My cousin, who grew up with me, got married to someone I only met once.
My cousin's name is Zhang Xiangyi, and she is my uncle's little daughter. One year younger than me, we grew up together in the town. She is quiet, and I am outspoken. She has been following my ass since I was a child and likes to imitate me. When I was 5 years old, I came to the county seat with my father and started the life of the county seat people. I was arrogant since I was a child. I remember once my sister came to the county and played with me at my house. Because we were angry with each other, I pointed to her nose and told her to go home. So my 8-year-old sister went back to town by bus without her parents knowing.
When my sister was in junior high school, her parents took her home and let her study in the middle school in the county. My sister has no talent, but she studies hard and is obedient, and our family likes her very much. At that time, I gradually became sensible and began to understand and be considerate of others. My sister and I go out together during the day and sleep in a bed at night. After a long time, our living habits are gradually similar, our dressing styles are exactly the same, and even our looks are getting more and more similar. I have been asked several times if we are twins. But because I am the little master of my family and my sister, I always have a sense of superiority towards my sister. If you like it, coax your sister to like it, if you don't like it, coax your sister not to like it. To sound good, I said yes? Coax? To put it bluntly, it is actually a threat with a smile, right? Although my sister is young, she also knows that when relying on others, she should be restrained and obedient. My sister has lived as a stranger for six years since she was brought to my home. During the period, my mother criticized my mother intermittently, and my mother praised her? Lessons from the past? I want to take this opportunity to educate my sister not to be lazy, casual and sloppy like her mother. At this time, my sister just sipped her mouth and didn't talk.
After graduating from college, my sister was admitted to work in institutions in this county and neighboring counties. Her parents wanted her to stay in the county and bought her a house. We all advised her to stay in the county, hoping that she could go closer. But she stubbornly chose the neighboring county, where she said the environment was clean and the folk customs were simple. Everyone can't understand why she is so far away from home, but I know that she is like a caged bird and wants to be free too much.
/kloc-During the Spring Festival in 0/6, I overheard from Wu Jingxiong's daughter, who was close to her and lived in our house for a while, that she was in love, but the object of love could not be described to us. I asked her directly, and she admitted that she was in love, but she still refused to tell me anything about the object. She doesn't talk much and doesn't want to look me in the eye.
Later, I heard from my mother that she talked about a man 10 older than her, whom she met during the rotation. She is a small leader of the rotation unit, has been married twice, has a daughter of 10, and lives with her mother. This man has written a good article and is very busy with his work. Naturally, there is strong opposition at home. The right parents said that as long as she dared to bring this man home, she would not be recognized as a daughter. Later, I heard from Xiong Ting that they broke up and they didn't contact each other again. The family gradually stopped talking about it.
Xiong Ting got married in the summer of 17, and the whole family went to Yunnan to attend her wedding. I don't know who brought up the right relationship again. She seems to have talked about a new boyfriend. I asked her again. This time she smiled and shook her head. I pursued her, but she remained silent. Later, I asked what I couldn't ask, and I said angrily? Never ask about your relationship again. Ask me again and I'll be a pig! ? She hugged my arm apologetically.
Then I heard that the man older than her 10 sent her to her home in town and met her parents. Two months later, they got engaged.
I began to realize that I was very oppressive to Xiangyi in 14. At that time, Xiang Yi and I both graduated from college, and we reviewed the civil service exam at home together. One day, she may be in a bad mood. I attacked her several times, saying that her clothes were inappropriate, that the book she bought was pirated, and that she had gone too far when joking with me. She finally broke out and cried loudly to me, saying that she relied on others, and I was still bossing her around. I was always arrogant in front of her, never understood her, never cared about her. And I, with a face of shock and incomprehension, watched her pack her bags and slam the door. The morning after she left, before dawn, my mother pushed open my door and walked gently to my bed. I vaguely saw her throw a piece of paper on my quilt. After she closed the door, I immediately sat up, holding the letter my mother accused me of what I had done to Yiyou in recent years, and I was in tears.
Since then, I often chat with Yiyi on WeChat to talk about her recent situation and buy her something that can't be bought in the county. I tried my best to shape an equal relationship, but later I found it was wishful thinking. It is appropriate for her to be independent, and I don't need to shape the equality between us.
I always thought that the right boyfriend should be a gentle, tolerant and steady boy who can give him a lot of care. Until one day, I chatted with Yiyi. At that time, because I hadn't met for a long time, I often asked questions on WeChat. The relationship between the two has become closer, and we can talk more deeply. I don't know that Yiyi is not happy everywhere. This man has bad habits, stubbornness and strong control. As soon as I heard that, I said to Xiangyi? Why does it feel a bit like what I did to you? Send a smiling face appropriately and say? Yes, what did you do to me and what did he do to me? . I paused and ended the chat with a smile.
Many people in the family are dissatisfied with this marriage. After marriage, everyone is also discussing the shortcomings of this man. They are suitable, but so desperate. Whenever they ask my opinion, I smile and don't talk. She has the right to choose her marriage freely. Now I hope this marriage will make her truly free and make her feel precious.
But to be honest, I feel guilty about her.
Author: Zhao Zhiyue
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