. What made her think that we met our parents and started talking about marriage, and all our relatives and friends knew about it, so I would definitely support her parents' unreasonable demands for face? Is this relationship just for her? "Enough is enough" applies to any situation, otherwise the result may be unsatisfactory.
The hotel where I talked about marriage was an upscale restaurant my parents found. My girlfriend's parents were very happy at first and thought we attached great importance to it. Originally, this is really a happy thing. This meeting is just for getting married. Who knows that after a meal, the wedding date was undecided, and the two families talked directly.
Generally, the bride price and dowry are decided by the woman's elders here, so my parents and I have been waiting and said nothing. After three rounds of drinking, my girlfriend's father finally spoke, went straight to the point and said, "I won't beat around the bush." I don't know how much you are going to give, but this bride price is 654.38+ 10,000, which is our standard here? " As soon as this was said, I saw my father's frown.
My girlfriend and I are from the same city. Although the distance is a little far, the number of bride price is similar, which is basically the standard of 30,000 to 50,000. There are naturally high ones, but girlfriends and fathers can't say that 65438+ 10,000 is the standard. I spoke in front of my father: "Uncle, the bride price is up to you, and 65,438+10,000 is 65,438+10,000." I quickly put a chopstick dish for my girlfriend's father's future father-in-law, and my words succeeded in making him laugh.
When my parents saw that I agreed, they could only agree with a smile. Then my mother said the wedding room. My mother said: "My family bought this wedding room in full, more than 2 million. As your daughter knows, the previous renovation was also undertaken by my family, and the young couple conducted the whole process. Now this home appliance has not yet landed. " My mother said, paused and looked at her in-laws.
Generally speaking, if the man buys a wedding room and decorates it, the household appliances are basically his wife's dowry. My mother deliberately didn't go on, just waiting for the other party to answer. Who knows that the future mother-in-law said: "Let the young couple solve this household appliance by themselves. We don't know what young people like, so we won't get involved. " As soon as I heard it, I thought, boy, I have to pay for this money myself again. My mom was really angry. What would she have said if I hadn't blinked all the time.
It's not that I don't know that my future mother-in-law is a bit excessive, but that my girlfriend has been staring at me. I know what that look means. It's just that I dare not agree to her parents' request today. She wants me to look good. At this time, I haven't realized how unreasonable demands the old couple can make in the future, so I don't think it's a big deal, and it's nothing to get married and eat some "losses". Why haggle over every ounce?
Later, the future father-in-law mentioned the wedding expenses. Generally speaking, we all bear our part, but what he obviously means is that he wants my family to bear it. My dad readily agreed. Later, my dad told me that he was thinking that his son's marriage was coming to an end and it was not easy to get married. I can't say these things, so I agreed. He didn't expect that his in-laws would not close the door if they were too good in the future, and they would even push their luck.
Because my father promised to bear all the wedding expenses, my girlfriend and her parents were very happy and beaming. But as soon as I breathed a sigh of relief, my future mother-in-law spoke again: "I have no other requirements, just one thing, let's talk it over." It's New Year. Add your daughter's name when you apply for the real estate license. "(to buy this house, for some objective reasons, the real estate license will not be available until the end of the year. )
I didn't pay a penny, so I wanted to add a name to the house. My heart thumped at that time. Don't mention my parents. I can't promise that. This really has nothing to do with love or not. I intuitively wanted something bad, so I quickly asked my girlfriend for help. As a result, my girlfriend looked surprised, which means: shouldn't this be promised? I looked at my girlfriend doubtfully again and was disappointed. At this moment, my mother spoke.
I thought she would definitely refuse, but she agreed. Before I came to my senses, my mother smiled and said, "In-laws, this bride price has passed, let's talk about the dowry. The young couple's wedding room is far from the company. I think your family needs a car to marry him. In order to match my bride price and house, you need a car of 500,000 to 600,000 yuan. This requirement is not high. "
Later, the old father-in-law got dark and stopped talking. His wife reacted quickly and immediately said, "Isn't the subway open now? This is good, there is no traffic jam, and there is no need to buy a car. " My mother nodded to show that it made sense, but then she asked, "How about converting this car into 500 thousand at the bottom of the closet?" What do you think? " The future mother-in-law was silent for a while and said, "My family still has a son at school. How can I support him?"
"Then don't think about adding a name to this house, or others will know, which will not be good for the reputation of your in-laws and may even affect your son's future marriage." My mother answered this sentence at once. "Why is this bad for my reputation? What does it matter? " The future mother-in-law is obviously very upset at this time. "As soon as you come out, people will say that marrying your daughter's in-laws is actually selling your daughter, asking for a bride price and a house. As a result, you don't even have a dowry."
After my mother finished this sentence, my future father-in-law family of three all looked pale, and my girlfriend stared at me intensely. But I didn't say anything because I really got to know my girlfriend's family again. Later, my dad saw this scene was really embarrassing, so he quickly apologized, which was a reluctant end to the marriage talk, but everyone knew that the meeting broke down.
I haven't contacted my girlfriend for several days. She hasn't come yet, and she won't answer my phone. Just now, the mobile phone finally received countless messages. "Is it easy for my parents to raise me? Why can't I get the bride price? " "What does your mother mean by talking like this? Are you deliberately finding fault so that we can't get married smoothly? " "Anyway, if you want to marry me, there will be a bride price and no dowry. You can marry as you like." ...
She finally contacted me, but these are just a few words. She talked a lot and I finally gave up. I replied to her message. I said, "That's it," and then I hacked her. That's it anyway. So what if relatives and friends know? Shame on them. I really don't want such a wife, even if she says I waste her feelings, I don't care. I don't think I'm wrong