"Goodwill brings happiness, and civilization brings harmony." Marriage is not a child's play, although some people think that falling in love is a matter of two people, so don't care too much. As long as we are happy with each other, we won't interfere too much.
Marriage is a very troublesome thing, because many people may think each other is suitable when they are in love, but when two families talk about marriage, there will be some contradictions, and even marriage may be destroyed because of these contradictions.
Therefore, in the face of marriage, we must go through the process of bride price and dowry, because when two people get married, they always reserve for the future and give this promise a certain weight. Therefore, the man's attitude towards the bride price fully shows the degree of his love for you, and can also glimpse the future direction of this marriage. When it comes to bride price, if the two sides disagree, they should try to put themselves in their shoes and solve it safely.
My good brother Guan Jun is getting married. His girlfriend Wen Wen has five years of long-distance love experience. Since Guan Jun has reached the age of marriage, he proposed to Wen Wen, and Wen Wen agreed. After all, they have experienced many wonderful times. It is not easy for this relationship to last so long since they fell in love on campus.
Only when it comes to marriage, Guan Jun has his own unique view, because in his view, marriage should be based on equality, the bride's family should not ask for a bride price, and their family should not ask her for a dowry.
Guan Jun said, as for the wedding room, it can be provided by their family, but they can't write the name in Chinese. In his view, this is the real marriage. There is only affection between them without money, and nothing else will be involved.
But the woman's family doesn't think so. Scholars, after all, are traditional families, and they will have different views after all. They asked the military to give a bride price of 200 thousand. This 200,000 bride price is normal in the local area. They also said that after receiving the bride price, their family would also give the corresponding dowry.
The considerable army always feels uncomfortable because their family is not particularly rich. Although both parents have their own jobs, their monthly income is still limited. Guan Jun is the only child in the family. Previously, his parents told Guan Jun that they would help him buy a house when he got married, but they could only pay the down payment, and Guan Jun had to pay the rest of the mortgage.
In fact, Guan Jun had planned everything when he was very young, but he really didn't expect Wenwen's family to ask him for a bride price of 200,000 yuan. In fact, he doesn't have to take out the money, but he still needs to raise 200 thousand. He hoped Wenwen's family would give up the bride price money because of their five-year relationship.
In the eyes of the military, this bride price is just a dispensable step, and there is no need to take it seriously, but the woman's family is always reluctant. They think this bride price is an indispensable part, which is a tradition. If the bride price is not known, what is it like?
Because the two sides have different ideas, there are many contradictions because of this incident. Seeing that the army was a little emotional, he said from the heart: "Who else wants a bride price in this era? Is there a difference between this bride price and selling a daughter? "
My mother-in-law was unhappy when she heard this. She was very angry and asked Guan Jun three questions, which left Guan Jun speechless.
My mother-in-law asked, "After that, I got married. Is my daughter going to live in your home or mine? " Will your child be named after you or my daughter in the future? I will spend 200,000 yuan to make you our door-to-door son-in-law. Will you? "
After listening to her mother-in-law, the officer thought for a long time. There's really nothing to refute. After all, what my mother-in-law said is true. Their marriage is based on a man marrying a woman. If they really get married, Wenwen will of course live in their home and become their daughter-in-law. As for their future children, they will definitely take their father's surname. How can they take their mother's surname?
If the woman pays him 200,000 yuan to be a door-to-door son-in-law, Guan Jun is definitely unwilling, because in his heart, this is a particularly shameful thing for the door-to-door son-in-law, and only those men who are incapable will be door-to-door sons-in-law.
After returning home, Guan Jun thought carefully about what her mother-in-law said. In fact, these three questions raised by my mother-in-law are not unreasonable. Although there were some minor disputes between the two sides, they were finally settled. Guan Jun is willing to pay this 200,000 bride price, and the woman's family is also willing to pay100,000 as the decoration fee and decorate the house as a dowry. It was a happy ending, and their wedding went on as scheduled, without breaking up.
Later, when Guan Jun told me this, he reflected on himself. He felt that he only thought of himself at that time, not his girlfriend, so he always thought that his bride's family should not be given a bride price. Once she asks for the bride price, it is equivalent to a deal, which will build this marriage on an unfair basis.
In fact, how can there be a truly fair marriage in today's society? The further sublimation of feelings is to step into the palace of marriage. What's the point of this marriage if we have to fight for fairness? If husband and wife want to build a warm family, they must understand each other and be willing to pay for each other.
If in marriage, one party always haggles over every ounce, but never knows how to think from the other side, it is difficult for him to have a happy family. Fortunately, Guan Jun is a very reasonable person. Although his idea was wrong before, fortunately, her mother-in-law is a reasonable person. When she knew what Guan Jun thought, she did not immediately deny it, but tactfully asked Guan Jun three questions, which completely made Guan Jun understand this truth.
In fact, many people hate bride price, especially men. There are always men who think that the bride price is a very vulgar thing. If there were no bride price, it would be easy for the wife to get married, and there would not be many older men left in the society now. For those men who think that the bride price is a betrayal of their daughter's thoughts, they are selfish. Such men are often afraid of what they pay, afraid that the other party will take advantage.
Money may not be the only criterion for testing true love, but it can show the degree to which a person has invested and paid for it, so the bride price is indeed an indispensable ceremony for both parties to enter marriage.