We often say that marriage is the top priority in life, so think twice before you get married. But in the face of love, many girls completely ignore the importance of marriage, so many external factors are not taken into account when they get married. Marrying a good-tempered husband is all happiness, but if you meet a calculating husband, you will only regret it.

Marriage is supposed to be that both parties put everything on the table and make it clear. If a person has ulterior motives and is calculating other people's small abacus, then he is selfish and only considers from his own standpoint, always thinking about how to make his family not suffer. Then, please take care of other people's daughters. At this age, you will have a bad conscience if you want to marry your family.

Even if the marriage is promoted, the daughter-in-law may not want to talk to her husband in the marriage because of the calculation of her in-laws. Daughter-in-law quarrels at two ends every day, and such a marriage is unfortunate for both men and in-laws.

What's more, after so many things happened in the early days of marriage, my husband's family didn't have a correct attitude. Girls will never forgive. No girl wants to live a life calculated by the other party after marriage.

If both men and women know how to understand each other and put themselves in each other's shoes before marriage, not only the small family of husband and wife will be happy, but also the big families of both sides will get along well.

However, in real life, many people don't realize this. Often thinking about how not to let yourself suffer, will inevitably cause the other party's dissatisfaction. When a selfish person never thinks of each other, he may not be happy in the end.

Susu is a girl who grew up in a single-parent family. Her parents divorced when she was very young. She has always lived alone with her mother, who is weak and simple. Therefore, my daughter is also a simple and kind girl.

Susie talked about a boyfriend in college, and they dated for eight years. During this period, they have been working at school or outside, and Susie has never been to her boyfriend's house. So the knowledge about his family is limited to his divorced parents and his own family. His boyfriend grew up with his mother. But what Susie doesn't know is that her boyfriend is actually a baby boy, which was discovered after she got married.

After they both had stable jobs, they had plans to get married and returned to their boyfriends' hometown. My mother-in-law said that because they have lived together outside, they got a marriage certificate first, so don't make people laugh.

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Susu loves her boyfriend very much, and her boyfriend is also very considerate to her. Without thinking much about going back to discuss with his parents, she and her boyfriend went to get a marriage certificate first. At that time, my mother-in-law said to get a license first, and then hold a wedding when they were not busy with their work, so that these forms of bride price would not fall.

However, it has been more than half a year since they got the marriage certificate. My husband never mentioned the wedding, and neither did my mother-in-law Only for a while, when neither of them was busy, Susie told her husband that she couldn't take a few days off to go back to the wedding, but her husband might make a fuss and didn't give a positive answer.

Susu felt that her husband was abnormal and asked him what was wrong. Finally, under her pressure, her husband told the truth, because her mother said that they were still in the start-up period, and although they all had stable jobs, they still had to buy a house and a car, and they had to consider the problems after the birth of their children in the future, so they were not advised to hold a wedding and there was no need to give a bride price.

Besides, my mother-in-law said that all the documents were collected anyway, so the things in these forms were omitted. Susu was particularly angry when she heard this. She asked her husband that in order not to fall behind, he had not agreed to get the license first. However, why do you want to go back on your word now, not hold a wedding and not give a bride price?

The husband's answer is that his mother says these forms of things are not important. It is important that the young couple live a happy life. What Susie asked later, her husband's answer was what his mother said should be done.

At this time, Susu discovered that her husband was actually her mother-in-law, and she listened to everything. I didn't notice those details because I loved her so much. Looking back now, my husband's monthly salary will be kept by her mother-in-law.

In fact, only after they got the certificate did they know that their husband's salary was not given to his mother-in-law, but they all took it themselves. In fact, to put it bluntly, my mother-in-law's original practice should be calculated. She was fooled into getting a marriage certificate first, but she didn't plan to hold a wedding at all, and she also wanted to save the bride price.

Susu and her husband simply don't understand and can't communicate at all. Because her husband told her mother what to do, Susie went straight back to her hometown to find her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law cried and said that her daughter-in-law was unfilial. It is not easy for her to bring up her son alone. Now her daughter-in-law has come to ask her for a bride price for the wedding.

She doesn't have that much money. Her money is used for supporting the elderly, not for her son's wedding. Susu was extremely disappointed, especially regretting getting the license in advance, and also annoyed that she was stupid. She filed for divorce with her husband after she went back.

At this time, my husband also said that he couldn't decide, and he had to ask his mother to decide. Susu was angry at that time and roared, "Don't ask, it's no use asking, I won't change my mind."

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Although her mother-in-law came to persuade Susie not to divorce, Susie has seen her mother-in-law's control over her husband and her husband's filial piety to her mother. In the long run, she will have no right to speak in this family.

Because it is obvious that her mother-in-law and husband are on the opposite side of her, now she has seen through this, and timely stop loss is the right choice. Although Susie is simple and kind, she is not stupid. She knows what she wants and what marriage should be like.

Since you have foreseen that you will not be happy in the future, it is responsible for yourself to quit early, and you can also find real happiness early.

Writer Su Xin said: "Marriage is a play. One person likes to dance lightly, but one person turns a deaf ear. You are in the play, and he is never on the same channel. How can you play it well? "

A good marriage is always smooth at the beginning, and both sides are honest with each other, open and honest, without any scheming. But those who are thoughtful and care too much about gains and losses may not really be the beneficiaries. Because when your calculation is seen through, you lose your original happiness.

Men in particular must understand that marriage is run by you and your wife. In marriage, you should not only have the initiative, but also have a sense of responsibility, instead of listening to your parents. The point is that parents' opinions are not necessarily reasonable.

At the same time, girls should not worry about getting married. Even people who love each other again must have a deep understanding of the other half's family before deciding to get married. Sometimes, just because you are careless, you will be calculated by your husband's family with poor character, and the loss will outweigh the gain.

Then as a mother-in-law, you should also understand that your son married someone else's daughter, and your family has to pay some. If you plan something from the beginning, in the end, it will ruin your son's marriage and happiness.

The future of marriage is worth looking forward to. The primary responsibility of maintaining marriage is to be honest with each other, and there can be no bad concealment or deception. It is fate that two people meet and know each other, and the rest of their lives are long. Treating each other sincerely is the best love for each other.