China is a country of etiquette, with a civilization history of more than 5,000 years, including many customs and habits.

Although these traditional manners were appropriate in the past, the times are progressing after all, and some customs and manners are no longer suitable for the current thinking, such as the bad habit of men being superior to women and braiding.

However, not all traditional customs should be abandoned, and some good customs still need to be passed down, such as respecting the old and loving the young, and helping others frugally.

Therefore, for traditional culture, we need to take its essence and discard its dross. However, whether the bride price custom needs to be abandoned has always been controversial.

Some people think that the existence of bride price is justified. The man needs to give the woman some bride price to show his attitude. In their eyes, if the man doesn't even want to give the bride price to her, then his attitude towards marriage is worth pondering.

However, some people think that the bride price itself is a bad habit, because married men and women are generally young men and women in their twenties, and the bride price will only increase their economic burden.

Both sons and daughters are treasures of both families. When two people get married, there is no situation that the woman suffers losses and needs economic compensation.

Bian Xiao's attitude towards the bride price has always been that the man can give the bride price to the woman, but the bride price needs to be reasonable and cannot be overcharged.

If the amount of the bride price is determined by both parties through consultation, neither party may find other reasons as a threat to increase or decrease the amount of the bride price.

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I wrote an article before, and the male parents wanted to give her a bride price because she was pregnant. I wrote this article because I received a contribution from Mr. Chen, whose experience is just the opposite of the previous story.

He was overjoyed at his wedding, but because of one of her actions, his wedding became a local laughing stock. Many people think he is stupid and should agree to her request.

However, he said he had no regrets. If he can choose again, he will still let the wedding car go back and send the bride back to her family.

Mr. Chen comes from Maanshan County. His family is average, and his parents are working-class people. Fortunately, he has been the top student in his class since junior high school, and he was admitted to the Chinese University of Science and Technology with excellent results in the college entrance examination. At that time, his father was very happy and invited all his neighbors to his graduation party.

In a blink of an eye, Mr. Chen graduated and stayed in Hefei to work. At work, he met Xiao Min. Xiao Min comes from Lu 'an, Anhui. She is as old as Mr. Chen and has similar family conditions. They can be said to be a perfect match.

When two people go to work, they often work together. After work, because both of them like to play mobile games, they often have fun together. Slowly, two people have feelings, and soon determine the relationship.

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Within two years, the two people get along very well, and there is almost no quarrel, which is also the stage of talking about marriage.

However, Xiao Min's parents didn't want her to marry Taizhou far away, so they suggested that Mr. Chen's parents help them buy a wedding room in Hefei.

Mr. Chen's parents originally planned to let him develop in Hefei, so they took out the pension accumulated when they were young and bought him a two-bedroom and one-bedroom house, which took more than 20 years to decorate.

In the face of Xiao Min's parents' request to add Xiao Min's name to the real estate license, Mr. Chen also readily agreed. In his eyes. It is natural for the woman to ask for a name on the real estate license and a guarantee. As long as there is no divorce and no division of property, the name written on the real estate license is the same.

When it comes to bride price, he is a little embarrassed. Although I have graduated for two years and have some savings, it is inevitable that I will be a little drop in the bucket for the100,000 bride price.

His parents have spent all their savings to help him buy a house, and they can't afford the bride price. Therefore, he talked with Xiao Min's parents in colorful ways.

Finally, when Xiao Min's parents saw that he had added Xiao Min's name to the real estate license, their attitude improved a little, and the bride price of100000 was reduced to 50000.

In this way, the two men set a wedding date and returned to Mr. Chen's hometown to start preparations for the wedding and banquet.

When Mr. Chen was admitted to college, his father gave a banquet to all the neighbors in the guest house. So they have been paying attention to Mr. Chen's affairs. When they learned that Mr. Chen was getting married, they came to congratulate him. For a time, his wedding was a household name in the local area.

On the wedding day, Mr. Chen and his friends took the motorcade to Lu 'an to pick up the bride. When they arrived in Lu 'an, they met many relatives of the woman. They stopped the motorcade and asked for a red envelope, which cost at least 100 yuan.

Mr. Chen and his friends are very disgusted with this. But it was a big day after all, and he didn't want to rock the boat, so he gave it politely.

But when they sent Xiao Min to the hotel, Xiao Min didn't want to get off: "You need to give me 50 thousand taxi fare, otherwise I won't get off."

In the face of friends and relatives who are gradually looking here, Mr. Chen seems a little anxious. He politely suggested to Xiao Min, "Come down first, our relatives and friends are waiting for us. We will discuss this 50 thousand yuan after marriage. "

Before Xiao Min could speak, Xiao Min's parents interjected, "In that place, we all need a bride price of 50,000 yuan. If the bride does not receive a bride price of 50,000 yuan, her marriage will not be happy. I won't let my daughter go until you give me 50 thousand fare. "

After listening to this passage, Mr. Chen, who was a little anxious, was already very angry. He asked Xiao Min, "You also agree with your mother. If I don't give you a fare of 50,000 yuan, won't you get off? " Xiao Min did not dare to look directly at Mr. Chen, and silently bowed his head.

After seeing Xiao Min's performance, Mr. Chen decisively closed the car door and said to Xiao Min through the window: "My family has no money. Since you like money so much, find another job! " By the way, remember to return the bride price I gave when you go back. "

In this way, Mr. Chen asked his friend to send Xiao Min back to her family. A happy marriage was shattered by the woman's taxi fare. Afterwards, although Xiao Min sought Mr. Chen's forgiveness many times, it was obvious that the two sides were deadlocked and there was no room for redemption.

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Bian Xiao doesn't know if there is a custom of getting off now. Even with this custom, I think the woman can tell the man in advance so that he can be prepared. The woman's behavior of asking for the gift of getting off the bus at the wedding scene without prior explanation is undoubtedly a fish in troubled waters.

Money can really solve many problems. It can make us happier, but it doesn't mean that money can buy happiness. Happiness cannot be measured by money. We really need to get rid of unreasonable marriage habits.

Marriage is a major event in life, which concerns the future of two people and three families. Marriage is not happy enough, nor can it be compensated by hundreds of thousands of bride price.

Therefore, both men and women should be cautious about marriage and think more about each other. Don't ruin their marriage because of immediate interests.