First, before giving birth to a child, we must do parenting knowledge. Before preparing to have children, or during pregnancy, both husband and wife should agree on the division of parenting roles.
For example, my husband and I agreed before giving birth to a second child that the baby would change diapers at night and dad would be responsible for making milk powder. Dad should spare as much time as possible to spend with the baby after work at night or on weekends. Before, the negative impact of the first child due to the absence of his father was obvious, so the father also made positive changes in the upbringing of the second child.
Second, learn to manage your partner. Yes, that's right. Even marriage should be managed by the spouse. If we put expectation management, target management, role assignment and encouragement at work into family life, I think widowed parenting is easy to solve.
1. Set the same parenting goals, insist on communicating with dad to synchronize the children's dribs and drabs, and don't let dad fall behind.
2. Be sure to strengthen dad's sense of participation, and don't let him feel that he is the same with or without him. Make him feel needed and important.
I can't let my father participate. I'm afraid of trouble and think it's better to do it myself. Over time, it will inevitably lead to widowhood and parenting.
Keep praising even if it is not satisfactory, and it will get better gradually. Don't blow dad's confidence, even if he doesn't do so well for a while, don't blame him, it will blow dad's enthusiasm.
4. Family culture also needs to be built. Regular family outings, outdoor sports and sightseeing are all conducive to enhancing feelings.
So mothers, instead of complaining blindly, might as well find ways to get rid of widowhood and raise children.