Hakka weddings are quite complicated and diverse. To sum up, there are mainly "six rites". The first is "asking the name", that is, through the introduction of the matchmaker, men and women exchange famous brands. The second kind is called "receiving bride price", as the saying goes. The third kind is called "Naji", that is, the man gives the woman a marriage proposal gift. If the woman agrees, write the girl's date of birth as a "Geng Tie" and return it to the man. The fourth type is called "accepting employment", commonly known as "handing in shoes samples" (at this time, the man gives the woman the size and style of shoes for future production), indicating that the engagement is fixed. The fifth is the "invitation period", when the man tells the woman when to marry the bride. The sixth is the "wedding ceremony", where the man goes to the woman's house to marry the bride and asks for a wedding gift when he enters the door.

Hakka people attach great importance to marriage, so there are many wedding customs in Hakka, and crying marriage is one of them. In the past, Hakka people held weddings, and the man's wedding banquet took three days, and the woman's marriage took two days. At the "wedding", the man's sedan chair, band and other mighty wedding teams were spectacular. When I went back, I added my own dowry, and the loud suona sound and the loud gongs and drums attracted many passers-by to watch. Marrying a woman is very different, which leads to a unique crying wedding scene in the wedding ceremony.

This woman has been crying since the night before the wedding. When the sedan chair of the man's wedding procession arrived at the woman's house, the sound of suona and gongs and drums made the girl and mother cry invisibly, so the first crying wedding took place. At dawn the next day, the girl was dressed up by her aunt, sister, brother and sister-in-law, called "opening her face" and ready to get married. At this time, she had a second crying marriage. After the breakfast banquet, the girl cried for the third time when she covered her red headscarf and waited for the sedan chair. When crying for marriage, first of all, mother and daughter embrace and cry, as well as aunts, sisters, brothers and sisters, neighbors. Both the weeping person and the person accompanying the weeping are sitting on the bed or chair with handkerchiefs. The mother and daughter leaned back and cried, while the other partners were crying in a low voice. On the sedan chair, the crying wedding reached its climax. At this time, you should not only cry loudly, but also sing while crying. Really crying and moving.

There are many things about crying for marriage, such as telling the deep affection between mother and daughter, thanking parents for their upbringing, saying goodbye to sisters and brothers, and "lambasting" the matchmaker for meddling. However, at the end of crying, most people will still say some auspicious wishes.

The reason for the Hakka women's crying marriage custom is that women leave their parents who have raised them for many years, and they really have separated feelings and need to talk. However, the content of crying wedding is mainly to tell the sad mood, and there is no sad crying wedding scene. Nowadays, most young men and women go out to work. As long as both men and women are two of a kind, they will be married for life, so the wedding will be much simpler and the marriage customs will be much less. Many wedding banquets are held in hotels. The bride wears a wedding dress and the groom wears red flowers. They both stood at the door, smiling at the guests. Some people even invite the bride's parents to the wedding. In this way, the wedding custom of crying will gradually decrease.

A solemn, interesting, complicated and organized Hakka wedding always leaves unforgettable memories for each couple. The wedding of Hakkas not only contains the virtues of respecting the old and loving the young, being good-neighborly and friendly, but more importantly, it declares the marital orientation of loving and loyal husband and wife.