There are no rules about marriage and alcohol. The woman calls her daughter to get married, and the man calls her daughter-in-law. The two parties hold a wedding reception together. There is no stipulated amount of capital contribution. In Shanghai, the key is what you two think.

In my opinion, since it is AA system, both parties should have the right to speak and should negotiate on the issue of capital contribution.

In my opinion, these things are very sensitive, and parents should respect their children's opinions. Now is a new society, not arranged by parents, especially in such an open environment as Shanghai. After all, you two are the protagonists.

I also think the wedding banquet itself is a happy event, but we should do what we can. When you reflect the situation, the man should show his attitude, not just listen to his parents, and actively do a good job of both sides. Don't show the man's strength because of this incident, which will bring unpleasant hidden dangers to the subsequent life. After all, life is your own.