My mother-in-law told me that next-door neighbors Dabin and Axiu are getting divorced. Hearing the news, my heart was mixed.

When it comes to their family, dog blood TV dramas dare not be like them. Every new year, their family is the best gossip for everyone after dinner.

Three years ago, Da Bin and Axiu met on a blind date.

Chang Bin is a simple and honest man, and his family conditions are really poor. He is almost 30, and his home is still an adobe house. The matchmaker introduced him to many girls, but all failed. Some people turned around at his door and left.

Later, I finally met Axiu who was willing to marry him. Dabin was very happy. But Dabin's parents are not satisfied with Axiu. They don't like Axiu's divorce, but only Axiu is willing to enter their house.

Dabin fell in love with Axiu at the first sight. She is quiet and handsome, and Axiu also takes a fancy to Dabin's simplicity and honesty.

On the wedding day, although the wedding was simple and simple, both of them were very happy. Especially Da Bin, looking at Axiu who is more beautiful after makeup, her face is full of joy.

The only thing that makes me unhappy is that Dabin's sister left a big bucket of bowls for her to wash at night in order to give Axiu a fright. Dabin wanted to help Axiu wash, but was pulled away by the elder sister. Honest Axiu didn't resist.

So that day, everyone saw for the first time that the bride rolled up her sleeves and was washing the dishes.

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Axiu's stomach is always quiet, and Dabin's parents are looking forward to having grandchildren as soon as possible, so they start complaining.

Axiu and Dabin were also urged to be a little uneasy. After all, I am not young, and I am a little worried about whether there will be any problems. I even plan to go to the hospital. Fortunately, Axiu got pregnant later, and the whole family was very happy.

After that, even my nosy sister won't find fault with her.

After giving birth to her daughter, Axiu's good days soon disappeared. When I was in the hospital, my father-in-law turned away when he heard the nurse say it was a girl, and my mother-in-law pulled a donkey face.

Although Dabin was a little lost, he was very happy when he became a father for the first time. Looking at his little daughter, he didn't know where to start.

When she came home from the hospital, her mother-in-law only cooked some vegetables for Axiu. Dabin is going to catch a chicken at home and kill it to mend Axiu's body. His father-in-law called him dog blood and said that he would give birth to a chicken without a handle and eat it.

Less than a week after Da Bin took care of Axiu, his parents rushed back to work in the factory, saying that one more person was too expensive. Da Bin, a loyal Mu Na, wants to stay at home and take care of Axiu, but he can't help his parents, so he has to pack his bags and go back to work in the factory.

From then on, Axiu's confinement was really painful. Obviously, there are more than 10 chickens and a basket of eggs at home, but my mother-in-law doesn't give any of them, saying she wants to keep them for the New Year.

As a result, when Sister Dabin came, her mother-in-law gave her all the eggs.

Axiu had to take care of her baby all day and didn't get any nutrition. In the next month, she lost a lot of weight. There is no nutritious soup and water, and her milk is not enough. My daughter often cries with hunger.

For a whole month, the only chicken soup she drank was stewed chicken brought from home by her elderly father.

As for her mother-in-law, apart from washing clothes for her mother-in-law, her father-in-law didn't even look at her granddaughter for a whole month.

Just one month after her birth, her in-laws urged Axiu to have a second child. When Axiu says nothing, if they have nothing to do, they will swear all day. The neighbors couldn't stand it, and advised them to be nice to Axiu, or they would scare people away in the future, but they never listened.

She still hung her voice in front of Axiu and said, "How dare she run? Who wants someone who got married for the second time and gave birth to someone else? "

When they say someone else's home, they mean that their granddaughter will get married sooner or later. Axiu didn't answer, but there was a stir in his heart.

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After her daughter was in Axiu for six months, she had to leave her daughter at home and let her in-laws take care of her. Although a hundred people are not at ease, life is sometimes so helpless.

Axiu, who has no diploma, can only go to the factory to do general work, but fortunately, Dabin and Axiu are very diligent, and they have saved tens of thousands of dollars in less than half a year. It's just that Axiu has not seen her daughter for a long time. She often secretly wipes her tears at night.

They work during the day and do odd jobs everywhere at night without overtime. The two plan to save money for a few more years, renovate the adobe house at home, and then go to town to do some small business.

During the Spring Festival, Axiu was pregnant again. She wanted to go back to work, but because she reacted too much, she resigned at home.

It was during this time that my family broke up with Dabin.

On one occasion, A Xiufa asked her sister and her husband to come home for dinner on WeChat, and she had a few more words with her husband. As a result, this sensitive elder sister actually said that Axiu had seduced her husband.

He not only slandered Axiu everywhere in the village, but also called Run Dabin and said many ugly words. Dabin was hot-headed, believing it, and had a quarrel with Axiu.

Honest Axiu really went crazy this time, picked up the broom at hand and tore it up with her elder sister-in-law. In the process of pushing, Axiu miscarried. It is said that it is a boy, and Axiu's in-laws are crying in the hospital.

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During the abortion, Dabin came back, but the couple also had a gap and often sat there in a daze.

Occasionally, only when their daughter comes with deep feet, do they show a little smile. Before Xiaoyuezi finished eating, Axiu took her daughter back to her family. Dabin wanted to find her, but his parents shouted at her. Axiu must not get used to it, so as not to return to her parents' house easily.

Axiu thought that if Dabin could come and give her a soft dress and apologize for something, he would forgive him. For the sake of a complete family for my daughter, let's talk about the misunderstanding before.

Just didn't expect, day by day, big bin is gone, Axiu is more and more disappointed.

As for Da Bin, he is also depressed every day. Sometimes, our neighbors will talk about him and ask him to pick up Axiu. After all, everyone trusts Axiu. She can't do that.

However, the cowardly Dabin just didn't dare to go against his parents' wishes. It's been six months now. According to my mother-in-law, Axiu went out to work alone with her daughter, and now they are getting a divorce.

There was still hope of getting married, but I didn't expect this now. I really hope that Dabin can have a little self-determination and courage, and bravely choose to be with Axiu's mother and daughter.

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Looking at Axiu and Dabin, I hope all my friends around me can have a complete and happy marriage. I have something to say to you:

1. Marry a man with independent thoughts.

When we are looking for the other half, it is also important to examine his personality and whether he has an opinion. In marriage, everyone is bound to stumble, and there are also big and small things to decide.

If a man doesn't have his own judgment and opinion about anything, few women will get through the day.

I have a colleague's husband who is like this. When he meets something, he either ignores it or gives you a sentence: "What should I do?" . As a result, everything was piled up on my colleagues, who lamented that they were too tired these years.

2. Husband and wife should communicate more.

Many things between husband and wife are small, but if they don't communicate all the time, the gap between them will get bigger and bigger. Just like between Axiu and Da Bin, as long as communication is good, Da Bin can be brave, manly and responsible, so that Axiu will not feel cold and want a divorce.

Hard-won marriage is really not worth it because of these things at home.

Haruki Murakami once said:

Some things are too long to understand. Some things are too late when they are understood. Many times, we have to choose actions without knowing our inner feelings, so we feel confused and confused.

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Marriage involves two families, and sometimes it is difficult to balance these relationships. I believe that in many families, there are either powerful in-laws, nosy aunts, or brother-in-law who is eager to support the elderly.

Bullying the weak and being afraid of the hard is the norm in this world.

Many times, in order to go further and better for our small family, I hope we can be firm when dealing with these relationships, and we must be tough when necessary and fight back.