In an upscale restaurant, a group of teenagers are happily celebrating a companion's birthday. The private room is decorated with lights, cheerful songs are played in the stereo, all kinds of carefully packaged birthday gifts are piled on the sofa, and more than a dozen dishes and various drinks and fruits are placed on the dining table ... When the birthday song is finished and the meal is full, everyone goes to karaoke again. When checking out, the birthday boy took out more than 1000 yuan without blinking, walked out of the hotel and stopped a few taxis, and generously sent his friends away. In the face of parents' questions, the teenager who celebrated his birthday said, "Everyone bought me presents, and I didn't spend money to entertain everyone. That's rude. Besides, now we are all interested in this. Anyone who is too stingy to give money will be ashamed to mix up in the future ... "And a friend who congratulated me said," Of course, I want to give a better gift for my classmates' birthday. Others give more than 200, and I give dozens.
Rational analysis >
Both children are right, and the behavior of these students has become very common. Children have no concept of money, and they don't know how to deal with it, let alone the hard work of their parents. In the eyes of a child who doesn't know the relative value, the cost of a gift may be similar to other gifts, so he wants to buy it when he sees a friend buying it, and he doesn't want to fall behind when he sees something given by others. These problems really deserve our serious consideration and correct handling!
Countermeasures and suggestions >
1. Parents should teach their children how to live within their means and cherish the concept of consumption and life. Tell children that as a pure consumer, life consumption must be thrifty, moderate and practical, and unrestrained consumption and comparison will encourage vanity and enjoyment habits. Parents should also teach their children to treat unhealthy consumption phenomena in society correctly and guide them in time, so that children can form selective and temperate consumption concepts and behavior habits according to actual needs and consumption ability.
2. To cultivate children's awareness of saving, it is necessary to limit the use of his pocket money. If a child is required to save a certain amount of pocket money, such as 100 yuan, 10 yuan, 50% of the total amount, or other easily calculated proportions, leave the rest for him to spend, or leave enough for his normal consumption, and save the excess.
3. Set consumption standards for children according to their age and the size of gifts. Parents should let their children know how to determine the right gift according to the family's economic situation.
4. If you meet special friends or special circumstances, children may want to exceed this specification, so remind them that price is not the only factor. Because friends who receive gifts may feel uncomfortable about the expensive price, based on reciprocity, they need to spend corresponding money when returning favors in the future, which is a kind of pressure on both sides.
5. Tell children that it is better to give gifts that friends need than to give expensive gifts and eat expensive packages. For example, if he likes calligraphy, give him a copybook. If he likes playing ball, give him a racket. Wait a minute. Such a gift is thoughtful and affordable, which not only enhances the feelings of both parties, but also does not cause any pressure. Children understand this truth and will naturally accept such advice.